This episode is all about the heartbreak spiral—those messy, painful weeks after a breakup when nothing feels real and you're not sure how to be a person again.

We talk about:

• - Why breakups hit like emotional whiplash and why it’s okay to just not be okay

• - The loop of “what did I do wrong?” and how to stop feeding it

• - How to support a friend in heartbreak without rushing their healing or offering advice they didn’t ask for

• - The moment when self-love looks like crying on the floor with sad music, and why that’s still healing

• - What creative expression can unlock when you're heartbroken and cracked open

• - Why you can’t always trust your thoughts in the middle of grief (and who to borrow clarity from)

• - How this pain can actually lead you to a more honest version of yourself, if you let it

• This one’s for anyone sitting in the quiet after everything changed, whether you're grieving a person, a future, or the version of yourself you thought you’d be with them. You’re not too much, too broken, or too behind. You’re just in it. And that’s enough.

  
  

  Chapters:(00:00) When the Breakup Hits: Shock, Withdrawal & Grief(03:00) All the Triggers: Abandonment, Shame, and Blame(06:00) Why Your Thoughts Might Be Lying to You(09:30) The Inner Critic After Loss(13:00) Holding Space Without Fixing(15:00) Using Sadness as a Creative Spark(17:00) Self-Care That Doesn’t Feel Like Self-Care Yet(20:00) Asking for What You Actually Need(22:00) Letting the Heartbreak Change You

  
  

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In this episode, we explore the messy middle of healing, dating, and staying true to yourself, especially when the urge to help others starts to blur your own boundaries.

We talk about:

- What You on Netflix reveals about narcissistic dynamics and how love can be weaponized

- Why being seen can feel both healing and triggering, and what to do when you don’t feel it in your relationships

- The line between people-pleasing and compassion, and how to tell when you’re crossing it

- A surprisingly deep conversation about judgment, and how it's often a signal from a part of you trying to keep you safe

- How media like The 100, Black Mirror, and Mr. Robot reflect back our collective spiritual growth

- The slow, uncomfortable practice of choosing what’s aligned for you, especially when it means disappointing someone else

This episode is for anyone navigating the in-between: holding space for your own growth while figuring out how to relate to others with more honesty, self-trust, and love. If you’ve ever struggled to choose yourself without guilt, this one’s for you.

Chapters:

(00:00) Intro & Netflix’s You: Narcissism and the Mind of Joe Goldberg

(02:45) Weaponized Love and the Illusion of Being Seen

(05:58) Unpacking Transactional Love vs. Overflowing Self-Worth

(09:12) Boundaries, People-Pleasing, and the Urge to Help

(12:27) Parts Work on Judgment: Protection vs. Shame

(15:36) A Bad Date, Compassion Fatigue & Choosing Alignment

(19:02) Noticing the Shift: How One Draining Date Changes Everything

(21:44) Feeling Seen in Real-Time and Why It’s So Rare

(24:11) The Mirror of Relationships: Using Conflict for Growth

(28:32) TV as Therapy: The 100, Black Mirror, and the Rise of Conscious Storytelling

(32:59) Receiving Love Without Expectation: The Challenge of True Support

(36:10) Abandonment Wounds, Emotional Safety & Self-Expression

(40:04) Why We Judge: Parts Work, Projection, and Inner Criticism

(44:23) Spiritual Reflection: The Hero’s Journey and the Loop of Worth

(49:17) Soul Contracts, Synchronicity, and Why Some Connections Stick

(52:33) Gratitude, Growth, and Closing Reflections

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Ever left a therapy session feeling hopeless, like you’re the problem, and no one’s really telling you how to change it?

In this episode, Rachel and Jonathan open up about their frustrations with traditional talk therapy and the feeling that insight alone often isn’t enough to truly heal. What unfolds is a powerful conversation about two very different perspectives on trauma: Rachel speaks from the emotional body - the felt experience of pain, abandonment, and healing through embracing the stories and identities. Jonathan comes from the angle of false identities - how our subconscious programming keeps us stuck in cycles we never chose and how to rewire our subconscious to recognize the "false" identities and choose differently.

Their views don’t always align, and that’s the point. This episode unpacks the tension between feeling your way through pain and reframing the stories that define you. It’s honest, challenging, and yes, maybe even a little polarizing.

If you’ve ever wondered why therapy hasn’t fully helped or what else might be out there, this one’s for you.

Chapters:

(00:00) – Opening Reflection

(00:47) – Why Talk Therapy Can Fall Short

(01:26) – The "Low Vibe" Debate

(02:48) – Parent Love or Parent Programming?

(04:15) – The Danger of Over-Identifying with the Why

(06:45) – Validation vs. Reframing

(11:00) – Subconscious Programming and Identity

(18:00) – Language Matters: Abandoned vs. Left

(23:00) – Owning the Journey

In this episode, we sit down to reflect on Aubrey Marcus’s recent podcast featuring his wife Vylana, their partner Alana, and a rabbi who introduces the concept of “radical monogamy.” It’s a vulnerable conversation on love, commitment, and non-traditional relationship dynamics and it stirred a lot in both of us.

We explore:

- How we personally experience monogamy, choice, and emotional safety

- What jealousy has taught us, and the difference between healing through love vs. stretching beyond your capacity

- The complex balance between freedom and commitment

- And how past wounds can influence the partnerships we accept or seek

We share our honest thoughts, personal stories, and the questions that surfaced for us around power dynamics, spiritual language, and emotional truth in intimate relationships.

Ultimately, this is a conversation about love in all its forms and how to stay rooted in your own values while staying open to different paths.

Chapters

(00:00) – Initial Impressions of the Aubrey Marcus Episode

(02:12) – Respect vs. Discomfort in Polyamorous Relationships

(04:20) – Aubrey’s “Download” in Egypt: Divine or Delusion?

(05:44) – Emotional Systems and Masculine Capacity in Poly

(08:01) – Power Dynamics, Authenticity, and the Language of Love

(11:54) – The Cost of Subservience to Love

(13:57) – Choosing One: The Sacredness of Monogamy

(15:13) – Jealousy, Triggers, and Healing in Unusual Containers

(16:45) – Polyamory, Fear of Commitment, and Spiritual Spin

(18:11) – Radical Honesty and the Capacity to Face Shadows

(19:16) – True Love as Devotion, Not Unlimited Freedom

(21:00) – Cultural Constructs, Emotional Skill, and the Marriage “Problem”

(22:40) – Why Redefining Monogamy Misses the Point

(23:52) – Primal Community, Historical Sharing, and Relationship Evolution

(26:25) – Power, Parenting, and the Tribe Model

(28:10) – Navigating Codependence and Hyper-Independence

(30:02) – What Makes Commitment Meaningful?

(32:24) – Sexual Openness vs. Emotional Loyalty

(35:45) – Emotional Risk in Bi and Open Relationships

(38:06) – Monogamy, Control, and the Illusion of Security

(41:00) – Trauma Bonds and the Illusion of Emotional Safety

(43:12) – Savior Complexes and Emotional Rollercoasters

(46:00) – Changing Others vs. Changing Ourselves

(48:34) – Evolving Desires and Emotional Maturity

(50:35) – Compersion, Jealousy, and Emotional Boundaries

(51:32) – Final Reflections: Honoring the Conversation, Not Condemning the People

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Ever find yourself asking: Is this still right for me?
In this episode, we go deep into the kinds of crossroads that show up in healing, creative, and spiritual life and how to know when it’s time to let something (or someone) go.

We talk about:

• Imposter syndrome and why it creeps in even when you're doing meaningful work

• The moment you realize teaching isn’t about having all the answers - it’s just about sharing what’s moved you

• Why certain relationships, clients, or projects drain your peace and what to do about it

• How to tell the difference between a spiritual test vs. a new opportunity to show up as your evolved self

• The power of choosing your values over comfort, and why that choice can feel so disorienting at first

• A practical way to check who's "sitting at the head of the table" when you're making a tough decision

This conversation is about naming what’s real when you’re in it. If you’re navigating self-doubt, setting boundaries, or trying to stay aligned with who you’re becoming… this one’s for you.

Chapters:

(00:00) Introduction to the Concept of Vessels

(00:53) Upcoming Health Optimization Summit

(01:52) Passover and Its Significance

(03:27) Spiritual Insights on Passover

(08:02) Dealing with Imposter Syndrome

(14:58) The Importance of Following Your Intuition

(20:10) Navigating Client Relationships

(21:32) Balancing Values in Dating

(23:00) Personal Growth and Self-Reflection

(25:13) The Spiral of Life's Challenges

(28:13) Embracing Change and Courage

(29:22) Setting Boundaries and Self-Worth

(33:05) Making Empowered Decisions

(39:31) Understanding Inner Dynamics

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What happens when spiritually curious podcast hosts, and a mathematically grounded comedian explore the biggest questions of existence in the same room?

In this episode, we go into the tension between meaning and meaninglessness, belief and logic, comedy and consciousness. With humor as the gateway, the conversation weaves through spiritual laws, scientific rigor and personal truth, revealing how each of us makes peace with the uncertainty of it all.

We explore the idea that the outer world is a mirror of our inner state, the role of belief in shaping reality, the paradox of objective truth and the beauty of math as a language of the divine. Expect laughter, deep reflections, respectful disagreement and a shared desire to make sense of what it means to live authentically, even if life itself resists definition.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re floating between "there has to be more" and "this might be all there is," this conversation is your mirror.

Nuggets:

(00:00) Embracing Self-Love and Comedy

(01:12) The Intersection of Spirituality and Consciousness

(02:49) Debating the Meaning of Life

(06:42) The Beauty and Truth of Mathematics

(15:33) Jewish Identity and Cultural Reflections

(17:12) Navigating Modern Antisemitism

(27:48) The Israeli and American Jewish Experience

(32:30) Embracing Contradictions and Complaints

(32:48) Cultural Differences in Complaining

(33:58) The Science of Negative Thoughts

(34:58) Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Techniques

(36:14) The Power of Positive Actions and Words

(37:27) Biohacking and Emotional Frequencies

(38:46) Productivity and Self-Compassion

(44:28) Facing Procrastination and Self-Doubt

(48:09) The Importance of Self-Love and Acceptance

(01:03:14) Closing Thoughts and Upcoming Events

Who’se Matthew Broussard

Matthew Broussard is a disgraced financial analyst forced into stand up comedy. The byproduct of a Cajun chemist and Jewish microbiologist, he holds a degree in computational mathematics he always manages to bring up (just did it!) and is fully aware of how douchey he looks. His comedy is heady, self-effacing, and weirdly… educational? He’s performed on the Tonight Show, Conan, Jeff Ross Presents Roast Battle, the Comedy Central Half Hour, and some stuff with MTV2 he doesn’t like to talk about. You can catch him in The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, The League, The Mindy Project, and alongside Billy Crystal and Tiffany Haddish in the film Here Today. He is the creator of the webcomic and puzzle app, Monday Punday.

Matthew’s Links

https://www.youtube.com/@mondaypunday

instagram.com/mondaypunday

What if everything you thought you knew about relationships... was off?

In this no-BS convo, Jonathan and Rachel sit down with relationship coach and speaker Daniele Hage to unpack what’s really going on between men and women today. From unspoken traumas to the chaos of modern gender roles, no topic is off limits.

👀 Why are so many women burnt out trying to “do it all”?🧠 Why are men more lost than ever—and afraid to admit it?❤️ And how did we get so far from intimacy that actually feels safe?

Daniele doesn’t just talk about relationships—she lives it. Marriage, kids, faith, power struggles, personal healing... she’s been in the trenches. This episode is part therapy session, part reality check, and fully guaranteed to hit a nerve.

If you’ve ever felt like love today feels more like a battlefield than a bond—this one’s for you.

🎧 Hit play. And prepare to rethink a few things.

(01:00) Welcoming the Guest: Podcast Introduction

(01:15) Traditional Values in a Modern World

(03:20) Personal Journey: Marriage and Family

(17:06) Personality Types and Relationship Dynamics

(20:43) Challenges and Growth in Relationships

(37:26) The Role of Feminine and Masculine Energy

(42:57) The Struggles of Modern Relationships

(43:34) Balancing Masculine and Feminine Roles

(44:27) The Importance of Vulnerability

(47:03) Finding Value Beyond Achievements

(48:47) The Challenges of Motherhood and Career

(53:41) The Pitfalls in Relationships

(01:08:51) The Role of Compatibility in Love

(01:18:19) Final Thoughts and Farewell

Who's Daniele Hage?

Daniele Hage is a highly experienced and inspiring co-pastor, speaker, and founder of “Dynamic Traits: Bring Out the Best”. With over 30 years of co-pastoring alongside her husband Steve, Daniele has developed a deep understanding of how to encourage individuals to bring out the best in themselves and others.

Her engaging teaching style and relatable approach have made her a sought-after speaker at conferences throughout the nation. As a happily married mother of three adult children and five grandchildren, Daniele’s insights into personal and interpersonal dynamics are rooted in her own life experiences, making her an authentic and trustworthy guide for those seeking to grow and thrive.

Daniele's Links:

https://www.instagram.com/danielehage/?hl=en

https://danielehage.com/home/

https://www.facebook.com/danikhage/

https://www.youtube.com/@danielehage

Let’s be real — most people aren’t emotionally unavailable... they’re just emotionally unaware.

In this episode, we stop sugarcoating and start spotlighting the unconscious patterns running your life. If you’ve ever found yourself doom-scrolling at 2am, blowing up over “nothing,” or chasing the same dead-end relationship dynamic in a different body — it’s not bad luck. It’s unprocessed emotional programming.

We’re pulling back the curtain on:

• Why your nervous system is quietly calling the shots (and how it’s screwing up your love life)

• The black-out effect: how triggers hijack your brain and make you forget who TF you are

• What to do when your trauma response is disguised as “just being chill”

• Why ghosting hurts so much — and how to stop outsourcing your self-worth to strangers

• The actual reason you keep dating the same person in a different outfit

This is your wake-up call: if you're not tracking your triggers, they're tracking you.
And the only way out... is in.

👉 If you’re tired of self-sabotage disguised as “just how I am,” hit play. Then grab a journal. You're gonna need it.

(00:00) Understanding Triggers in Our Environment

00:44) Podcast Milestone and Guest Focus

(01:49) Triggers and Coping Mechanisms

(03:27) The Importance of Awareness and Reflection

(04:41) Practical Tools for Managing Triggers

(10:52) The Role of Relationships in Personal Growth

(14:19) Emotional Regulation and Relationship Dynamics

(24:03) The Toolbox of Emotional Regulation

(24:27) Dating Variables and Emotional Capacity

(26:12) Assessing Curiosity and Holding Space

(28:26) Authenticity in Relationships

(30:00) Navigating Friction and Triggers

(33:50) The Masks We Wear

(40:50) Setting Expectations in Relationships

(47:00) Building Resilience and Self-Love