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In this episode of the Revolutionary Man podcast, host Alain Dumonceaux explores the concept of love as a learned skill with Dr. Mark Hicks, an author, speaker, and relationship specialist. They delve into five crucial components of love: grief, emotion, practicality, acceptance, and passion, and discuss practical tools for building healthier relationships.

Dr. Hicks also shares insights from his book, 'Learning Love,' and emphasizes that love is not just a feeling but a skill that can be mastered. Essential for anyone looking to move from merely surviving relationships to truly thriving in them.

Key moments in this episode:

• 00:26 The Concept of Love as a Learned Skill
• 04:19 Dr. Mark Hicks' Personal Journey
• 08:51 The Five Components of Love
• 19:41 Overcoming Toxic Relationships
• 21:01 A Story of Long-Term Bitterness
• 22:16 Building Trust in Relationships
• 25:06 Applying Love in the Workplace
• 28:34 Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation
• 34:31 Best Advice Ever Received
• 36:16 Love is a Learned Skillset

How to Reach Mark:

Website: https://www.markahicks.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61560463719338

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-mark-a-hicks-359778169/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@markahicksvideo

Book: Learning Love: Building a Life that Matters and Healthy Relationships

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Feeling stretched too thin? Overwhelmed by endless commitments? You're not alone. In this transformative episode, Robert J Hunt (known as "the accountability guy") reveals how creating "margin" in your life can be the difference between constant burnout and sustainable excellence.

Robert shares his powerful personal journey of facing $90,000 in consumer debt and making the radical decision to sell his home and start over. This vulnerability becomes the foundation for a complete life reset that doubled his business while restoring his marriage, faith, and sense of purpose. The catalyst? Accepting that "nobody cares until you do" – taking full ownership of his circumstances rather than blaming, making excuses, or waiting for rescue.

We explore the accountability mountain that we all must climb, with Robert offering practical wisdom on how to move from victim thinking to proactive ownership in every area of life. You'll discover why excellence isn't about perfectionism but about doing your best within sustainable boundaries, and why creating margin in your time, money, health, and emotions prevents the breakdowns that derail your goals.

Business owners and employees alike will benefit from Robert's insights on the five traits of excellent leaders: continuous learning, decision-making, ownership, team development, and results-driven accountability. Most importantly, you'll learn how to recognize when you're operating without margin and practical steps to reclaim the breathing room necessary for both achievement and fulfillment.

Ready to stop living on the edge of burnout? Visit margindfw.com for a free assessment and tools to help you create the space you need to truly thrive in every aspect of life.

Key moments in this episode:

03:32 Robert's Journey to Accountability

06:22 The Power of Vulnerability

17:31 The Mountain of Accountability

22:00 The Importance of Core Values

25:55 Traits of Successful CEOs

30:22 The Best Advice Ever Received

33:34 Creating Margin in Life

How to reach Robert:

Website: https://refdallas.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RobertJHuntTexas

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertjhunt2010/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertjhunt/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@REFDallas_FtWorth

Book: Nobody Cares...until you do

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Many men struggle with outdated expectations of masculinity, creating disconnection from purpose, relationships, and self while carrying the weight of social norms that no longer serve them. Jason Lange joins us to explore how embracing men's work, uncovering shadow elements, and building supportive relationships can help men reclaim their vitality and purpose.

• Shadow work involves making the unconscious conscious, bringing to awareness what might be running your life without your knowledge
• The "man box" confines men to behaviors like never showing emotion, never asking for help, and always appearing tough
• Studies show men who strongly identify with traditional masculine values are more likely to commit suicide
• Loneliness and isolation are as harmful to health as smoking a pack and a half of cigarettes daily
• The "fierce, loving masculine heart" offers a third path beyond macho jerk and passive nice guy
• Integration of masculine and feminine energies creates wholeness regardless of gender
• Community builds resilience—men need other men to model healthy masculinity
• Many men push themselves with strategies and goals while ignoring their dysregulated nervous systems
• Connection and rest often naturally lead to renewed motivation and energy

Join a men's group or find ways to build deeper connections with other men. Visit evolutionarymen.com to learn more about Jason's work and programs.

How to reach Jason:

Website: https://evolutionary.men/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evolutionarymenswork

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@evolutionarymen

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In this episode of the Revolutionary Man podcast, host Alain Dumonceaux discusses the importance of embodying strength, purpose, and authenticity for building genuine attraction and maintaining fulfilling relationships. Special guest Paul Bauer, a certified master life coach and NLP practitioner, shares insights on reprogramming mindsets, redefining masculine presence, and mastering the dynamics of connection. Listen as Paul recounts his personal journey through unfulfilling relationships and offers practical strategies for men to take control of their lives and transform their relationships. Key topics include handling emotional control, setting boundaries, and overcoming the 'nice guy' syndrome.

Key Moments In This Episode:
06:32 The Turning Point: Divorce and Self-Improvement
09:32 The Power of Men's Groups and Self-Help Books
12:04 Understanding Masculine Presence and Emotional Control
19:06 Exploring Red Pill Ideology
22:42 The Myth of the Dead Bedroom
24:17 The Burden of Performance
29:29 The Role of Alpha and Beta Traits
32:48 The Betaization Process
35:09 Taking Responsibility and Setting Boundaries
38:10 Effective Communication Strategies

How To Reach Paul:

Website: https://www.fixdeadbedrooms.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/comeonmanpodcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comeonmanpodcast/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/comeonmanpodcast

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Book: The Essential Skills of a Masculine Presence | Psychology – Paradigm: ( Mastering Paradigms: Reprogram Your Mind for a Dominant Masculine Presence and Unleash Your Full Potential)

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Many men unconsciously create emotional distance that slowly erodes their relationships through patterns of emotional unavailability, withholding appreciation, fixing problems instead of feeling emotions, and avoiding conflict.

• Emotional unavailability isn't a strength – it's disconnection that creates isolation
• When men stop affirming their partners, it creates invisible resentment
• Women need to be seen and heard, not fixed, when sharing emotions
• Appreciate your partner for who she is, not just what she does
• Conflict avoidance isn't peacekeeping – it's withholding truth that builds walls
• Practice the feel-hear-ask method to build an emotional connection
• Make time for real conversations beyond logistics and schedules
• Lead with vulnerability by initiating one honest conversation weekly
• Rebuild non-sexual affection without expectation or transaction
• Connection is a choice, a muscle, and a mission that requires daily practice

Visit memberstheawakenedman.net to download our free Awakened Man Integrity Challenge and the "10 Questions to Reignite Emotional Intimacy" PDF.

Key moments in this episode:

01:22 The Hidden Habits of Emotional Disconnection

02:50 Emotional Unavailability: The Silent Relationship Killer

09:28 Withholding Appreciation and Affection

15:11 The Fix-It Mentality: Why It Doesn't Work

21:02 Avoiding Conflict: The Path to Disconnection

26:23 Jake's Story: A Journey to Emotional Presence

30:15 Practical Tips for Reigniting Emotional Intimacy

38:38 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Through faith, emotional healing, and spiritual alignment, we can break free from past wounds and embrace a future of love and inner peace.

• Understanding the three inner voices: wounded child, protector, and true self
• Pain transforms into purpose when we're awake enough to see the lessons before us
• Unresolved emotional wounds gather in our "bucket" and get triggered in current relationships
• The protector develops to keep us safe but can become destructive in adult relationships
• Learning to speak for all parts of yourself rather than becoming controlled by them
• Two principles that can restore any relationship: repentance and forgiveness
• Leading with grace before speaking truth maximizes the chance of being heard
• Men need the love and blessing of other men to fully love their partners
• Triggers are opportunities to heal parts that deserve love, not threats to avoid

If you're ready to take control and live with purpose and become the man your family, community and future needs you to be, then I challenge you to start today. Go to membersbeawakenedman.net and begin your journey by taking the integrity challenge, because the only thing standing between you and the life you're capable of is the decision to take that first step.

Key moments in this episode:

04:39 The Hero's Journey: Overcoming Personal Battles

11:31 Understanding the Voices Within

23:52 Healing Emotional Wounds: A Path to Self-Love

27:40 Exploring Relationship Challenges

28:24 Healing Broken Marriages

35:52 Effective Communication Techniques

38:11 Managing Emotional Triggers

41:27 Grace and Truth in Relationships

48:26 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

How to reach Dr Dean and Hollykem:

Website: https://www.ihaveavoice.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deanhollykemsunseri/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dean-sunseri-b918a278/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IHaveAVoice1212

Book: A Roadmap to the Soul: A Practical Guide to Love, Compassion, and Inner Peace

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We challenge the idea that pain is something to be avoided or suppressed, exploring how it can actually become fuel for purpose, leadership, and legacy in men's lives. Pain isn't a detour from your hero's journey – it's an essential part of it that reveals what truly matters when distractions fall away.

• Pain is an initiation, not a punishment – avoiding it only makes it resurface in more destructive ways
• Strong men aren't those who never feel pain, but those who have the courage to face it without shame
• True resilience comes from integrity, not bravado – even elite athletes and military veterans openly discuss their healing journeys
• Purpose isn't born from comfort but forged through consistency, discipline, and decisions made in darkness
• Healing accelerates through service – don't wait until you're fully healed to start helping others with your story
• Your scars don't disqualify you from leadership – they uniquely qualify you to lead authentically
• Building a brotherhood of truth-tellers is essential – we weren't meant to carry our pain alone

Join our membership site at members.theawakenedman.net and complete our free integrity challenge – a blueprint to align your life, leadership and legacy. You can also download our free pain-to-purpose weekly reflection sheet to help lead yourself through pain with clarity.

Key moments in this episode:

02:07 Understanding and Embracing Pain

02:45 The Hero's Journey: Pain as a Divine Appointment

07:56 The Lies Men Believe About Pain

13:11 Turning Pain into Purpose: A Discipline, Not a Feeling

17:36 Chris's Story: From Collapse to Purpose

20:55 Practical Tips for Transforming Pain into Purpose

27:23 Recommended Resources and Final Thoughts

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Trevor Dunbar shares his transformative journey from firefighter to spiritual mentor, revealing how religion often creates an identity crisis that prevents men from accessing their God-given authority. He illuminates the profound difference between living as servants to religious systems versus sons who walk in intimate communion with the Father.

• The root problem for many men is an identity crisis stemming from shame, guilt, and obligation
• Christianity often functions as a "good cult" that gives 90% truth while filtering in just enough falsehood to keep men powerless
• The kingdom of God is a realm to experience, not just a religion to practice
• Men frequently prioritize provider roles at the expense of emotional and spiritual leadership
• Supernatural encounters in wilderness settings create vulnerability that leads to transformation
• Five keys to effective prayer: position your heart, remove distractions, expect encounters, believe what you hear, take action
• Pride (including false humility) blocks intimacy with God and prevents men from walking in their authority
• Our identity equals our ability - we cannot operate with greater ability than how we see ourselves

Discover your God-given identity and break free from systems that keep you from experiencing true freedom and purpose. Visit trevordunbar.com to learn more and take the seven-day outlier challenge.

Key moments in this episode:

03:31 Trevor's Journey to Faith and Purpose

11:04 The Power of Submission and Fatherhood

16:18 Overcoming Guilt, Shame, and Fear

22:28 The Importance of Relationships and Faith

23:12 Transformative Wilderness Experience

31:12 Keys to Effective Prayer

36:15 The Role of Mentorship

How to reach Trevor:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trevor.dunbar.77

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kingdomoutlier/

Book: The Good Cult: Discover How Christianity Hijacked Your Purpose, Power, and Passion – And How You Can Take It All Back.

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