Why is making (and keeping) friends as an adult so hard?

In this episode of The Midlife Mud, Morgan and Chris get into the complicated world of adult friendships. From the seasonal besties to the awkward art of making new friends in your 40s, they're unpacking why friendship feels different now—and what to do about it.

They talk about the time crunch of adult life, the courage it takes to be the first to reach out, and why the best friendships often survive long silences. If you’ve ever felt lonely in a room full of people or wondered how to build real connection again, this one’s for you.

Key themes:

• Why adult friendships are harder (and not just for you)
• How to build new connections when you feel like the new kid at school
• What makes a friendship truly deep—and how to keep it that way

Whether you're craving a better connection or trying to revive an old one, this episode is a reminder that you're not alone in the mud.

Referenced in this episode:

• The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins 📚
• Platonic by Dr. Marisa G. Franco, PhD 📚
• Emily Vondy on Instagram

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In this episode, Morgan and Chris dive into the messy reality of time management in midlife — where the days fly by, the to-do list never ends, and energy is the real currency. They talk about procrastination, energy drains vs. energy boosts, and why routines help (but flexibility saves us). As kids get older and the "empty nest" looms, time feels even trickier — and loaded with big questions about purpose and identity.

They don’t promise solutions, but they do offer real talk, a few laughs, and some takeaways:
✔️ Be intentional with your time
✔️ Prioritize what fills you up
✔️ Practice saying no (without guilt)
✔️ Remember: time is not guaranteed

Ask yourself: What am I saying yes and no to this week?

Links:
📚 Atomic Habits by James Clear
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Money isn't just math—it's deeply emotional. In this episode of The Midlife Mud, Morgan and Chris open up about their personal money stories, from early family influences to midlife financial pressures like raising kids, saving for retirement, and supporting aging parents. They share how emotions like fear, scarcity, and abundance have shaped their money mindset over time. This is not a financial advice episode—it's a real, relatable conversation about the emotional side of money, financial wellness, and aligning finances with personal values.

Curious to learn more about the connection between money and emotions? Check out Money Is Emotional by Christine Luken.

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In this episode of The Midlife Mud, Morgan and Chris wade into the unpredictable waters of parenting teenagers in 2025. Sparked by the Netflix series Adolescents, they unpack the shifting landscape of teen life—from evolving social norms and emotional challenges to the ever-present tech and screen time debates. With humor and honesty, they explore how to stay connected, model empathy, and create space for real conversations (and even a little chaos). Spoiler: there’s no perfect way to do it—but showing up still counts.

Referenced in this episode:
📘 Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph
📕 Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

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In this episode of The Midlife Mud podcast, Morgan and Chris dive into the lost art of play in adulthood. Why do so many of us see play as unproductive or even childish? They break down how play can be a secret weapon for stress relief, connection, and even problem-solving—without turning into avoidance or escapism. From childhood memories to the little things that still make them lose track of time, they share personal stories and practical ways to bring more play into daily life.

Plus, they wrap things up with a little game that proves fun isn’t just for kids—so stick around! Want to dig deeper into the science of play? Check out Play by Dr. Stuart Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Play-Shapes-Brain-Imagination-Invigorates/dp/1583333789.

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In this episode of The Midlife Mud, Morgan dives into her lifelong struggle with perfectionism, control, and the fear of failure—common themes for anyone navigating midlife. She unpacks how early coping mechanisms, like meticulously arranging her Lip Smackers as a kid, set the stage for a relentless pursuit of certainty in adulthood. That drive led her to dentistry, not out of passion but because it felt like a “sure thing.” But when her orthodontic practice failed, she was forced to face a hard truth: perfectionism isn’t a safety net—it’s a trap.

Morgan shares the breaking points that finally made her question everything, from the stress-induced shingles that took her down in 2017 to the life-changing car accident in 2024 that forced her to rethink what really matters. She opens up about her shift from fear-based parenting to connection-focused parenting, the lessons she’s learned through coaching, and how midlife has been both a reckoning and a reset.

If you’ve ever tried to control your way to happiness—only to realize it’s exhausting and unsustainable—this episode is for you. Tune in for an honest, unfiltered conversation about perfectionism, failure, resilience, and what it really takes to let go in midlife.

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In this episode of The Midlife Mud, Morgan and Chris dive into the powerful theme of returning to oneself and rediscovering authenticity. They explore how many people, in their younger years, disconnect from their true selves—often using coping mechanisms that become unsustainable in midlife. Drawing from insights by Brené Brown and Mel Robbins, they discuss midlife as a reckoning, a time to shed facades and embrace vulnerability.

Chris shares his deeply personal journey, beginning with a life-altering event in 1992 when he was sent away from home for over two years. He reflects on the emotional impact of separation, feelings of abandonment, and how these early experiences shaped his adult life, leading to patterns of disconnection and self-doubt. His story unfolds through career struggles, the weight of imposter syndrome, and the heartbreaking estrangement from his daughters.

A turning point comes during a backcountry skiing trip in the remote Chic-Chocs of Quebec, where Chris is forced to confront his fears and embrace vulnerability. This experience sparks a transformation—leading him to reassess his values, prioritize authenticity, and build deeper connections with his community.

Morgan and Chris emphasize the power of storytelling, the importance of support systems, and how embracing authenticity can lead to profound personal growth. Tune in for an honest, raw conversation about resilience, midlife shifts, and the messy, necessary work of coming home to yourself.

Morgan and Chris take on the midlife struggle with comparison, exploring how it shows up in careers, parenting, relationships, and personal growth. In a world where social media fuels self-doubt, they share personal stories about recognizing comparison, its impact, and how they manage it.

But comparison doesn’t just steal joy—it weakens connection and stifles creativity. The hosts discuss how this mindset can be unconsciously passed down to our kids, keep us chasing external validation, and prevent us from embracing our authentic selves.

Rather than offering a one-size-fits-all solution, Morgan and Chris open up about their own experiences and how they work through comparison in everyday life. The big takeaway? Letting go of comparison isn’t just freeing—it allows you (and everyone around you) to shine.

Covered in this episode:
How comparison in midlife impacts self-worth and relationships
The role of social media and external validation in fueling self-doubt
How comparison affects parenting
Why breaking free from comparison fosters authenticity and connection

Mentioned in this episode: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho – Get the book here

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