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  • How One Father's Question Saved His Son's Life: A Story of Hope for Exhausted Families with Jeff Jay - Episode 100

    How One Father's Question Saved His Son's Life: A Story of Hope for Exhausted Families with Jeff Jay - Episode 100
    2025/06/03
    Jeff Jay was sleeping under bushes in San Francisco, physically deteriorating and contemplating suicide, when his parents found him through an unlikely series of events. What started as a simple phone call became the beginning of a 40+ year recovery journey, and eventually helped create the modern intervention methods that have guided thousands of families. Highlights What Every Family Needs to Know: The gentle question that changed everything- how one father's caring words reached his son when nothing else could (and why the approach mattered more than the words themselves) Why "they have to want it" isn't the whole story- understanding how motivation and readiness actually work in recovery, plus what families can do while waiting The doctor's straightforward explanation that provided clarity- a simple framework that helped make sense of addiction as a medical condition Real success rates for family interventions- 85-90% when done thoughtfully, and what happens with the remaining 10-15% Understanding the addicted brain- why decision-making is compromised and how this knowledge can help families respond with compassion instead of frustration How families can recognize their influence- you have more impact than you might think, especially when you know how to use it constructively What "raising the bottom" means for your family- helping someone reach acceptance sooner rather than waiting for more consequences The power of "doing this together"- why recovery works better when the whole family participates, not just the person with addiction When intervention doesn't work on day one- what families can do to maintain momentum and continue the conversation Why modern treatment approaches can be confusing- navigating the difference between treating addiction and treating other conditions simultaneously The trauma and addiction connection explained- understanding when to address underlying issues and when to focus on sobriety first How structured family recovery works- supporting your loved one (and yourselves) through the crucial first year The difference between enabling and supporting- practical guidance for families learning new boundaries What to do when you feel exhausted and hopeless- finding your way back to effective action when you've been through so much Why having an ally matters- the importance of not going through this alone, and how to find the right support Practical next steps for families ready to learn more- where to start when you're ready to try a different approach This conversation offers both hope and practical guidance for families who love someone struggling with addiction. Jeff's story reminds us that even in the darkest moments, the right kind of help- offered with love and clear boundaries- can make all the difference. If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, remember: you don't have to figure this out alone, and you don't have to solve everything at once. Resources mentioned: Love First (3rd edition), It Takes a Family, No More Letting Go, https://lovefirst.net/ For families ready to move from feeling helpless to taking loving action- this episode shows you it's possible. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: The Connected Response™ Method: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: CLICK HERE FOR YOUR "CONNECTED RESPONSE™ METHOD" MINI-COURSE Connect with Jeff Jay https://lovefirst.net/clinical-intervention/our-team/ Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS
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  • From Heroin Overdose to Sober Entrepreneur: How One Moment of Grace Saved His Life with Michael Chernow - Episode 99

    From Heroin Overdose to Sober Entrepreneur: How One Moment of Grace Saved His Life with Michael Chernow - Episode 99
    2025/05/27
    In this powerful episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle sits down with Michael Chernow, the founder of Kreatures of Habit and co-founder of The Meatball Shop, who shares his remarkable journey from addiction to 20 years of sobriety and entrepreneurial success. Highlights "Four hours later I was using again" — The shocking moment Michael realized the true meaning of powerlessness, and what it revealed about addiction's grip The unexpected ultimatum — How losing the one thing still tethering him to life became the catalyst that changed everything "I needed to see someone who was sober, who was cool" — The unconventional mentor who shattered Michael's preconceptions and gave him a vision of what recovery could truly be The three words families need to say — Michael's urgent advice for loved ones watching someone battle addiction, and why it matters more than you think The morning ritual that saved his life — How a simple daily habit from his first week of sobriety eventually transformed into a thriving business two decades later "We are the gladiators" — The surprising perspective shift that turned Michael's greatest weakness into his most profound strength The breathwork experience that healed a lifetime wound — How Michael reconnected with his father without using substances, and what it means for trauma healing The parenting approach he completely abandoned — Why Michael dramatically changed his strategy for talking with his children about substances in today's world This episode offers a raw, unfiltered look at both the darkest depths of addiction and the extraordinary heights of recovery. Michael's journey reminds us that transformation is possible even when hope seems lost, and that sometimes our greatest struggles can become our most powerful purpose. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: The Connected Response™ Method: My gift to parents concerned about teen substance use - a prevention and early intervention framework providing the exact scripts needed to address concerns while preserving your relationship with your child. Access your special gift here: CLICK HERE FOR YOUR "CONNECTED RESPONSE™ METHOD" MINI-COURSE Connect with Michael Chernow https://www.michaelchernow.com/ https://twitter.com/michaelchernow https://www.facebook.com/MichaelPChernow/ https://www.instagram.com/michaelchernow/# Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS
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  • The Hero's Intervention: How Adam Jablin Transformed from Functioning Addict to Inspirational Coach - Episode 98

    The Hero's Intervention: How Adam Jablin Transformed from Functioning Addict to Inspirational Coach - Episode 98
    2025/05/20
    In this riveting episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle sits down with Adam Jablin – a man who once orchestrated his entire day around pills and alcohol while running a successful business, and now coaches some of the world's highest performers. Highlights The shocking morning-to-night "pharmacist routine" that kept Adam functioning while slowly killing him – and why no one suspected a thing The two words from his interventionist that Adam literally couldn't process (he repeated them FIVE times in disbelief) Why fixing your "outsides" (Adam transformed from the "fat kid" to having a bodybuilder physique) does NOTHING to fix your insides The counterintuitive truth: It's not about the addict hitting bottom – discover who REALLY needs to "hit bottom" for recovery to begin The bizarre "spiritual relationship" Adam had with substances that regular people will never understand (and why it changes everything about recovery) How Adam saw TWO versions of himself during a phone call – and the split-second decision that saved his life The unexpected panic attack that finally made Adam accept he was an addict (it wasn't what you think) How Adam's infant daughter became the unexpected "saving grace" that made intervention possible – for both him and his wife in profoundly different ways The "Superman Effect" – the seductive feeling substances provide that makes quitting nearly impossible (until you understand this) The simple 3-part equation that explains why some interventions work and others fail miserably PLUS: The surprising connection between Michael Jordan's "love of the game" clause and lasting transformation that Adam uses with his highest-performing clients This episode offers a rare window into one man's journey through addiction and recovery. Adam's candid sharing about his high-functioning addiction, intervention experience, and transformation provides valuable insights that may help families better understand their loved one's struggles and the potential power of intervention. Listen now to discover why Adam says, "What I thought was prison turned into spiritual camp" and how this complete perspective shift might be exactly what your family needs. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time:https://helpthisbook.com/recoveryroadmapforparents/recovery-roadmap Connect with Adam Jablin https://adamjablin.com/ https://www.instagram.com/adamjablin/ Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS
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  • Trauma-Informed Intervention: Heather Hayes' Compassionate Approach to Addiction Recovery - Episode 97

    Trauma-Informed Intervention: Heather Hayes' Compassionate Approach to Addiction Recovery - Episode 97
    2025/05/14
    In this eye-opening episode of the Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Heather Hayes, founder and CEO of Heather R. Hayes and Associates, Inc., a master's level licensed counselor and board registered interventionist with over 35 years of experience in treating complex mental health issues and addictive disorders. Guest’s Info Heather Hayes is the founder and CEO of Heather R. Hayes & Associates, Inc. She is a Master’s level Licensed Counselor in the State of Georgia, and Board Registered Interventionist (CIP). With over 35 years of experience in treating clients with complex mental health issues and the full spectrum of addictive disorders, she has worked with clients of all ages and specializes in the treatment of trauma. As the globe’s most prominent authorities on these topics, she is widely-recognized for her trauma-informed responsive approach to intervention. Highlights The shocking truth about what's really behind "denial" in families affected by addiction – it's not what you think, and understanding this changes everything Why telling an addict to "just stop" is like telling someone with a broken leg to "just walk" – the crucial brain chemistry factor most families completely miss The dangerous trap of "compassion" that actually keeps your loved one stuck in addiction (and what real compassion looks like instead) The "cucumber to pickle" phenomenon that explains why some people can experiment with substances while others are instantly hooked How standard treatment models are catastrophically failing teenagers – and the minimum effective dosage required according to research that almost no one follows Why kicking someone out might be the worst thing you can do – but letting them stay could be equally destructive (and the precise third option that works) The internet trap that's sending thousands of desperate families into the hands of the highest bidder rather than the best help The revolutionary six-month family commitment that transformed Heather's entire approach to intervention Why today's drug landscape gives parents zero room for error – the terrifying reality of what's actually in street drugs now The hostage negotiation techniques Heather adapted for family intervention that change everything about how we approach resistance How trauma-informed care has completely revolutionized intervention – moving from confrontation to connection while maintaining boundaries The counterintuitive reason why bringing recovered addicts to speak to teens actually INCREASES drug experimentation Listen now to discover why Heather Hayes is considered one of the foremost authorities on intervention and learn how her trauma-informed, responsive approach might be exactly what your family needs. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time:https://helpthisbook.com/recoveryroadmapforparents/recovery-roadmap Connect with Heather Hayes heather@heatherhayes.com https://heatherhayes.com/ Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS
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  • When Your Child Has Addiction: A Mother's Guide to Setting Boundaries Without Losing Connection with Pam Lanhart - Episode 96

    When Your Child Has Addiction: A Mother's Guide to Setting Boundaries Without Losing Connection with Pam Lanhart - Episode 96
    2025/05/07
    Guest’s Info Pam Lanhart is a mother of four, grandmother of eight, author of "Praying Our Loved One Home," and founder of Thrive Recovery Resources. After experiencing the emotional rollercoaster of loving a family member with substance use disorder and struggling to find trustworthy treatment centers and evidence-based resources, Pam turned her pain into purpose by founding Thrive in 2016. Having grown up in a home where both parents struggled with alcohol use disorder, Pam brings a unique perspective as both a child affected by addiction and a parent who navigated her son's substance use journey. Thrive recognizes that families are critical components to recovery, providing support and proven strategies to empower real change that moves both the loved one and the family toward wellness. Highlights The boundary secret that actually STRENGTHENS your relationship with your addicted child (when everyone else is telling you to "detach with love") The hidden childhood wounds driving your seemingly "rational" responses to your loved one's addiction (and why understanding this changes everything) The gut-wrenching "make it stop" behaviors most parents don't even realize they're doing – that silently feed the addiction cycle instead of breaking it The Irish wisdom that cuts through all the noise and finally explains what your loved one is REALLY seeking when they use The life-altering question that stopped Pam in her tracks: "You say you'd die for your kids, but will you LIVE for them?" (and why your answer matters more than you know) The "last text" principle that will forever change how you communicate with your struggling loved one (Pam shares the final message she sent her son before losing him) The doorway-opening phrases your loved one is already saying that you're missing – that could lead to real change if you knew how to respond Why treating an addict with dignity – especially when they're actively using – might be the most powerful gift you haven't given (yet) The compassion approach that replaces outdated "tough love" tactics (and actually works to rebuild what addiction has torn apart) The uncomfortable truth about why some recover and others don't (and the only guarantee you CAN count on regardless of outcome) Listen as Pam vulnerably shares how she navigated her son Jake's addiction journey – from his pills in a backpack at 13 to the grief of ultimately losing him too soon, yet finding meaning and purpose through it all. This conversation isn't just about addiction – it's about reclaiming your life while still fighting for theirs. Links and Resources from this Episode https://whyintervention.com/ https://twitter.com/whyintervention https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/ https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/ TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time:https://helpthisbook.com/recoveryroadmapforparents/recovery-roadmap Connect with Pam Lanhart pam@thrivefrr.org https://www.thrivefrr.org/ https://www.facebook.com/pam.lanhart/ Call to Action Schedule a Call Free Resources Review, Subscribe and Share If you like what you hear please leave a review by clicking here Make sure you’re subscribed to the podcast so you get the latest episodes. Subscribe with Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Subscribe with RSS
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  • ‘It's Over': The Three Words That Saved This Young Man From A $500- A-Day Opioid Habit with Aidan Morgan - Episode 95

    ‘It's Over': The Three Words That Saved This Young Man From A $500- A-Day Opioid Habit with Aidan Morgan - Episode 95
    2025/04/30

    In this powerful episode of The Why Intervention Podcast, host Christopher Doyle sits down with Aidan Morgan, who shares his harrowing journey from childhood experimentation to full-blown addiction and ultimately to recovery.

    Guest’s Info
    Aidan Morgan is a remarkable example of transformation and resilience. After battling addiction from age 12, Aidan has now maintained sobriety for six years, completely rebuilding his life in the process. A native New Yorker with deep roots in his community, Aidan's journey from addiction to recovery showcases the power of human connection and the possibility of change even in the darkest circumstances. Now 28, Aidan has transformed from someone who couldn't be relied upon to the family member everyone calls first when they need help. His story provides both hope and practical insights for families struggling with a loved one's addiction. With honesty, humility, and occasional humor, Aidan shares his personal experiences not as an expert but as someone who's lived through the struggle and found his way to the other side. His story stands as powerful evidence that recovery is possible and that intervention can save lives.

    Highlights

    • Why the "wait until they hit bottom" approach is DANGEROUS and potentially DEADLY in today's world where "you could hit a casket before you hit bottom"
    • The SHOCKING truth about what happened when Aidan nearly died in a car accident while high - and why it STILL wasn't enough to make him stop
    • The DEVASTATING "9-HOUR DECISION" phenomenon that explains why addicts can't stop using even when they desperately want to and have days of abstinence
    • Why your addicted loved one already has ENOUGH PAIN to change - they just need the right connection and opportunity NOW
    • How Aidan's father's surprising SILENCE became the catalyst that finally broke through when nothing else would
    • The COUNTERINTUITIVE reason why taking away a teen's activities as punishment for substance use actually ACCELERATES their addiction
    • The BIZARRE encounter with "Franklin" that kept Aidan from walking out of detox over a veggie burger
    • Why an addict telling you "I promise I'll stop" and ACTUALLY MEANING IT still isn't enough to overcome addiction
    • The EMOTIONAL MOMENT when a father's three simple words - "It's over" - finally gave his son permission to surrender
    • The PROFOUND TRUTH that most recovered addicts didn't seek help on their own - and what this means for your intervention strategy
    • How Aidan went from being "the last person anyone would call" to handle a problem to becoming the family's MOST RELIABLE member

    If you're struggling with a loved one's addiction, this episode provides both the inspiration and practical framework for taking action before it's too late.


    Links and Resources from this Episode

    • https://whyintervention.com/
    • https://twitter.com/whyintervention
    • https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/
    • https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/
    • TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: https://helpthisbook.com/recoveryroadmapforparents/recovery-roadmap

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    1 時間 30 分
  • When to Call That Sober Friend: Why Families Shouldn't Wait for Rock Bottom with Joe Courtney - Episode 94

    When to Call That Sober Friend: Why Families Shouldn't Wait for Rock Bottom with Joe Courtney - Episode 94
    2025/04/23

    In this powerful episode, recovery veterans Christopher Doyle and Joe Courtney (with 48 combined years of sobriety) dismantle the dangerous myth that you can't help someone until they "want it" or "hit bottom."

    Guest’s Info
    Joe Courtney is many people's first phone call when they need help with an addicted loved one. Joe is married 24 years, has 4 beautiful children, and 30 years sober.

    Highlights

    • The truth behind "they have to want it" that the conventional wisdom gets totally backward
    • Why your loved one's first meeting rarely happens because they chose it (and what actually gets them there)
    • The surprisingly simple sentence that's gotten hundreds of resistant addicts to agree to help
    • Why the person who got you sober might be the one person you never thank
    • The heartbreaking story of waiting "until they're ready" that ended in a funeral just days before this recording
    • The counterintuitive leverage point that turns "I don't have a problem" into "I'll go to one meeting"
    • Why the most resistant addicts who fought all the way to rehab are often the most grateful afterward
    • The shockingly simple 10-word question that can be your loved one's turning point

    Joe and Chris reveal their personal journeys, relapse stories, and the practical tactics they've used to help countless others find recovery - even when those people initially wanted nothing to do with getting help.

    This isn't just theory - it's battle-tested wisdom from two men who've been on both sides: the resistant addict and the person making that vital first call.


    Links and Resources from this Episode

    • https://whyintervention.com/
    • https://twitter.com/whyintervention
    • https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/
    • https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/
    • TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: https://helpthisbook.com/recoveryroadmapforparents/recovery-roadmap
    • Even Russell Brand misses the point: Youtube video - "How to treat the addict you love!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJ-y5QSpgTo

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  • When Your Adult Child Cuts You Off: A Mother's Guide to Healing Through Estrangement with Sally Harris - Episode 93

    When Your Adult Child Cuts You Off: A Mother's Guide to Healing Through Estrangement with Sally Harris - Episode 93
    2025/04/17

    In this powerful episode of the Why Intervention podcast, host Christopher Doyle interviews Sally Harris, who transformed her devastating experience with her daughter's estrangement into a mission helping other mothers find healing.

    Guest’s Info
    Sally helps mothers navigate one of life's most challenging journeys - estrangement from their children. After over a decade battling addiction, depression, and the despair of suicide attempts, it was a severe health crisis that ultimately sparked Sally’s profound transformation. Through deepening faith and a revolutionary insight - that her well-being couldn't depend on her daughter's choices - Sally found her way to healing. Today, she celebrates years of sobriety, a renewed relationship with her daughter, and a thriving coaching practice that helps other mothers find their path to wholeness.”

    Highlights

    • The shocking truth about what "estrangement" really means—and why it's not always what you think (hint: your child might be in more pain than you realize)
    • Why 60% of mothers dealing with estrangement have ZERO support system—and the dangerous spiral this creates
    • The "front porch vs. front yard" strategy that will immediately transform who you talk to about your child's struggles
    • The critical difference between HELPING and ENABLING your adult child (most parents get this dangerously wrong)
    • Why loving detachment might be the most painful—yet healing—gift you can give both yourself and your child
    • How to handle the soul-crushing judgment from others who haven't walked in your shoes
    • The unexpected revelation about "control" that changed everything for Sally (and can do the same for you)
    • The simple communication technique that can instantly transform your relationship with your adult child
    • Why forgiving YOURSELF might be the missing key to healing your relationship (most parents skip this crucial step)
    • The counterintuitive approach to boundaries that actually strengthens your bond with your child
    • The profound mistake Sally made that led to dangerous enabling—and how you can avoid the same path
    • Why Sally chooses to meet with mothers on Thanksgiving and Christmas Day (the revelation will bring tears to your eyes)

    Listen now to discover how Sally found her way to healing after years of addiction, depression, and suicide attempts—and how her journey can light the path for your own healing and reconciliation.


    Links and Resources from this Episode

    • https://whyintervention.com/
    • https://twitter.com/whyintervention
    • https://www.facebook.com/whyintervention/
    • https://www.instagram.com/whyintervention/
    • TIME SENSITIVE, FREE RESOURCE: Get an early preview of Christopher's new book "Stop Addiction Early: A Recovery Roadmap For Proactive Parents" at no cost for a limited time: https://helpthisbook.com/recoveryroadmapforparents/recovery-roadmap
    • Connect with Sally Harris
    • www.sally-harris.com
    • https://www.youtube.com/@sallyharriscoach

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    58 分