Hey parents—what if the greatest measure of your teen's success wasn’t how many points they scored, solos they nailed, or trophies they earned... but how they made everyone around them better? In this episode, we unpack the powerful concept of becoming a multiplier, and why it might be the secret ingredient your teen is missing.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Concept of Win-Win-Win & Being a Multiplier

02:50 The Ripple Effect in Team Dynamics

05:33 The Power of Multipliers in Sports

08:39 Lessons from Larry Bird and Magic Johnson

11:08 The Role of Parents in Fostering Multipliers

13:56 Real-World Examples of Multipliers

16:41 Encouraging a Multiplier Mindset in Kids

19:39 The Distinction Between MOP and MVP

22:27 Closing Thoughts on Multipliers and Impact

Takeaways

-The concept of 'win-win-win' extends beyond traditional win-win scenarios.

-Larry Bird and Magic Johnson were masters at making their teammates better.

-Cooper Flagg exemplifies the multiplier effect in sports.

-True competition is about elevating everyone's performance.

-Multipliers create a ripple effect that benefits all involved.

-Parents should model multiplier behavior for their children.

-Asking the right questions can help children recognize their impact on others.

-Identifying multipliers in various fields can inspire kids.

-The distinction between MVP and MOP highlights the value of impact over individual accolades.

-Encouraging a multiplier mindset leads to greater joy and success in teams.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Are you the parent every coach dreads…or the one they trust? Learn how to have the team's back...in the right way. Parents: if your teen is competing at a high level, your support (or lack of) can either elevate the entire team or silently sabotage it. In this episode, Nate and Steve go deep on how to be a Team First Parent—the kind of presence every coach dreams of having support the team or performance group. You’ll walk away with real, actionable ways to help the program thrive—without crossing any lines.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Importance of Being a Team First Parent

02:32 Navigating Parental Involvement for Your Teen's Team

05:32 The Motives Behind Parental Support

08:14 The Role of Parents in Team Dynamics

11:10 Balancing Team Support and Independence for Your Teen

13:59 Identifying Common Parental Pitfalls

16:54 The Ideal Team First Parent

19:50 Conclusion: Supporting Your Child's Journey

The BIG Takeaways

• Being a Team First Parent is crucial for youth development.
• Winning culture starts at home!
• Parents should support without overstepping their bounds.
• Clarity in motives is essential for effective parental involvement.
• The team belongs to the players and coaches, not the parents.
• Presence at events is important for children's morale.
• Avoid being the overbearing parent or the absentee one.
• Support the program as a whole!
• Consistent, appropriate parental support builds trust within the team.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Balancing parent and coach roles? Avoid the "Daddy ball" trap and create real success! Coaching your own kid can be both rewarding and challenging. You want to see them succeed, but how do you stay fair? Avoiding favoritism—or the appearance of it—is tough, and the "Daddy ball" label can quickly damage trust. In this episode, we break down how to lead with integrity, balance your roles, and create a positive experience for every player on the team. Take the "Daddy (and Mommy) ball" dive with us today! Let's go parents, let's get better so our teen athletes and performers can thrive!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Daddy Ball Dilemma

02:01 Coaching Your Own Kids: A Unique Challenge

07:43 Balancing Coaching and Parenting

14:25 Setting Expectations and Boundaries

Takeaways

• 'Daddy ball' can create emotional conflicts in sports.
• Coaching your own kids is emotionally challenging.
• It's tough to separate being a parent from being a coach.
• Balancing fairness and favoritism is crucial.
• Open communication is key to successful Mom & Dad coaching.
• Coaching should focus on the child's experience.
• Finding joy in sports for our teens is the ultimate goal.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Does your teen shut down when you encourage them? Avoid toxic positivity and find the ‘sweet spot’ of support. Sooo, your amazing teen athlete or performer just had an "Oops!" They bombed an audition, missed the game-winning shot, or flubbed a major performance. Of course you want to lift them up, but how? If you get this wrong, you risk losing credibility—or worse, making them feel dismissed. So, let's get it right.

Join us as we dive head first into how leaving Parent Mode and entering Coach Mode can help you deliver the neutral encouragement that is genuine and steers clear of toxic positivity. As the kids like to say, "let's get real!"

Get to Your Stuff

00:00 Teaser: What If This Backfires?

02:26 The Risks of Encouragement: Pressure and Toxic Positivity

06:57 Navigating Emotions: Parent Mode to Coach Mode

10:16 Real-Life Scenarios: The "Failure"

14:30 Zip it and Listen: Processing Emotions Together

22:02 Creation Corner: The QOC Tool and a Parent Invitation

The Gold Nuggets

• Encouragement can create unnecessary pressure on your teen athlete/performer.
• Toxic positivity can destroy credibility.
• Emotions should be viewed as neutral, not positive or negative.
• Assuming you know how they feel after "failure" can be a losing game!
• Listening is more effective than giving advice.
• Open communication fosters emotional processing.
• Tools like the QOC can transform your parent/teen relationship.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, or comment on any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!

And...if you really love the show, we would be so grateful if you would SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Parents, how do your teens view practice? Is it a chore, an obligation, or a chance to improve? In this episode, we break down why practice isn’t just about showing up—it’s about showing up with the right mindset and appropriate rules. Using some humorous insights from the unlikely combo of Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso, we explore how values and rules shape your teen’s approach to practice and how you, as a parent, play a critical role in that process.

This episode, #88 is the last in the Values Need Rules and Rules Need Values Series. Episode 84 sets the table and 85 (Homework), 86 (Teen Parties), & 87 (Social Media) get very specific. Enjoy!

The Juicy Timestamps!

00:00 The "Practice Debate" with Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso :)

04:10 Values and Rules in the context of "Practice"

09:19 The Importance of Practice: Perspectives and Insights

14:04 Deep Practice: Quality Over Quantity

18:26 Modeling Practice: The Parent's Role

The Keepers!

• Values and rules are interconnected in the context of practice.
• Parents need to communicate the value of practice without being preachy.
• Deep practice is more effective than long, distracted practice sessions.
• Investing time in practice yields long-term benefits, akin to sweat equity.
• Celebrating small wins in practice can enhance motivation for teens.
• The perspective of practice as a privilege can change your performer's attitude.
• Modeling good work habits as parents influences teen's views on practice.
• Everything we do is training for something, shaping our future performance.

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Credit to David Stauffer for the Allen Iverson/Ted Lasso Mashup.

PARENTS: Are your teen’s online habits helping or hurting them? Discover how to coach them toward smart social media use! In this episode (#3 of our 4 episode series of our Values & Rules series), we unpack the real life challenges you as a parent face with your teen’s online presence.

Teens live in a digital world—are they equipped to navigate it wisely? We break down how to help your teen use social media in a way that reflects their values, strengthens their confidence, and avoids common pitfalls. With real-life scenarios, helpful conversation starters, and practical tips, we’ll help you turn social media challenges into coaching moments that build trust and responsibility! Let’s dive in!

The "Get to My Fave Stuff" Timestamps

00:00 Navigating Social Media with Kids

02:49 Values & Rules in Parenting Like a Coach

05:42 Communication Filters

07:56 Real-Life Scenarios/Social Media Consequences

10:47 Building a Teen's Confidence through Social Media

13:57 Thought Provoking Questions for You

15:38 Experimenting with a Social Media Detox

The JUICE!:

• Social media is here (probably to stay).
• Parents should be prepared for a range of emotions regarding their children's social media use.
• Establishing values and rules around social media is crucial.
• Conversation starters can help parents engage with their teens about social media.
• Real-life scenarios can illustrate the consequences of good and bad social media use.
• Building confidence through authentic social media engagement is important.
• Introspection about family values can guide social media rules.
• Asking teens about their social media boundaries empowers them.
• Reflecting on positive social media experiences can strengthen family bonds.
• Experimenting with a social media detox is worth a shot!

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Worried about teen parties? Master the art of coaching your teen to confidence in pressure-packed social situations. So parents, are you ready to party? Well, are you ready to at least talk about teen parties? Are you ready and equipped to talk about parties with that teen(s) that lives in your house?!!

In today's show we discuss the challenges parents face when navigating the topic of teen parties. Let's face it, this is not easy! But, it is so important that we have open conversations about values and rules with our teens so they are prepared to handle all that comes with attending a teen party that may present comprising, awkward, and even dangerous situations. It is critical that we help empower them to make confident decisions in difficult, peer pressure-fueled social scenarios.

Of course, we have a story and the ever important practical strategies for your as a high performing parent to implement with your teens. Let's go!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Navigating Teen Parties: A Parent's Dilemma

10:11 Empowering Teens: Values and Rules in Party Situations

19:53 Building Confidence: Strategies for Handling Peer Pressure

The Good Stuff:

-Having clarity about teen party rules is crucial.

-It's normal and ok to feel uncomfortable discussing party situations with your teen.

-Values should guide the creation of party rules for teens.

-Using jingles to summarize rules can help reinforce important messages for teens.

-Peer pressure at teen parties is a real thing, prep your teen well!

-Role-playing scenarios can help teens prepare for peer pressure situations.

-Empowering teens to make their own rules can lead to alignment with family values.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

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We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And...if you love the show, we would be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

-Nate & Steve

Parents: What are the homework rules for your teens? Interested in a different and effective approach to creating homework rules, backed by your values? In this episode (which is a spin-off of Episode 84 on Values & Rules), Certified High Performance Coaches™ Nate Crandall and Steve Galley dive head first into the importance of having a structured game plan for homework. You may even learn a new jingle, motto, or cheesy saying that may help you create an extremely valuable conversation around homework rules with your homework hating teen!

The Sticky Timestamps!

00:00 The Importance of a Game Plan for Homework

02:41 Creating a Positive Homework Environment

05:33 Fun Rules and Jingles for Homework

08:39 The Role of Academics in Athletic Success

11:13 Questions for High Performing Parents to Consider

14:17 Future Self and Academic Advice

Put These in Your Back Pocket!

-Most teens lack a game plan for homework.

-Most parents of teens lack a game plan for homework.

-Intrinsic motivation with homework is crucial but often unrealistic for many students.

-Rules for homework can and should be fun and engaging, not confrontational.

-Academic performance can significantly impact athletic opportunities.

-GPA is often "the silent recruiter" for scholarships.

-Homework can be weaponized as a beneficial tool for discipline and growth.

-Future self advice can provide valuable insights for students.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our Podcast's YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides.

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment, and/or SHARE an episode or two with another parent of a teen athlete or performer.

And...if you love the show, we would be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with sharing it with a few Parental Unit friends who would love it too. And as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching!

-Nate & Steve