What happens when your ego hijacks your healing? That’s exactly what this week’s episode dives into—with real, raw stories that reveal how emotional growth can get derailed by the very part of us that’s trying to protect our wounds: the Ego. I open up about how not wanting to feel like a burden led me to ignore my body’s needs—and ultimately abandon my Inner Child. The result? A full-blown crash…and a gut-level wake-up call I couldn’t ignore.

I also reflect on moments when my ego took the wheel—deflecting blame, taking things personally, and unintentionally hurting people I care about. This is what it looks like when healing gets hijacked.

But more importantly, this episode is a call to step up as the adult in your Inner Child’s life, especially when the ego wants to run the show. That may mean reaching for tools, support, or resources that were never modeled for you—and choosing to respond in new, grounded ways.

Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about recognizing when old patterns are in charge, pausing, and making a conscious choice to do things differently—even when it’s hard.

🔗 Join the Roots & Wings Inner Child Program (starts June 5th)

🧁 Shoutout to Sweet Magpie’s Bakery—go treat your inner child!

Show Notes:

• 6:07 Feeling like a burden as a child
• 7:49 Roots & Wings: Inner Child Healing program starts June 5th
• 10:36 Sweet Magpie’s Bakery shoutout
• 14:58 Stone of the Episode: Larimar - Throat Chakra Activation
• 17:09 Calling out the Ego
• 20:28 Suppressed emotions & gut health
• 30:00 How ego hijacks logic during emotional triggers
• 33:45 Low blood sugar = body & inner child screaming for care
• 40:17 Inner child tantrum vs ego deflecting blame
• 50:18 Ego taking things personally & hurting others
• 59:30 The importance of asking twice: “How are you really doing?”
• 1:04:00 Why asking for help is hard and holding space is harder
• 1:07:50 Knowledge vs emotional maturity
• 1:11:21 Why we need “training wheels” on the healing journey

Episodes Mentioned:

• #64: When Love Triggers
• #63: Unlocking Relationship Dynamics with Christie Bemis
• #30: Healing Through Darkness with Erika from Sweet Magpie's Bakery

In this VERY personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my new relationship—three months in and already pulling back layers I thought I’d healed.

After 2.5 years of healing alone—separating from a past relationship, parenting, rebuilding, and reconnecting with my inner child—I was finally at a place of peace. Or so I thought.

Then love showed up. Not the fairytale kind. The real kind. The kind that gently (and sometimes not-so-gently) holds up a mirror to the wounds I was still carrying. My abandonment wounds. My people-pleaser. The voice that still whispers, “You’ll never be good enough. You are such a burden.”

This episode is vulnerable and full of reminders that God and the Universe send us the exact people and moments we need—not to break us, but to help us break open.

You’ll hear how I learned to stop projecting my pain, take ownership of my healing in real-time, and finally understand the difference between being a burden…and being a gift.

✨ You are not too much.

✨ You are not broken.

✨ You are worthy of love that sees the real you—and stays!

Chapters

• 00:00 Embracing Vulnerability and Personal Healing
• 09:34 The Play of Life: Taking Center Stage
• 12:14 Characters in Our Healing Journey 17:23 The Power of Inner Child Work
• 24:47 Triggers as Opportunities for Growth
• 29:27 Reconnecting with the Inner Child
• 34:48 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
• 39:07 Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies
• 44:48 The Power of Asking for Help 52:18 Understanding Burdens and Gifts
• 58:07 The Role of Inner Child in Healing
• 01:02:31 Collaborative Healing and Support Systems

Links Mentioned:

• Episode Sponsored By: Believe Crew
• Roots & Wings: 4 Week Program

Episodes Mentioned:

• #63 with Christie: http://youtu.be/fiZqfLTPtSk
• #56: Why We Sabotage a Good Thing: https://youtu.be/WYzSmk6Fpq0
• #50 with Arlo: https://youtu.be/B1Bka5pVjtM

Whether you're hoping to improve your marriage, deepen your self-awareness, or finally feel safe in love, this episode meets you right where you are. Inner Child Healer Tami Schiltz joins forces with psychotherapist, sex educator, and relationship coach Christie Bemis to unpack the real reasons relationships feel stuck—and how inner child work can unlock lasting connection, communication, and emotional safety.

You’ll learn how childhood patterns sneak into adult relationships, how to identify your adaptive child responses, and why being triggered is actually an invitation to heal—not a red flag.

We also break down Christie’s SPARCS relationship assessment tool (Safety, Play/Pleasure, Attunement, Realized Dreams, Communication, and Sex/Intimacy), and the 5 losing strategies that sabotage connection: withdrawal, retaliation, controlling, needing to be right, and unbridled self-expression.

JOIN OUR UPCOMING PROGRAM:

• 🌱 Roots & Wings: Healing Your Past, Empowering Your Future (4-week experience)
• 📝 Free 10-Point Inner Child Healing Checklist
• 🌐 Connect with Christie Bemis
• 🌐 Connect with Tami Schiltz

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Vulnerability in Conversations
• 05:05 The Importance of Safety in Relationships
• 08:00 Key Elements of Healthy Relationships
• 10:45 Understanding Couples Therapy Dynamics
• 13:33 The Role of Inner Child Work
• 15:56 Navigating Triggers in Relationships
• 18:48 The Adaptive Child and Relationship Dynamics
• 22:07 Communication and Emotional Safety
• 24:37 Compassion and Understanding in Relationships
• 27:44 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships
• 32:32 Understanding Safety and Sensitivity
• 35:46 The Impact of Gaslighting on Relationships
• 40:07 Navigating Emotional Safety in Relationships
• 43:49 The Importance of Inner Child Work
• 48:16 Finding Motivation for Inner Child Healing
• 51:36 Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
• 55:14 Embracing Sexuality and Aliveness
• 01:00:44 Creating Meaningful Conversations

Erika and I first crossed paths at the gym, but our real connection came through shared soul work—intuition, signs, healing, and the drive to live life on purpose. In this episode, we dive into Erika’s journey from gym goals to soul goals, and how bodybuilding became a gateway to profound healing (inner child healing)!

Expect honesty, laughter, and spiritual realness as they break down self-prioritization, ego work, the mental health side of fitness, AND the behind-the-scenes of hosting a podcast (she’s the heart behind My Fit Tribe)!

This conversation is a reminder that healing doesn’t have to look one way, and honoring your journey (and your body) is one of the bravest things you can do.

If this episode speaks to you, please DOWNLOAD, share, subscribe, or consider supporting the podcast so we can keep doing this work. Join the Tami Talks Patreon.

Want in on some of this shake goodness that has been fueling Tami's body and muscles for the last 10 years?! Here you go! Reach out if you want some recommendations!!

My Fit Tribe:

• Spotify
• Apple Podcast
• Instagram
• Facebook
• Website

Show Notes: 00:00 – How We Met: From gym connection to soul sisters 16:48 – Spiritual awakenings & trusting the inner nudge 20:00 – Erika’s entry into bodybuilding & what it revealed 22:48 – Challenges behind the scenes of transformation 25:49 – The art of self-prioritization and keeping promises to yourself 28:41 – Navigating relationships during big personal shifts 31:59 – Purpose isn't found, it's built 34:40 – Building ‘My Fit Tribe’ and why community is everything 37:45 – Fitness as a tool for mental clarity & emotional release 41:03 – The power of saying yes to change 51:50 – Rewriting gym anxiety & taking up space 55:12 – When spirituality meets the squat rack 56:57 – Recognizing and moving through distractions and fear 01:01:24 – Intuition, signs, and embracing spiritual gifts 01:06:40 – What it means to grow with grace 01:12:00 – Celebrating the collective rise of women 01:16:49 – The mission behind Erika’s podcast: My Fit Tribe

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode 61 (Brittany)
• Episode 56 (Self-Sabotage)
• Episode 47: (Let Them)
• Episode 46: (Keith - Mental Mountains Project)

If you’re somewhere between breaking down and breaking through—this episode is for you!

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami sits down with her Bestie and Soul Sister, Brittany, to explore the raw, unfiltered journey of emotional growth, midlife transitions, and learning to love our mess. From a dietitian who needed to reset her own health to a counselor who realized she needed therapy, this episode dives into the heart of what it means to release guilt and shame around our stories. Together, Tami and Brittany unpack the emotional layers of midlife "crisis" (or awakening), the freedom in vulnerability, and how true healing begins when we stop trying to fix everything and start feeling everything.

They discuss how to process anger, redefine success, support other women without feeling like a burden, and hold space without becoming the “fixer.” The episode also explores spiritual signs, intuitive nudges, and the importance of safe spaces where hard conversations aren’t just normalized—they’re necessary.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Connection
• 07:03 The Importance of Safe Spaces in Relationships
• 11:05 Releasing guilt + shame around our stories
• 12:57 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
• 15:53 Anger, midlife crisis & redirecting your life
• 18:58 Finding Joy Beyond Caregiving
• 19:24 Redefining success & embracing your own timeline
• 24:47 Breaking the Cycle of Shame and Abandonment
• 30:45 Spiritual Connections and Normalizing Vulnerability
• 36:54 Navigating Emotions and Intuition
• 44:32 Understanding Triggers and Communication
• 47:09 Holding space vs. Fixing
• 52:25 Learning from Missteps and Guilt
• 55:03 Breaking shame cycles around our bodies
• 57:49 Embracing the Messiness of Life

Whether you're deep in self-discovery, holding heavy emotions, or just trying to figure things out—this one's for you.

Episodes Mentioned:

• Jamie & Kevin: Episode #57
• Andrew Episode: Episode #42

Healing doesn’t show up in big, perfect moments — it’s in the small shifts we almost miss. This week, Tami shares 5 signs you're truly growing, how she prepared herself to feel ALL the feels after her divorce was finalized, plus the story of how a donkey sign, an accidental "ass moment," and her daughter's frustration turned into a real-life lesson in slowing down and repairing with love.

Whether you're parenting, navigating relationships, or working on your own healing and growth, these non-scale victories show you're changing cycles for yourself — and for those around you.

If you've ever wondered, "Am I actually healing?" — this conversation is for you.

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode #4: Your Inner Child is Blocking Your Weight Loss
• Episode #43: Sabotage to Self-Love: Resolutions that Empower, Not Restrict
• Episode 58: From Childhood Trauma to Iron Will

Products I Love & Mention:

• Hiya Kid's Multivitamins
• Grounding Mat
  • Awesome info on the benefits of Grounding

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction to Healing Journey
• 08:12 Recognizing Signs of Healing
• 12:10 Top Signs You Are Healing
• 14:33 Personal Reflections on Divorce and Healing
• 17:47 Embracing Emotions
• 23:08 Choosing Curiosity Over Judgment
• 26:13 The Arrow Analogy: Trusting the Process
• 31:27 Finding Wholeness in Healing
• 36:22 Celebrating Small Victories
• 39:13 Lessons from Children
• 45:34 The Importance of Presence
• 48:21 Navigating Conflict and Apologies
• 51:07 Understanding Victim Mentality
• 54:12 Healing Conversations with Children
• 56:35 Siblings and Emotional Intelligence
• 01:00:58 The Importance of Emotional Regulation
• 01:06:08 Embracing a Range of Emotions
• 01:10:22 Trusting Support in Relationships
• 01:16:50 Self-Worth and Inner Healing

What if disappointing others didn’t mean losing love?

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami explores the fear of disappointing others—and how it often stems from childhood experiences and a deep belief that love is conditional and can easily be taken away.

From childhood trauma to adult relationships, Tami explores how this fear often roots itself in the belief that disappointment equals a withdrawal of love. Through honest reflections and stories, she sheds light on how people-pleasing behaviors develop, how the ego tries to protect us, and why setting boundaries can feel so emotionally risky.

This episode is an invitation to reconnect with your inner child, speak your truth without guilt, and embrace the idea that disappointing others doesn't make you unlovable—it makes you human.

✨ Ready to explore where this fear might be showing up in your life? Schedule a FREE Discovery Call at www.unscriptedhealingwi.com

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Gratitude
• 01:53 Exploring the Fear of Disappointment
• 04:00 Childhood Roots of Fear
• 06:59 People-Pleasing and Its Consequences
• 10:01 Setting Boundaries and Speaking Up
• 12:53 The Impact of Disappointment on Relationships
• 15:59 Ego and Self-Abandonment
• 19:00 Navigating Emotional Discomfort
• 21:49 The Importance of Clear Communication
• 24:57 Reconnecting with the Inner Child
• 27:51 Practicing Disappointment for Growth
• 30:53 Facing Major Life Decisions
• 34:04 Healing Generational Patterns
• 36:50 Conclusion and Call to Action

*Trigger Warning: There is mention of domestic abuse in this episode.

Episode #58: In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I sit down with my dear friend Wendy C. Wilson—speaker, coach, and author of Iron Will—to talk about the long road from childhood trauma to deep healing, purpose, and emotional freedom.

Wendy shares how witnessing abuse as a child, walking on eggshells, and struggling with self-worth shaped everything from her relationships to how she showed up at work. We dive into how people-pleasing, silence, and survival mode can follow us into adulthood—and how healing those inner wounds changes everything.

This conversation is raw, real, and full of wisdom about breaking cycles, reclaiming your voice, and trusting the timing of your purpose. If you’ve ever felt like you’re still waiting for clarity, this one will hit home.

You can purchase Wendy's Book: Iron Will on Amazon

Wendy's Website: https://wendycwilson.com/

Show Note:

• 00:00 Introduction and Meeting Wendy
• 05:08 Turning Pain into Purpose
• 09:12 Childhood Trauma and Its Impact
• 19:13 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse
• 25:25 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Building Confidence
• 33:53 The Power of Personal Development and Self-Awareness
• 44:45 Permission to Feel and Process Emotions
• 50:55 Finding Purpose Through Pain
• 59:43 The Impact of Childhood Experiences
• 01:06:03 Healing Generational Wounds
• 01:10:53 The Power of Kindness and Gratitude
• 01:16:21 Coaching and Empowering Others