What do emotionally available men do differently in sex and dating? Trey interviews Lauren about how straight men can unlearn old patterns, attract real connection, and become the sexual partners they truly want to be.

Trey shares the story of a pivotal rejection that sparked his growth journey and gets honest about his disappointment in the questions men have been asking at Lauren’s recent Soho House events. While the women show up with curiosity and self-awareness, many of the straight men seem stuck in meta-level thinking—and Trey doesn’t hold back.

They also discuss:

– Why preparation is more powerful than performance

– How to identify the wounds you’re bringing into dating

– What green flags look like when you’re actually ready for partnership

– How to communicate wants and needs without pressure

The episode wraps with a playful role-play using Lauren’s M.E.A.N.S.™ tool—a framework designed to help partners talk about sex with more clarity and connection:

M – Motivation: What’s driving my desire for this experience?

E – Edges & Boundaries: What’s okay, what’s not, and where am I unsure?

A – Aftercare: What kind of support might I need afterward?

N – Needs: What do I need emotionally, physically, energetically?

S – Safety: Do I feel physically and emotionally safe to engage?

Whether you’re a man hoping to date more intentionally—or someone who loves one—this episode offers honest insight, practical tools, and a whole lot of heart.

🎧 Ready to take this conversation deeper?

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And if you’re ready to explore this work in your own relationship, visit sexedforyou.com/freeconsult to connect with Lauren.

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

In this short but powerful episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off.

Lauren invites Trey to share what he’s been exploring around his source wound, and he opens up about a childhood memory from 1994 — sitting in a car, hearing Adam Sandler’s “The Chanukah Song,” and feeling an intense response in his 10-year-old body.

With the help of a meditative practice inspired by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and guided by Lauren, Trey revisits this memory using active imagination — and discovers how much healing can happen when a partner helps you repattern what once felt too big to hold alone.

Together, they talk through what it’s like to do this kind of inner child work in relationship, how safety can be renegotiated when met with presence, and why they’d like to apply the same toolset to old wounds from their recent NYC rupture.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why Trey wanted to share this memory

02:55 The 1994 car memory & The Chanukah Song

06:45 Active imagination as a relational repair tool

10:30 Trey’s nervous system response & what helped

12:50 Can we use this process for NYC too?

✨ Want to learn how to use tools like the ones we shared today?

Request a free consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#sourcewound #relationshiphealing #innerchildwork #partnershippodcast #activerelationalrepair #somatichealing #drjoedispenza #attachmentrepair #nervoussystemwork

In this deeply honest episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the rupture they first discussed after their NYC trip — but now, they’re speaking from the other side of a powerful coaching session with their person, Dr. Joli Hamilton.

They explore how separating roles in their partnership has transformed the way they handle feedback, support, and stress. Lauren introduces the term “Vision Carrier,” a phrase that finally captures the role Trey has long played in her life. At 10:42, Lauren shares the moment she felt real validation — when their coach and Trey both affirmed that her critique of Trey’s self-awareness wasn’t too much, it was spot-on.

They discuss how denial of her feelings touched on old wounds of gaslighting from her first marriage, and how they are both working to repattern their safety-seeking behaviors in real time.

And even though the work is hard (Lauren shares she felt physically sick before the session), they’re recommitting to a partnership where love is prioritized over comfort.

Timestamps:

00:00 NYC rupture recap & coaching session reflection

04:51 “Vision Carrier” and role separation

10:42 The moment Lauren felt less “crazy”

14:45 The difference between critique and cruelty

20:30 Trey's repatterning work

26:00 Love vs. comfort in partnership

✨ Want to learn relationship tools like the ones we shared today?

Request a free 15-minute consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult

About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.

Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)

Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.

• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠⁠

• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: ⁠⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠⁠

• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠⁠

• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

#relationshiptools #couplescoaching #repatterning #nervoussystemhealing #visioncarrier #emotionalrepair #attachmentwork #thepartnershippodcast