It’s not just about how we look, it’s about how we feel, howwe value ourselves, and what we think we are capable of too – which the beauty industry knows too well!

This week we are discussing all things related to howwe see ourselves, the negative filters we have and how to remove them! We discuss ‘re-blonding’, eyelashes likeescaping spiders and one-legged high jumps; biscuits just sneak in.

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

‘What does the belief that you aren’t attractive (enough) stop you from doing or allow you to avoid doing?’

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

Kathryn talks about the idea that our lives are like books, with whatever phase we happen to be in being the current chapter, not the whole story. And, no matter how dramatically or sadly one chapter might end, there’s always a new chapter to follow it - and we always get to choose whether we’re the hero or the victim of our own stories.

Kirsty, after wrongly claiming that this episode breaks with a tradition of one word episode titles, gets distracted by the idea of a fairy tale sequel called “Cinderella: the divorce years”...

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

What would you like your next (or a future) life chapter to contain? Is it more of what you have now, or something different?

Resources:

https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/your-life-story

Find us here:

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

And on social media here:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

It’s just a word, but a troublesome one – in this episode we talk about all the reasons we dislike ‘should’, or as Kirsty puts it why it sucks the joy out of life, makes us feel inadequate, and separates us from our sense of who we are and what matters to us. And biscuits make a return!

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

‘What is the main feeling you associate with the word“should”?’

Resources:

7 Levels Deep https://www.7levelsdeep.com

Blog: https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/should-is-a-dirty-word

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

Values are not something we tend to discuss with each other - but maybe we should, and today we’re doing just that!

Values are invaluable (see what we did there?!) guides in life, alerting you to what/who is right - and not right - for you, and enabling you to carve out a path that feels good to YOU.

Values can also be carefully curated tick box exercises, serving only to create an impression…especially in the corporate world, some cynics (Kirsty!) might say, but also for individuals trying to be who they think they should be…

We offer some suggestions for getting to know your values - and get a little competitive over how many different meanings we can wrap up in one word!

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

What are your personal and/or professional values - and are you meeting them?

Resources:

Kathryn’s blogs on values:

https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/knowing-your-values-why-does-it-matter

and

https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/connect-with-what-matters

Kirsty’s Know Your Values exercise: https://coachingbykirsty.co.uk/resources#more-stuff

Find us here:

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

And on social media here:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

In today’s episode we are talking about the areas in which we may want to have personal boundaries and how to communicate them (without having a personal rulebook to hand!).

We think they are needed because without them we are in danger of entering ‘people pleasing’ land or ‘I wish I wasn’t here’ land – both undesirable!

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

‘What’s your relationship with personal boundaries? Are they clear? Flexible or static? Communicated or often crossed?’

Resources:

https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/how-to-have-personal-boundaries

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

What if acceptance is not a sign of weakness or powerlessness, but is what allows you to tap into your strength and power to find positive ways of moving forward?

We contemplate the possibility that resisting what you don’t want actually keeps you stuck in it, while acceptance allows you to process events and emotions; find ways of changing what can be changed, and make choices about what can’t be changed.

The good news is that acceptance doesn’t exclude the option of throwing a massive strop: just don’t get stuck in it!

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

What helps you to stop resisting the reality of a difficult situation or feeling?

Find us here:

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

And on social media here:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

Many of us struggle with decision-making and place a lot of pressure on ourselves to make the ‘right’ one.

This week we discuss thinking traps around decisions and making choices, including that there isn’t really any such thing as a right decision!

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

‘Can you identify one (or more!) of the 6 thinking traps playing out for you?’

Resources:

Kathryn’s blogs on decision-making

https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/why-are-some-decisions-so-hard-to-make

and

https://www.kbmindfulcoaching.com/post/plugging-the-unknowns

Find us here:

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

And on social media here:

Kathryn on LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball

Kirsty on Instagram - www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

A trip to the introvert end of the introvert-extrovert spectrum, which turns out to be a lot less anti-social than you might expect, and not all the “loners” are serial killers!

Needing quiet time to recharge your energy, and space to think before you speak, can lead to introverts feeling drained and “othered” by a society geared towards extroversion - we discuss how understanding introversion and where you are on the scale can benefit you.

If you instinctively warm to the word “depeopling”, this one’s definitely for you!

Today’s question for you to mull over and which we also answer in the episode:

Regardless of how much you enjoy it, does socialising drain you or energise you? If it drains you, how do you cope with that? If it energises you, how do you cope with time alone?

Resources:

The book referenced in this episode is Susan Cain’s “Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking.”

Susan Cain’s introversion quiz: https://susancain.net/quiet-quiz/

Find us here:

Kirsty: www.coachingbykirsty.co.uk

Kathryn: www.kbmindfulcoaching.com

And on social media here:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/coachingbykirsty/

LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/kathryneball