In this heartfelt episode of the Anxiety Society podcast, host Cali Werner dives into the complexities of grief with guest Megan Jarvis, a trauma-trained psychotherapist, podcast host and author. They discuss the interplay between grief and anxiety, the importance of learning to "live with loss," and practical tools for managing grief during the holiday season. Megan shares her personal journey with grief and explains how understanding the body's response to trauma can help us navigate profound loss.

Key Points:

[0:06] - Welcome to The Anxiety Society Podcast

The mission of the podcast and welcoming Megan Jarvis for an important discussion about grief.

[0:57] - Anxious Moments of the Week

Cali and Megan reflect on their anxiety triggers, from holiday chaos to public speaking mishaps, highlighting the universal challenges of managing mental health.

[8:27] - Megan's Journey into Grief Therapy

Megan shares her personal story of childhood trauma, how it shaped her anxiety, and her eventual path to becoming a trauma therapist.

[15:00] - The Intersection of Grief and Anxiety

Insightful conversation on how grief triggers anxiety, why we react as we do, and tools like EMDR that help regulate our responses.

[34:22] - Tips for Grieving During the Holidays

Megan introduces strategies like the "Triangle of Trust" and mindfulness techniques to stay present and manage grief in emotionally charged situations.

[47:06] - Redefining the New Normal

Megan challenges cultural norms around grief and shares her vision for a more educated, compassionate approach to handling loss.

Quotable Moments:

[4:57] "If you want to know the answer to anxiety, it’s being okay with good enough." — Megan Jarvis

[34:29] "Instead of avoiding pain, ask: how can I be present for whatever comes up?" — Megan Jarvis

[47:43] "Grief isn’t about letting go; it’s learning to live with the loss." — Megan Jarvis

Links Mentioned:

- Megan Jarvis’s Website: https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/

- Grief is My Side Hustle Podcast: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grief-is-my-side-hustle/id1568936089

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4tKoHpy88JWZEhPz0gREkY

- Book: Can Anyone Tell Me? Essential Questions About Grief and Loss by Megan Jarvis

https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/

Grief is a universal experience that often intersects with anxiety, and this episode provides practical tools and validation for those navigating loss. As you listen, remember that there's no "right way" to grieve—it’s about showing up for yourself and others with compassion and understanding.

Stay connected with us: Subscribe, leave a review, and follow us on Instagram @TheAnxietySocietyPod. Together, we can transform the conversation around anxiety and grief.

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.

In this episode of The Anxiety Society Podcast, Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner share their personal journeys with anxiety and how it has shaped their professional paths. The duo dive into the roots of anxiety, societal impacts, and transformative strategies to regain control over our lives. This raw, unfiltered conversation aims to empower listeners to challenge their perceptions of anxiety and take steps toward freedom and self-discovery.

Key Points:

[0:00] - Welcome to The Anxiety Society Podcast

Dr. McConville and Carly Werner talk about the podcast, sharing their mission to explore anxiety in all its facets and offer fresh perspectives on overcoming it.

[0:06] - The Anxiety Epidemic

A discussion on how anxiety became such a defining part of modern society and how it continues to grow.

[0:33] - Real, Raw, and Unfiltered

The hosts outline their vision for a podcast that pushes boundaries, embraces discomfort, and sparks meaningful change in how we view anxiety.

[5:15] - The Personal Side of Anxiety

Both hosts share their personal journeys with anxiety, offering relatable and heartfelt stories to connect with listeners.

[10:45] - Anxiety’s Role in Society

An exploration of how societal pressures, social media, and cultural norms contribute to heightened anxiety levels.

[15:30] - Redefining the Conversation

The importance of shifting the narrative around anxiety from shame and stigma to one of empowerment and understanding.

[19:50] - Practical Tools for Managing Anxiety

Actionable tips and strategies to help listeners reduce anxiety in their everyday lives.

[22:10] - The Power of Community

How building a supportive network can create a safe space for open dialogue and shared healing.

[25:45] - Breaking the Cycle

A deep dive into how individuals and society as a whole can stop perpetuating anxiety and start creating change.

[29:57] - Stay Connected

Resources and ways to engage with The Anxiety Society Podcast community are shared, including their website and Instagram.

Quotable Moments:

[10:45] “Anxiety thrives in silence. The more we talk about it, the less power it has over us.” - Cali Werner

[19:50] “Managing anxiety isn’t about eliminating it; it’s about learning to live with it and thrive despite it.” - Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale

[25:45] “Breaking the cycle of anxiety begins with challenging the stories we tell ourselves.” - Cali Werner

Links Mentioned:

- The Anxiety Society Podcast Website: https://www.anxietysocietypodcast.com

- Instagram: @theanxietysocietypod: https://www.instagram.com/theanxietysocietypod

Follow us at anxietysocietypodcast.com for continued insights, resources, and support. Subscribe to the podcast, leave a review, and follow them on social media to stay connected and part of this journey to redefine the conversation around anxiety.

In this episode, Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner tackle the ways loved ones can unintentionally fuel anxiety by accommodating it. They delve into practical, evidence-based strategies for reducing anxiety-supportive behaviors, enabling both individuals and their families to regain control and live more fully. The hosts share personal stories and expert advice on navigating common struggles like reassurance-seeking, understanding anxiety's ego-dystonic nature, and how to communicate boundaries. Whether you’re managing anxiety or supporting someone who is, this episode offers invaluable insight into creating a balanced and empowered life.

 Key Points:

- [0:06] - Introduction and Purpose of The Anxiety Society

Dr. Elizabeth and Cali introduce the show, focusing on anxiety’s societal impact and the journey to change our relationship with it.

- [9:30] - Debunking the “Understanding” Myth

They explain why it’s unnecessary—and even unhelpful—for loved ones to fully understand anxiety in order to support someone effectively.

- [11:59] - Accommodating Behaviors: Help or Harm?

Insight on how accommodating someone’s anxiety can reinforce it, often sending unintended messages of fragility and incapacity.

- [18:19] - Setting Supportive Boundaries

Discussion on setting healthy, pre-planned boundaries, and how to communicate these changes in a calm, supportive way.

- [27:15] - Goal-Oriented Accommodations

Examples of how to use temporary, goal-oriented accommodations to gradually build resilience without reinforcing anxious behaviors.

- [35:45] - Living by Values, Not Anxiety

Advice on aligning daily actions with personal values instead of anxiety-driven responses to create meaningful change.

Quotable Moments:

- [9:00] - "The goal isn’t for loved ones to ‘get’ your anxiety—it’s for you to trust that you can handle it." — Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale

- [18:55] - "When we support without enabling, we show anxiety who’s really in charge." — Cali Werner

- [27:10] - "Accommodations are stepping stones, not permanent crutches." — Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale

Links Mentioned:

• Anxiety Society Podcast Website: https://AnxietySocietyPodcast.com
• Anxiety Disorders Association of America:https://adaa.org
• Anxiety in the Classroom: https://anxietyintheclassroom.org

If anxiety—or accommodating someone else’s—is taking a toll on your life, it’s time to build a new approach. Challenge yourself or support a loved one in reducing accommodations and reclaiming control over daily life. For more tools and insights, check out the links provided and subscribe to the podcast on your favorite platform. Don’t forget to leave a review to help us reach others on this journey toward anxiety-free living.

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.

In this holiday edition of The Anxiety Society Podcast, hosts Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner dive into the stress, pressure, and blues that the festive holiday season can bring. From financial concerns to family dynamics and time management struggles, they share practical tips, reframing strategies, and personal insights to help you embrace the joy of the season without letting anxiety take the reins. Discover how boundaries, self-care, and small mindset shifts can turn holiday chaos into meaningful moments.

Key Points:

[0:00] Introduction to Holiday Stress

A look at why the holidays can be as anxiety-inducing as they are festive.

[2:18] The Power of Boundaries

Practical strategies for setting boundaries and maintaining your sanity amidst holiday obligations.

[8:45] Managing Triggers and Family Conflicts

Tools to prepare for and respond to challenging family dynamics during festive gatherings.

[16:27] Financial and Time Pressures

Tips for managing financial stress and juggling the endless holiday to-do list.

[28:31] Coping with Loneliness and Grief

How to navigate the holiday blues, grief, and isolation while staying connected.

[37:32] Self-Care and Setting Realistic Expectations

Balancing personal health, holiday preparations, and enjoying the present moment.

Quotable Moments:

[4:12] “Holidays are meant for joy, but they can only be joyful if you set boundaries that protect your peace.” – Dr. McIngvale

[19:03] “You can feel anxious and joyful simultaneously. Anxiety doesn’t have to define your holiday experience.” – Cali Werner

[36:40] “Boundaries set ahead of time are kindness to yourself and to others—they prevent the chaos before it starts.” – Dr. McIngvale

Links Mentioned:

American Psychological Association – For holiday stress statistics and mental health resources.

The Anxiety Society Podcast: anxietysocietypodcast.com

Follow on Instagram: @theanxietysocietypod

The holiday season can be overwhelming, but with boundaries, self-care, and thoughtful planning, it can also be a time of joy and connection. Share your holiday goals with us at anxietysocietypodcast.com, and tune in next time for more insights. Don’t forget to follow, subscribe, and leave a review to help us reach others who may benefit from our message!

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.

In this episode, Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner tackle the difficult topic of how we avoid anxiety through escapist behaviors and quick fixes. They discuss how ignoring or avoiding distress only strengthens anxiety and provide practical strategies for leaning into discomfort, facing it head-on, and ultimately living a life driven by values instead of fear. Tune in to hear about the dangers of relying on quick fixes like CBD gummies and other fads, and how to embrace the uncomfortable journey toward long-lasting change.

Key Points:

[0:00] - Introduction and Welcome

The hosts introduce the concept of running from anxiety and why it's critical to face discomfort head-on rather than avoiding it.

[1:21] - The Price of Avoidance

Elizabeth and Cali talk about how avoidance behaviors, like ignoring tough conversations or emotions, keep people stuck in anxiety.

[5:38] - The Appeal of Quick Fixes

A deep dive into how quick fixes, such as CBD gummies and fad diets, promise relief but ultimately reinforce anxiety and make it worse.

[16:03] - Restlessness and Overworking

How behaviors like compulsive overworking and restlessness can be ways to avoid facing anxiety, and why slowing down is crucial for healing.

[19:06] - The Power of Sitting in Discomfort

The hosts discuss how learning to sit with discomfort, rather than fleeing from it, is key to managing anxiety. They share personal stories and client examples of this transformative process.

[28:52] - Values-Based Living

What does it mean to live by your values instead of anxiety? Elizabeth and Cali share insights into how aligning your actions with your values can lead to a more fulfilling and anxiety-free life.

Quotable Moments:

[1:50] “If something makes you uncomfortable, that’s a signal you’re growing. Don’t run from it, sit with it.” - Cali Werner

[28:52] "Living by your values means doing what matters to you, not what your anxiety demands." - Dr. Elizabeth MacIngvale

[22:53] “There’s no quick fix. The hard work of confronting anxiety is the only way to truly move forward.” - Dr. Elizabeth MacIngvale

Links Mentioned:

• Anxiety Society Podcast Website: http://anxietysocietypodcast.com
• Instagram: @AnxietySocietyPod
• Book: Sacred Rhythm by Ruth Gayle Barton: https://a.co/d/543RKdj

Facing your anxiety head-on is challenging, but avoiding it only gives it more power. Begin leaning into discomfort and making small changes today by setting values-based goals that align with what truly matters to you. Share your thoughts with us on our website or Instagram, and subscribe to stay updated on future episodes as we dive deeper into mental health topics.

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.

In this episode of The Anxiety Society podcast, Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner dive into the pervasive issue of people-pleasing. With personal stories and professional insight, they explore the impact of prioritizing others' needs over your own and the internal conflict it creates. They offer practical strategies for recognizing when you're caught in the people-pleasing trap and discuss how setting healthy boundaries can preserve your energy, strengthen your relationships, and protect your sense of self. Whether you’re a “yes” person or find yourself avoiding conflict at all costs, this episode reveals how to honor your needs without guilt.

Key Points:

- [0:01] - Introduction to People-Pleasing

Dr. Elizabeth and Cali introduce the topic and discuss how people-pleasing often results from anxiety and a desire to avoid conflict.

- [5:20] - The Catch-22 of Social Media

They examine the common scenario of withholding moments from social media out of fear of upsetting others and the guilt that follows.

- [12:45] - Boundaries and Self-Awareness

Insight on the need for boundaries, particularly with close family and friends, and recognizing the warning signs of overextending yourself.

- [24:15] - How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt

Cali shares practical steps for setting boundaries empathetically, emphasizing the power of open communication.

- [34:30] - Why People-Pleasing Hurts Self-Identity

The hosts explore how over-accommodating can erode your sense of self and lead to resentment and burnout.

- [42:00] - Taking Back Your Time

Dr. Elizabeth discusses time as a precious resource, advocating for mindful choices that reflect your values over social obligations.

Quotable Moments:

- [0:02:02] - "I often say I don't want feedback right now. But then I wonder, do I want to improve or just feel comfortable?" — Cali Werner

- [12:10] - "People-pleasing keeps you stuck. It's not just exhausting; it chips away at who you really are." — Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale

- [42:30] - "The most valuable gift you have is your time. Spend it on what fulfills you, not just what fills others' expectations." — Cali Werner

Links Mentioned:

• Anxiety Society Podcast Website: https://AnxietySocietyPodcast.com

If people-pleasing is holding you back, it’s time to recognize how it impacts your well-being and reclaim your sense of self. Embrace this opportunity to set boundaries and make choices that reflect your true values. Visit the podcast website to submit questions or join the community on Instagram. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to support the show and reach others on similar journeys.

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.

In this episode of The Anxiety Society, hosts Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and guest clinician Ryan Judd, take a deep dive into depression. They discuss the challenges of recognizing and managing depression and share practical strategies to help listeners take control of their emotions. With insights on behavioral activation, the importance of community, and how depression intertwines with anxiety, this episode offers clear steps to get back on track when life feels overwhelming.

Key Points:

[0:00] - Welcome and Episode Overview

Elizabeth and Cali introduce today’s guest, Ryan Judd, a clinician at the OCD Institute, Texas, and outline their focus on depression.

[1:20] - Recognizing Depression in Everyday Life

Ryan shares his clinical insights on how depression manifests in various ways, from changes in sleep to loss of interest in activities.

[3:26] - The Power of Behavioral Activation

Ryan and Elizabeth discuss how altering behavior can shift feelings and why action, not rest, is the antidote to depression.

[6:08] - Clinical vs. Everyday Depression

The hosts clarify the difference between feeling depressed occasionally and clinical depression, emphasizing the importance of recognizing prolonged symptoms.

[18:00] - Avoidance and Social Pressure

Elizabeth reflects on her own experience with avoidance and social anxiety, highlighting how small changes in routine can make a big difference.

[31:00] - Finding and Building Community

The conversation touches on how isolation exacerbates depression and why building community is critical for healing.

Quotable Moments:

[3:47] "We don’t have a lot of control over our feelings, but we can control our actions—and that changes everything." - Ryan Judd

[19:17] "Sometimes, when you feel least able to do something, that’s when it’s most important to go do it." - Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale

[43:40] "Not many good things happen in your head—get out of your head and into your life." - Ryan Judd

Links Mentioned:

• Anxiety Society Podcast Website: http://anxietysocietypodcast.com
• Book "Make Your Bed" :https://a.co/d/2GCLs27

In this episode, we learned that taking small, consistent steps can significantly change how we feel over time. Depression doesn’t have to control your life, and the path to healing starts with small actions and reconnecting with your community. Join us next time, and don’t forget to leave us a voice message on our website with your questions and thoughts!

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.

In this episode of The Anxiety Society Podcast, hosts Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner dive into a Q&A format, tackling a wide range of listener-submitted questions. From understanding the difference between anxiety and OCD to overcoming performance anxiety, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice. They also explore how avoidance can fuel anxiety, discuss the role of therapy, and offer tips on how to maintain a healthy mindset amidst life’s challenges. Whether you’re curious about managing anxiety in everyday life or want to support others, this episode offers actionable steps to reclaim control over anxiety.

Key Points:

- [0:00] Welcome & Introduction

Dr. McIngvale and Cali introduce the Q&A format, highlighting the variety of listener questions.

- [3:24] Anxious Moments

Cali shares a personal story about feeling torn between fun and family obligations, reflecting the common struggle of anxiety and guilt.

- [6:15] Difference Between Anxiety and OCD

The hosts clarify key differences between anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), noting that OCD involves specific intrusive thoughts and rituals aimed at reducing distress.

- [14:10] How to Identify Good vs. Bad Therapy

The hosts discuss the importance of therapy that moves you forward, explaining the effectiveness of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and why "talk therapy" might not be helpful for anxiety.

- [30:28] Tackling Performance Anxiety in Sports

A listener question about performance anxiety leads to a discussion on how to handle nerves and approach performance in a healthy way, using exposure and cognitive reframing.

- [33:11] When Anxiety Becomes Abnormal

How to differentiate between normal anxiety and when it becomes a disorder, impacting your daily life and relationships.

Quotable Moments:

- [0:00] "If you're ready to step outside of your comfort zone and explore the unfiltered truth that will help you change your entire relationship with anxiety, you’re in the right place." – Dr. McIngvale

- [15:25] "If you feel like you are really struggling with mental health, but you don't know what's going on, start with a full psychological assessment." – Cali

- [32:50] "When you avoid anxiety, you're teaching yourself that you can't tolerate it, which just feeds it even more." – Dr. McIngvale

Links Mentioned:

- Website: http://AnxietySocietyPodcast.com

- Instagram: https://instagram.com/theanxietysocietypod

Thank you for tuning in to this Q&A episode! If you have more questions or need advice on dealing with anxiety, don’t hesitate to submit your questions on our website or through social media. Remember to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode, and if you found this helpful, please leave us a review!

Mentioned in this episode:

World Class Treatment For A Worldwide Need

The OCD Institute of Texas provides compassionate individualized treatment for anxiety, OCD and related disorders with a diverse team of dedicated specialists.