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  • Ep 287 -- The question that could be destroying your relationships "Why?"

    Ep 287 -- The question that could be destroying your relationships "Why?"
    2025/07/22

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    In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts delve into the problematic nature of judgmental 'why' questions in relationships. They discuss how such questions, even when asked with genuine curiosity, can come across as accusatory and trigger defensive reactions. The episode explores the significance of tone, timing, and past traumas in how people respond to 'why' questions. The hosts provide actionable advice on reframing these questions to promote understanding and emotional safety, offering alternative ways to communicate that build connection rather than conflict. The insights shared are applicable to various relationships, including marriage, parenting, and self-talk. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 01:11 The Impact of Judgmental 'Why' Questions 05:13 Key Factors: Tone, Timing, and Trauma Echoes 07:10 Alternatives to 'Why' Questions 11:40 Building New Communication Habits 14:51 Recap and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    17 分
  • Ep 286 - Transforming Anxiety into Excitement: Understanding and Managing Your Physiological Responses

    Ep 286 - Transforming Anxiety into Excitement: Understanding and Managing Your Physiological Responses
    2025/07/17

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    In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts delve into the phenomenon of experiencing a racing, jittery feeling and interpreting it as either excitement or anxiety. They discuss the physiological responses driven by the sympathetic nervous system and provide a self-check tool to help listeners distinguish between excitement and fear. The episode covers the role of perspective and inputs in shaping these feelings and offers techniques to reframe negative thoughts, including the concept of neuroplastic shift. The hosts conclude with a five-question self-check tool to help listeners rework their anxiety into excitement. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:07 Understanding the Racing Jittery Feeling 00:50 The Science Behind the Physiological Surge 01:36 Interpreting Excitement vs. Anxiety 03:19 The Role of Perspective and Inputs 05:11 Side-by-Side Comparison: Excitement vs. Anxiety 07:33 Reframing Anxiety into Excitement 10:17 Five Question Self-Check Tool 12:04 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    13 分
  • Ep 285 - Navigating Conflict Styles in Relationships

    Ep 285 - Navigating Conflict Styles in Relationships
    2025/07/15

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    In this episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, hosts Brian and Ruth discuss conflict styles in relationships and how they can either drive couples apart or bring them closer together. They explore the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, which identifies five primary conflict styles: avoiding, accommodating, competing, compromising, and collaborating. Each style is examined in detail, including its root causes, physiological responses, strengths, and pitfalls. The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding one's own conflict style and that of their partner to improve communication and resolve conflicts effectively. Practical tools and strategies are shared to help listeners shift towards healthier conflict resolution patterns, ultimately fostering deeper connections in their relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Conflict Styles 00:26 Understanding the Thomas Kilman Conflict Mode Instrument 02:53 Avoiding Conflict: Pros and Cons 07:04 Accommodating Conflict: Balancing Cooperation and Assertiveness 09:56 Competing Conflict: The Win-Lose Approach 13:09 Compromising Conflict: Finding Middle Ground 16:10 Collaborating Conflict: Achieving Win-Win Solutions 19:23 Identifying Your Conflict Style 20:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    21 分
  • Ep 284 - Harnessing the Power of the Pygmalion Effect: Elevate Expectations, Elevate Performance

    Ep 284 - Harnessing the Power of the Pygmalion Effect: Elevate Expectations, Elevate Performance
    2025/07/11

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    In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the Pygmalion Effect—an intriguing phenomenon where higher expectations can enhance performance and growth. They discuss its origins, mechanics, and applicability in various contexts such as education, parenting, marriage, and self-improvement. Personal anecdotes and actionable strategies are shared to help listeners leverage this principle effectively in their own lives. Key emphasis is placed on balancing high expectations with grace and realistic perspectives to foster positive outcomes and self-fulfilling prophecies. 00:00 Introduction to the Pygmalion Effect 00:32 Origins and Mechanics of the Pygmalion Effect 01:25 Personal Story: Rising to Expectations 02:34 Parental Perspectives on Expectations 05:30 Balancing High Expectations with Grace 06:07 Applications in Daily Life 18:11 Strategies to Leverage the Pygmalion Effect 21:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    22 分
  • Ep 283 - Navigating Negativity: Why Bad Feels Bigger

    Ep 283 - Navigating Negativity: Why Bad Feels Bigger
    2025/07/09

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    In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the concept of negativity bias, which is the tendency to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. They discuss the evolutionary roots of this bias, its impact on our emotional well-being, and how it manifests in self-talk, relationships, and stress. The hosts then provide five practical tools to help shift towards a more balanced perspective: maintaining a three-to-one positivity ratio, implementing a bad day buffer ritual, practicing gratitude, asking reframing questions, and creating a positive data bank. These strategies aim to retrain the brain and improve overall mental health. 00:00 Introduction to Negativity Bias 01:02 The Science Behind Negativity Bias 02:22 Negativity Bias in Daily Life 04:53 Impact on Relationships 11:49 Tools to Combat Negativity Bias 17:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    19 分
  • Ep 282 - Transforming Parenting: The Power of Empathy, Expectations, and Empowerment

    Ep 282 - Transforming Parenting: The Power of Empathy, Expectations, and Empowerment
    2025/07/03

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    In this episode of Mr. Services Therapy podcast, listeners are introduced to a simple yet effective parenting tool called the 'Three E's': empathize, expect, and empower. The hosts discuss how to transform daily power struggles with children into moments of connection by using empathy, setting clear expectations, and empowering children with choices. They provide detailed examples of how to implement each step in various scenarios, such as daily routines and homework time. Emphasizing empathy helps children feel seen, clear expectations eliminate confusion, and providing choices fosters autonomy and cooperation.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    13 分
  • Ep 281 - Raising Kids Who Obey with Joy

    Ep 281 - Raising Kids Who Obey with Joy
    2025/07/01

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    In this episode, the we delve into the crucial topic of raising children who obey with a joyful heart, rather than begrudging compliance. They discuss the importance of attitude in fostering respect, self-control, and empathy in children. By addressing behaviors consistently and early, parents can minimize resentment and conflict, creating a harmonious home environment. The episode highlights the mantra 'right away, all the way, with a joyful heart,' and offers practical advice on encouraging compliance without arguments, completing tasks fully, and responding positively. The discussion also emphasizes the role of parents in modeling calm behavior and the significance of emotional contagion.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    19 分
  • Ep 180 - Navigating Emotional Flooding: Regain Control and Heal

    Ep 180 - Navigating Emotional Flooding: Regain Control and Heal
    2025/06/26

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    Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Today, Tim and Ruth Olson, experienced marriage and family therapists specializing in trauma, explore the concept of emotional flooding - a state of overwhelming emotion where the logical brain takes a backseat. This episode is designed to help listeners recognize, understand, and manage the intense emotional responses often referred to as the 'amygdala hijack.'

    The Olsons dive deep into the science behind emotional flooding, explaining how past trauma can trigger the body's survival mode, characterized by the fight-flight-freeze-or-fawn response. They discuss how the brain, despite knowing situations logically, often misinterprets non-threatening scenarios as danger due to past experiences.

    Listeners will learn practical strategies for calming the nervous system, such as grounding techniques, deep breathing, and using the 5-4-3-2-1 method to bring oneself back to the present. The Olsons also cover the importance of stepping away and managing emotional states before attempting to resolve conflicts.

    If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your own emotions or noticed how they impact your relationships, this episode is filled with valuable insights on transforming emotional flooding into an opportunity for growth and understanding. Join the journey to heal from the past, foster better communication, and develop deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
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    13 分