What happens when your ego hijacks your healing? That’s exactly what this week’s episode dives into—with real, raw stories that reveal how emotional growth can get derailed by the very part of us that’s trying to protect our wounds: the Ego. I open up about how not wanting to feel like a burden led me to ignore my body’s needs—and ultimately abandon my Inner Child. The result? A full-blown crash…and a gut-level wake-up call I couldn’t ignore.

I also reflect on moments when my ego took the wheel—deflecting blame, taking things personally, and unintentionally hurting people I care about. This is what it looks like when healing gets hijacked.

But more importantly, this episode is a call to step up as the adult in your Inner Child’s life, especially when the ego wants to run the show. That may mean reaching for tools, support, or resources that were never modeled for you—and choosing to respond in new, grounded ways.

Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about recognizing when old patterns are in charge, pausing, and making a conscious choice to do things differently—even when it’s hard.

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Show Notes:

• 6:07 Feeling like a burden as a child
• 7:49 Roots & Wings: Inner Child Healing program starts June 5th
• 10:36 Sweet Magpie’s Bakery shoutout
• 14:58 Stone of the Episode: Larimar - Throat Chakra Activation
• 17:09 Calling out the Ego
• 20:28 Suppressed emotions & gut health
• 30:00 How ego hijacks logic during emotional triggers
• 33:45 Low blood sugar = body & inner child screaming for care
• 40:17 Inner child tantrum vs ego deflecting blame
• 50:18 Ego taking things personally & hurting others
• 59:30 The importance of asking twice: “How are you really doing?”
• 1:04:00 Why asking for help is hard and holding space is harder
• 1:07:50 Knowledge vs emotional maturity
• 1:11:21 Why we need “training wheels” on the healing journey

Episodes Mentioned:

• #64: When Love Triggers
• #63: Unlocking Relationship Dynamics with Christie Bemis
• #30: Healing Through Darkness with Erika from Sweet Magpie's Bakery

In this VERY personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my new relationship—three months in and already pulling back layers I thought I’d healed.

After 2.5 years of healing alone—separating from a past relationship, parenting, rebuilding, and reconnecting with my inner child—I was finally at a place of peace. Or so I thought.

Then love showed up. Not the fairytale kind. The real kind. The kind that gently (and sometimes not-so-gently) holds up a mirror to the wounds I was still carrying. My abandonment wounds. My people-pleaser. The voice that still whispers, “You’ll never be good enough. You are such a burden.”

This episode is vulnerable and full of reminders that God and the Universe send us the exact people and moments we need—not to break us, but to help us break open.

You’ll hear how I learned to stop projecting my pain, take ownership of my healing in real-time, and finally understand the difference between being a burden…and being a gift.

✨ You are not too much.

✨ You are not broken.

✨ You are worthy of love that sees the real you—and stays!

Chapters

• 00:00 Embracing Vulnerability and Personal Healing
• 09:34 The Play of Life: Taking Center Stage
• 12:14 Characters in Our Healing Journey 17:23 The Power of Inner Child Work
• 24:47 Triggers as Opportunities for Growth
• 29:27 Reconnecting with the Inner Child
• 34:48 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
• 39:07 Embracing Masculine and Feminine Energies
• 44:48 The Power of Asking for Help 52:18 Understanding Burdens and Gifts
• 58:07 The Role of Inner Child in Healing
• 01:02:31 Collaborative Healing and Support Systems

Links Mentioned:

• Episode Sponsored By: Believe Crew
• Roots & Wings: 4 Week Program

Episodes Mentioned:

• #63 with Christie: http://youtu.be/fiZqfLTPtSk
• #56: Why We Sabotage a Good Thing: https://youtu.be/WYzSmk6Fpq0
• #50 with Arlo: https://youtu.be/B1Bka5pVjtM

Whether you're hoping to improve your marriage, deepen your self-awareness, or finally feel safe in love, this episode meets you right where you are. Inner Child Healer Tami Schiltz joins forces with psychotherapist, sex educator, and relationship coach Christie Bemis to unpack the real reasons relationships feel stuck—and how inner child work can unlock lasting connection, communication, and emotional safety.

You’ll learn how childhood patterns sneak into adult relationships, how to identify your adaptive child responses, and why being triggered is actually an invitation to heal—not a red flag.

We also break down Christie’s SPARCS relationship assessment tool (Safety, Play/Pleasure, Attunement, Realized Dreams, Communication, and Sex/Intimacy), and the 5 losing strategies that sabotage connection: withdrawal, retaliation, controlling, needing to be right, and unbridled self-expression.

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Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Vulnerability in Conversations
• 05:05 The Importance of Safety in Relationships
• 08:00 Key Elements of Healthy Relationships
• 10:45 Understanding Couples Therapy Dynamics
• 13:33 The Role of Inner Child Work
• 15:56 Navigating Triggers in Relationships
• 18:48 The Adaptive Child and Relationship Dynamics
• 22:07 Communication and Emotional Safety
• 24:37 Compassion and Understanding in Relationships
• 27:44 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships
• 32:32 Understanding Safety and Sensitivity
• 35:46 The Impact of Gaslighting on Relationships
• 40:07 Navigating Emotional Safety in Relationships
• 43:49 The Importance of Inner Child Work
• 48:16 Finding Motivation for Inner Child Healing
• 51:36 Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
• 55:14 Embracing Sexuality and Aliveness
• 01:00:44 Creating Meaningful Conversations