What do emotionally available men do differently in sex and dating? Trey interviews Lauren about how straight men can unlearn old patterns, attract real connection, and become the sexual partners they truly want to be.

Trey shares the story of a pivotal rejection that sparked his growth journey and gets honest about his disappointment in the questions men have been asking at Lauren’s recent Soho House events. While the women show up with curiosity and self-awareness, many of the straight men seem stuck in meta-level thinking—and Trey doesn’t hold back.

They also discuss:

– Why preparation is more powerful than performance

– How to identify the wounds you’re bringing into dating

– What green flags look like when you’re actually ready for partnership

– How to communicate wants and needs without pressure

The episode wraps with a playful role-play using Lauren’s M.E.A.N.S.™ tool—a framework designed to help partners talk about sex with more clarity and connection:

M – Motivation: What’s driving my desire for this experience?

E – Edges & Boundaries: What’s okay, what’s not, and where am I unsure?

A – Aftercare: What kind of support might I need afterward?

N – Needs: What do I need emotionally, physically, energetically?

S – Safety: Do I feel physically and emotionally safe to engage?

Whether you’re a man hoping to date more intentionally—or someone who loves one—this episode offers honest insight, practical tools, and a whole lot of heart.

🎧 Ready to take this conversation deeper?

If this episode sparked something for you—or someone you love—share it with a friend, leave a review, or tag us with your thoughts. Your shares and feedback help this work reach the people who need it most.

And if you’re ready to explore this work in your own relationship, visit sexedforyou.com/freeconsult to connect with Lauren.

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our podcast for more episodes about sex, partnership, communication, and love.

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this short but powerful episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off.

Lauren invites Trey to share what he’s been exploring around his source wound, and he opens up about a childhood memory from 1994 — sitting in a car, hearing Adam Sandler’s “The Chanukah Song,” and feeling an intense response in his 10-year-old body.

With the help of a meditative practice inspired by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and guided by Lauren, Trey revisits this memory using active imagination — and discovers how much healing can happen when a partner helps you repattern what once felt too big to hold alone.

Together, they talk through what it’s like to do this kind of inner child work in relationship, how safety can be renegotiated when met with presence, and why they’d like to apply the same toolset to old wounds from their recent NYC rupture.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why Trey wanted to share this memory

02:55 The 1994 car memory & The Chanukah Song

06:45 Active imagination as a relational repair tool

10:30 Trey’s nervous system response & what helped

12:50 Can we use this process for NYC too?

✨ Want to learn how to use tools like the ones we shared today?

Request a free consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#sourcewound #relationshiphealing #innerchildwork #partnershippodcast #activerelationalrepair #somatichealing #drjoedispenza #attachmentrepair #nervoussystemwork

In this deeply honest episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the rupture they first discussed after their NYC trip — but now, they’re speaking from the other side of a powerful coaching session with their person, Dr. Joli Hamilton.

They explore how separating roles in their partnership has transformed the way they handle feedback, support, and stress. Lauren introduces the term “Vision Carrier,” a phrase that finally captures the role Trey has long played in her life. At 10:42, Lauren shares the moment she felt real validation — when their coach and Trey both affirmed that her critique of Trey’s self-awareness wasn’t too much, it was spot-on.

They discuss how denial of her feelings touched on old wounds of gaslighting from her first marriage, and how they are both working to repattern their safety-seeking behaviors in real time.

And even though the work is hard (Lauren shares she felt physically sick before the session), they’re recommitting to a partnership where love is prioritized over comfort.

Timestamps:

00:00 NYC rupture recap & coaching session reflection

04:51 “Vision Carrier” and role separation

10:42 The moment Lauren felt less “crazy”

14:45 The difference between critique and cruelty

20:30 Trey's repatterning work

26:00 Love vs. comfort in partnership

✨ Want to learn relationship tools like the ones we shared today?

Request a free 15-minute consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#relationshiptools #couplescoaching #repatterning #nervoussystemhealing #visioncarrier #emotionalrepair #attachmentwork #thepartnershippodcast

Can you play The 3-Minute Game without it leading to arousal?

In this powerful episode, Trey and Lauren demonstrate how to play a completely platonic version of the 3-Minute Game - a core practice from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. They explain how this version builds self-awareness, trust, and clear boundaries without courting arousal or triggering old patterns.

At minute 18:23, tune in to watch them play live, bringing real-time curiosity, discomfort, and delight to the table. They show how clear requests and responses can strengthen relational dynamics - even when it’s not about sex.

They also unpack a vulnerable moment from a recent Sunday morning where the game went sideways. When Trey said “do whatever you want,” it sparked confusion and disconnection. Lauren shares how this moment felt like desire smuggling - and what helped them find clarity and repair.

Stay through the end as they offer creative ideas for body-based requests, explore their most challenging quadrants from the Wheel of Consent, and reflect on why this practice is one of the most transformational tools in their relationship.

Want to learn more about the 3-Minute Game?

📚 Read The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen → https://amzn.to/3Gq3HND

🎧 Watch on YouTube or Spotify at minute 18:23 to see Trey and Lauren play in real time!

💬 Curious how this might help your partnership?

Request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at:

👉 www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#ThePartnershipPodcast #WheelOfConsent #3MinuteGame #PlatonicTouch #ConsentEducation #DesireSmuggling #BettyMartin #SomaticConsent #HealthyRelationships #SexEdForYou

After Lauren’s standing-room-only Soho House event, she and Trey pull back the curtain on what happened behind the scenes—and why big wins can sometimes bring up big shadows.

Lauren introduces her inner "Sissy," the part of her that believes she's only lovable if she's working hard, never celebrating. She opens up about the shame spiral that followed her success and how it led to a painful rupture with Trey. Trey shares his raw truth about feeling like “the help” while everyone else gets the best version of Lauren—and the resentment that can build in silence.

They explore their shadow stories, like “I’m never enough” and “I don’t get to want,” and how irrational beliefs can hijack real connection. They break down the missteps and miscommunications, the tender repair, and the nervous system reset they found on a long walk (and a 5-minute oral sex session that helped them stop over-talking).

Lauren reflects on the power of being surrounded by people who help her level up—and cries as she thanks Trey for being her dream man, the one who keeps showing up.

Don’t miss the emotional moment at minute 42 where Lauren names, with full heart, the partnership they’ve built—and the gratitude she feels for the man who keeps cheering her on.

💬 Book a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#ShadowWorkInLove #BehindTheScenesHealing #ConsciousPartnership #SuccessAndSelfSabotage #LevelingUpTogether

“So, we’re on the elevator—and we’re angry.”

In this raw and revealing follow-up to last week’s episode, Lauren picks up right where they left off: the hotel hallway tension, the slammed door, and the unforgettable, rage-fueled sex that followed. Clothes were ripped off, bodies thrown against walls, and a deep desire to be chosen and wanted took over.

Lauren and Trey reflect on the erotic electricity of that night—what made it so charged, why they’ve never had sex like that before, and how it left them both breathless… and then laughing when Trey had to wear Lauren’s sweatshirt home after the fire alarm went off. (Yes, really.)

But this episode isn’t just a sex story. They unpack the difference between hot and healthy. They name the ingredients that made that encounter intense and why they’ve agreed not to repeat it. Together, they explore the psychology of angry sex, make-up sex, and what happens when arousal is driven by disconnection instead of desire.

They then shift into what’s coming next: their plans for an upcoming Manhattan rendezvous—one that blends familiarity and mystery—and Lauren’s exciting speaking gig at Soho House. She opens up about her growth, the mantra she's holding—"I am good enough"—and how she’s preparing to do Live Sex & Relationship Coaching on stage.

Trey shares his excitement and support for Lauren’s so-called “National Tour,” and they talk about what it means to keep showing up for each other, especially when the stakes are high.

This conversation blends sexual healing, relationship advice, and emotional intimacy, offering tools for couples who want to better understand the intersection of sex and conflict. Whether you're curious about sex after a fight, make-up intimacy, or how communication can turn rage into repair, this episode delivers insights you won’t hear in couples therapy or your group chat.

🎧 Don’t miss this one—and if it resonates, leave a comment, subscribe, or share it with someone navigating intimacy and conflict in real time.

💬 Book a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#AngrySexExplained #SexAndConflict #IntimacyAfterFights

Why is hotel sex so hot? In this juicy and joy-filled episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren explore the psychology behind the passion—why sex in a hotel room often feels freer, more exciting, and more connected.

Trey opens with a hilarious hotel story from Amarillo, TX, and shares how heightened sensations and novelty make intimacy feel brand new. Lauren adds her insights about anticipation, freedom from responsibility, and the gift of being cared for instead of caretaking. She breaks down the difference between support and caretaking, referencing their past episode and the cultural conditioning that teaches women to be “human givers.”

At minute 10:47, Lauren introduces “Noel,” the sexy Christmas gift she sends Trey every year—and the conversation takes off from there. Together, they explore how hotel sex removes pressure while opening up the possibility of pleasure.

Lauren names the unique freedom hotel stays offer:

- Sex as a place we go, not something we do

- A break from obligations and identity

- The opportunity to abandon roles and expectations

- A container for connection, not performance

They even touch on hotel sex that goes wrong—and how even those moments strengthen the bond and create hilarious, memorable stories. The episode ends just as Lauren shares the start of a fight she picked with Trey about his wedding ring… but to hear the juicy resolution, you’ll need to tune in next week for Part Two.

🎧 Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this one got you thinking!

💬 Want to work with Lauren? Book a free 15-minute consult at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#HotelSexExplained #IntimacyTips #RelationshipPodcast

In this vulnerable follow-up to last week's episode on opening up their relationship, Lauren and Trey share how they’re really doing—and the deeper attachment patterns that were activated in the aftermath.Lauren opens up about her coach’s reflection that she often strives to “do it all” to protect Trey from pain. Trey reveals his own avoidant tendencies, formed in childhood, to escape disappointment and judgment when others fail him. Together, they explore how these strategies, shaped by their families of origin, play out in long-term partnership.They unpack why words from outside voices—coaches, mentors, and therapists—can land differently than when they come from within the relationship, and how external perspectives help them grow as individuals and partners.This episode dives into the quiet pitfalls of committed relationships: fusion, business-mode, the death of mystery, and the pressure to keep each other comfortable. Lauren reflects on how “the unknown” is part of her erotic landscape, and why being curious—and remaining unknown—to each other keeps their desire alive.They quote their friend and colleague Dene Logan: “The desire to keep another comfortable is not love, it is attachment.” From here, they explore their biggest turnoffs (Trey’s is caretaking, Lauren’s is sameness), and at minute 17:20 Lauren asks a pivotal question: What’s the difference between caretaking and offering support? The answer leads them to a powerful realization about infantilization, helplessness, and the ways gendered expectations keep us stuck.They close with an honest conversation about asking for help, why men often don’t, and how true partnership means a dynamic flow of giving and receiving—where no one has to carry it all alone.Timestamps:00:00 – How last week’s episode impacted them06:15 – Childhood wounds & attachment strategies11:40 – Why outside voices matter14:50 – Fusion, sameness & the death of mystery17:20 – Caretaking vs. offering support23:00 – The fear of asking for help26:30 – Challenging “women’s work” and old beliefs🔗 Subscribe for more conversations on long-term love, repair, and intimacy💬 Curious about working with Lauren? Request a FREE 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠⁠Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.