Matching Your Inside and Outside: Unlocking Congruence and Confidence on Your Terms - The Visible(ish) Podcast Ep.4

In this powerful episode, Melissa Howard sits down with transformational coach Washington Ali to discuss congruence, authentic visibility and the moment a pair of shoes changed his life.

In this powerful episode, I sit down with transformational coach Washington Ali (instagram.com/becomealive.washington) for a deep conversation about congruence, authentic visibility and personal transformation.

Washington shares the pivotal moment when his mother presented him with a choice between his worn-out Vans (representing his troubled past) and a new pair of Air Force Ones (representing a different path) - a metaphor that changed the course of his life.

This episode explores:

• What true congruence means - matching your internal self with your external expression
• Washington's journey from addiction and mental health struggles to becoming a coach
• How to shift from "What I do = who I am" to "Who I am = what I do"
• Why small, consistent shifts (15% improvements) create lasting transformation
• Building confidence through intentional exposure to discomfort
• The freedom that comes when you stop performing and start expressing

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Washington Ali

01:57 What "Visible-ish" means to Washington

03:09 Defining congruence - matching internal and external

04:45 Washington's powerful shoes story

12:37 The period of torment and "survival mode"

18:41 Transformation and healing

22:36 Finding a new path through meditation and support

28:01 From culturalistic to counter-culturalistic equation

36:39 How Washington helps others find their voice

43:04 Finding confidence through exposure

48:46 The power of giving "roses" to others

55:19 Creating a confident, brave, and happy world

01:01:47 Where to find Washington and his tour

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Stop Faking It: Show Up Online as Your True Self and Grow Your Brand - The Visible(ish) Podcast Ep. 3

Is there a gap between your online persona and your actual personality? In this episode, Melissa dives into the "visibility disconnect" and shows you how to audit your content to ensure it truly reflects YOU.

This episode covers:

• Why "professional" doesn't have to mean formal, boring or beige
• A simple 3-question audit to spot if your content is misaligned
• The "talk it out before you write it out" technique to capture your natural voice
• Why your quirks are your marketing gold
• How your visuals might be contradicting your words
• A practical exercise to realign your content with your true self

As Melissa says: "Your quirks are your gold. The quirks are your marketing difference, your USP. They are what make you you and what makes you different from the competition."

If you've ever felt like you're "performing" online rather than just being yourself, this episode will help you close that gap and start attracting dream clients who want the REAL you.

The Visible(ish) Podcast celebrates progress over perfection and understands that visibility is a practice, not a destination. New episodes every Thursday.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the visibility disconnect

00:44 Why this matters for your business

01:34 The misconception about professionalism

02:17 The Visible(ish) approach to representation

03:01 My personal experience with watered-down content

05:15 How to audit your content (3 key questions)

06:36 Translating your personality into content

07:57 Why your quirks are your marketing gold

09:01 The importance of visual branding

11:08 The power of candid photography

13:01 Practical exercise to realign your content

16:07 Addressing objections ("But I'm a therapist/coach/educator!")

19:08 Why alignment matters for client connection

21:25 Episode wrap-up and call to action

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Why Showing Up Everywhere Is a Myth: Strategic Visibility for Entrepreneurs - The Visible(ish) Podcast Ep.2

Stop burning out on visibility! In this episode, visibility coach Melissa Howard busts the myth that visibility means showing up every day on every platform saying something life-changing.

Instead, she shares her permission-based visibility framework that honours your life, capacity and energy—the same framework she uses with her 1:1 clients that has them breathing sighs of relief.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the pressure to be everywhere all the time, this episode offers a refreshing alternative. Melissa reveals how to find your "minimum effective dose" of content, choose your visibility playground wisely, and set rules that work FOR your energy, not against it.

She also gets vulnerable about her own visibility chaos (yes, even as a visibility coach!) and how her ADHD diagnosis helped her understand why certain content creation modalities were challenging for her.

Key topics covered:

• The truth about sustainable visibility for established business owners
• How to define your visibility baseline—your minimum effective dose
• Why choosing platforms strategically matters more than being everywhere
• Setting visibility rules that honour YOUR energy and creative rhythms
• Implementation steps to build your own framework
• How AI and other tools can help overcome content blocks
• Why "visible-ish" is a journey, not a destination

As Melissa says, "Visibility is not about being on all the time. It's about being aligned when you are on."

The Visible(ish) Podcast celebrates progress over perfection and understands that visibility is a practice, not a destination. New episodes every Thursday.

Show Notes with Timestamps

00:00 - Introduction to permission-based visibility

01:08 - Busting the "be everywhere" myth

01:49 - The reality of slower growth with strategic visibility

02:20 - Melissa's own visibility chaos

03:48 - The power of unplanned, authentic content

04:44 - ADHD struggles with written content

07:03 - How AI helps with content blocks

08:54 - The "tripod voice" phenomenon

10:12 - Being your authentic self online and offline

11:15 - The gap between online and in-person presence

12:14 - Step 1: Finding your visibility baseline

14:27 - Step 2: Choosing your visibility playground wisely

17:17 - Step 3: Setting rules around your visibility

18:13 - How to implement this framework yourself

22:35 - Addressing FOMO and missed opportunities

24:17 - Final thoughts on permission-based visibility

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