Ever feel that weighing sensation out of the blue? Where is it coming from? Have you considered the fact that you may be holding onto baggage that could be left behind? This is when we have to consider forgiveness. It took me a minute to realize "forgiveness" isn't for the other person, but instead it is for yourself.

Forgiving allows us to move forward within our lives so we don't have shit weighing us down or chaining us to the past. We cannot runaway from our problems. We are try to cover them up with dust, but as time passes the molding of that past can reform. So it is best to work through it and forgive so you can truly let go. Not sure how to forgive? I wasn't either especially, since I was adamant that I was "over it" and no longer affected. LMAO...my mind set me straight throughout the years with constant triggers. My reactions and behaviors were evident that the past was still lingering. SO I HAD TO GET RID OF IT!

Listen in so you can learn what "forgiveness" is and why it is so important. #forgiveness #adultingishard #healingpowers #forgive #thehardestthing

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There are several moments in life where we come to a wall or dead end. We start to question what it is we are doing with our lives. Questions that ponder are like these:

-What am I doing with my life?

-Why am I not happy?

-I don't feel like this is my full potentional?

-I want more, but how?

If you have had these moments of questioning then this episode is for you! We're in a similar boat. Now that the kids are back in school and my mind space is free of distraction, it is starting to boil up some doubts. So I challenge you to dig deep and ask yourself why are you having these doubts.

Do you not feel you're doing your best? If not, then why not? I will be joining you on this challenge and hopefully, I come out of it on top and with an answer.

We are only "stuck" if we don't try! Tune in and let me know your thoughts!

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Summer break is over and school is back in session. Who has been excited for this day to happen? Don't be shy, we won't judge! I know I was extremely ecstatic for my kids to start school. Summer break was way too long for this mama. Once they headed off to their first day, the mom guilt started settling in really hard!

Guilt for being so excited I'd be solo.

Guilt for wanting freedom.

Guilt for "not" doing enough for the kids during their summer break.

Guilt for getting frustrated too quickly & too often.

Guilt for not allowing the kids to watch movies the entire summer.

Guilt for wanting to do things for myself.

Do any of these resonate with you? If so, I need you to tune in now!

Losing a loved one is never easy. Losing a child is another level of grief in my opinion. We expect to out-live our children, so when they leave before us it is hard to comprehend. Talking about infant loss and miscarriages were always taboo, but recently our society has taken a stance on speaking out. Speaking about losing your child can be healing for yourself as well as for someone else going through the same pain. Healing is never easy after trauma, but I've learned through my own pain that talking about it helps my heart. When we do hear about loss of someone's child it typically is the mother speaking out.

This time around we have our Special Guest Kris. Kris takes us on his personal journey of losing his daughter. A listener who recently experiences losing their first child reaches out for advice. Dads have different roles than moms, but their heart and love for their child is just as strong. Listen in as Kris shares his journey with us on how he coped, how he felt, and how he is doing today after his loss.

If you or someone you love is experiencing a loss of a child, please reach out to them. Even if you don't know the words to say, just check in on them to let them know you're available.

You can also reach out to groups to talk with other parents that know your pain. Check out: https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/loss-grief-in-pregnancy-postpartum/This site helps you get connected with groups and services to assist you through this pain.

You're never alone!

A Place for You

By Michele Meleen

My child, I keep a place for you
where no one else can see.
I have this gift nobody has
the bond between you and me.

At times I cannot feel you here
and that pain won't go away.
But when I search my place for you
you're with me every day.

My child, you're not lost,
you don't need to be found.
I've got you here, in my heart
where we're forever bound.

This beautiful poem is meant to bring you hope & help you understand that you're not alone. The loss of any child is heartbreaking, but it's the moments after that can bring so much joy if we allow them. For me, the joy came from my Rainbow babies after losing Yuna. They're spontaneous, curious, loving, and full of energy. Witnessing their growth has brought so much joy and also sadness. But the love & positivity they bring outweighs the pain I experience at times missing my Yuna.

Are you in a similar boat? Are battling with missing your angel, and trying to be present for your rainbow babies? Tune in and I pray that my experience can help you towards smiling and healing.

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Have you been asked if you believe in "Love at First Sight"? How about, "Is he/she the one for you"? I have heard both and been asked both questions. I used to not believe in love at first sight, but as I get older and meet more people from all over the world, I've come to realize that this "idea" is possible. I can't speak for the masses, but when my daughter was first born, I feel in love instantly...LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT! Actually, I feel in love as soon as I knew I was pregnant & when that ultrasound picture confirmed it!

A listener asked me "how did I know Patrick was the one for me," and to be frank I didn't in the beginning. I didn't believe in this phrase. I thought to myself there was no way to really know if someone was "the one" for you because life can change people and in turn change the relationship, right? Don't play with yourself, you know people change! But as Patrick and I continue to evolve as individuals, as a couple, and as parents, I have grown in my mindset too. He is absolutely the one for me! Life has taken us around the world, life has taken us through hell and back, and life will continue to throw speedy curveballs.

When I think about life and all the unexpected & expected happenings, I think of only him being by my side & being able to stick it out. This formulated after going through some tough shit, but we made it! We may have gotten a lot of cuts and bruises, even baby crawled to the finish line, but the result was WE FREAKING MADE IT! We made it because we had fight for one another. We wanted to be by each other vs. walking away from one another.

So ask yourself, "Is the person you love the one for you"? If so, I want to hear from you. Tell us how you know they're the one for you!

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It takes a lot more than biology to make a person a dad. In my personal life, I share how much of a daddy's girl I am to the one person I am proud to call dad. Do you have a person you call dad that doesn't come from the same biological make up as you? How does that make you feel? How has it made you feel? In my experience, the biology aspect didn't much to me.

The only time it mattered to me was solidifying how much biology didn't and continues to no matter in my relationship with my dad. We have an unbreakable bond. Do you think biology plays a significant role in determining who you call dad/father?

I want to hear your take on this topic.

I want to wish a very Happy Father's Day to all the incredible humans out there wanting to be in their child/children's lives. You make the world a better place.

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