Showing your flaws builds trust! Learn how owning mistakes teaches teens resilience & strengthens connections. PARENTS: What is your plan when your parenting flaws are on display?

In today's conversation, Nate Crandall and Steve Galley, Certified High Performance Coaches and co hosts of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, explore the complexities of parenting, particularly the challenges of acknowledging and embracing one's flaws.

The juicy stuff timestamped!!

00:00 Embracing Flaws and Hypocrisy

03:04 The Role of Humor in Acknowledging Mistakes

05:39 Parenting Challenges and Emotional Responses

08:39 Modeling Behavior and Values for Teens

11:10 Learning from Mistakes and Family Traditions

14:06 Owning Imperfections and Growth Mindset

18:19 Why the Hypocritical Hall of Fame isn't a Terrible Thing If...

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are striving to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers that is available for watching and listening on YouTube. We can also be found on and the usual other places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

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-Nate & Steve

Hello there Moms & Dads! Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! We're downright festive about families and parents and teens and trying to elevate our performance within those 3 Very Important People groups. We're glad you're here. In this episode we're going to share with you some age-old wisdom in the form of 3 letters: P...C...and R.

PCR is all about fostering strong relationships with our teens. Today we'll discuss personal experiences that highlight the importance of being present with loved ones, the role of community in enhancing our lives, and how establishing rhythms can create a sense of stability and connection. Have you figured out what PCR means yet? Of course, you have!

Some key insights to look for in this episode:

-PCR stands for Presence, Community, and Rhythm.

-Being present is crucial for meaningful relationships.

-Community enhances our sense of belonging and purpose.

-Rhythm in life provides stability and predictability.

-Mindfulness can help us realize when we are not present.

-Engaging in community activities fosters deeper connections.

-Establishing routines can improve family dynamics.

-Quiet time is essential for mental clarity and presence.

-Regular family activities strengthen bonds and communication.

-Creating a PCR environment empowers children to thrive!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and those other places).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching !!-Nate & Steve

Welcome back or welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We are excited you are joining us to explore The 3 Gifts all parents have within their control and need to be used, or may we say regifted, to your teen athletes or performers.

In this short but powerful episode we're going to reveal The 3 Gifts and encourage you to think about your thinking by posing some very good questions to ask yourself. In doing so, we think you'll find value with the following takeaways:

-High-quality interactions with children can enhance the use of time.

-Recognizing and utilizing personal talents is crucial for effective parenting.

-Creating memorable experiences is more valuable than material gifts.

-Asking children about their desired experiences can strengthen family bonds.

-Shared experiences often hold more value than expensive vacations.

-Parents should consider providing options for new experiences with their kids.

-Creating positive memories should be a priority in family interactions.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Welcome Parental Units to Episode 73 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to level up! Today we tackle the nasty, awful thief that is stealing joy and happiness the world over! That's right, we are going to unveil the antidote to the venom found in Comparison and her ridiculously joke of a cousin, Envy. You are familiar with these two poisons and know their modus operandi. They are out to destroy you and create misery in your life!

But, we can all tool up and send these destroyers to the scrap heap if you consistently administer the antidote of...GRATITUDE! You can win the comparison/envy game AND up your parenting skills along the way! Let's goooooooo moms and dads, you can do this !

Here is some gold you can mine in this episode:

--"Obsessive Comparison Disorder" (OCD) affects mental and emotional health.

--Envy fuels unhealthy comparison and jealousy.

--Gratitude is THE powerful antidote to envy and comparison.

--Practicing gratitude can lead to optimism and positive thinking.

--Writing down things to be grateful for enhances emotional well-being.

--Family gratitude practices can strengthen bonds and promote positivity.

--Limiting social media can reduce feelings of envy and comparison.

--Focusing on effort rather than results fosters a healthier mindset.

--Modeling gratitude as parents equips children with essential life skills.

Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube). New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Hi Parental Units! Welcome to a Turkey Week edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!!

We are THANKFUL to those of you who have been with us since the start of this over a year ago AND to those who have just found us. This podcast is for parents of teen athletes and performers who are engaged in the hardest job on planet earth: parenting!

In EP 72 we explore the concept of gratitude, particularly in the context of parenting and personal relationships with your teens. We hit on the importance of genuine gratitude, by discussing what a developmental psychologist (Dr. Janae Nelson) labels as "shallow gratitude."

What does shallow gratitude mean to you? And, how could it be sending the wrong message to your teens if it is how you are modeling and practicing gratitude (we know you're not!!)?

Some helpful insights from EP 72 to grab onto:

-Gratitude can be practiced at different levels.

-Shallow gratitude lacks a connection to the giver.

-Expressing gratitude to children reinforces positive behavior.

-Handwritten notes create deeper connections.

-Gratitude helps combat stress .

-Face-to-face gratitude can lead to stronger relationships.

Moms & Dads: Let's. Get. Grateful. And, let's get grateful at a very high level!!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Oh, moms and dads, you already know how difficult your job is as a parent. We like to say here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast that "it is the hardest job and there's not a close second." Yep, it's tough.

So...do we actually make it EVEN harder (why would we ever do that?!!!!!) by using ________? Fill in the blank with the nasty word we wrestled with in Episode 70. Yep, the "S" word. No, not that "S" word but this "S word": sarcasm. Hello, darkness my old friend! If you just discovered us and haven't listened to Episode 70, now would be a good time to do that!

Speed us up to 1.5 or 1.75 and get your fill of The Ten Reasons Why You Should Never Use Sarcasm. We've made this horrific mistake as coaches and parents and we want to to treasure your connections and communication with your teen athlete or performer.

Some gems from EP 71 to consider:

--Sarcasm is a very risky form of communication

--The more important the person, the connection, and the situation, the more it is critical that you do NOT use sarcasm.

--Parents often make their jobs harder through ineffective communication.

--Sarcasm can undermine trust and create confusion in relationships.

--Using sarcasm can damage a your teen's self-esteem.

--Sarcasm can lead to increased stress and anxiety for both parents and children.

--A "negativity culture" can develop from habitual sarcasm.

--Motivation in teens can decrease due to sarcastic remarks.

--Sarcasm can stifle creativity and risk-taking in children.

--Power imbalances in relationships can be reinforced by sarcasm.

--Increasing awareness of sarcasm's impact is crucial for improvement.

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Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve

Hello Super Moms & Dads! Welcome to a MISSION CRITICAL edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! And if you're wondering if it has to do with the dynamic and often delicate dance of communication, you are right...AGAIN! (Parents are always right, right?!)

In EP 70 we specifically dive into a crucial communication subject that can get a little blurred, messy, and unfortunately hurtful. We're going to focus on the differences between sarcasm and clever wit. It's a bit tricky! In fact, it's more than that when it comes to sarcasm. We believe it is quite "risky" especially in high-stakes situations. While clever wit can be funny and uplifting, sarcasm is a big, fat, dud. It always fizzles and we want the good kind of fireworks to erupt in your parent/teen convos!

Some helpful insights from EP 70 to grab onto:

-Communication is a dynamic dance involving both speaker and listener.

-Sarcasm can often be misinterpreted and is risky in communication.

-Clever wit is more about uplifting and connecting than mocking.

-Tone and delivery significantly affect how messages are perceived.

-Building strong relationships allows for more playful communication.

-Understanding the mood of the audience is crucial for effective humor.

-Intent behind words is key to positive communication.

-Clever wit can lighten the mood and foster connection.

-Engaging the brain before engaging the mouth can prevent misunderstandings!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We are upping our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or elsewhere). And, you can now watch the show on YouTube).

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steven

Parents--Halloween is over but you are in for a real treat today!!

In this edition of The Stop Parenting & Stop Coaching Podcast, we are overjoyed to have the mighty Chad Sims, head boys basketball coach at Davis High School (UT) as our guest today!

Chad does a lot of things in his communication system that many coaches do, but he does ONE THING that NOT very many HS coaches do. Chad shares his innovative approach to engaging parents that incorporates a very personal, transparent, in-person conversation. His approach helps everyone involved and has contributed to him creating a team culture that embodies trust and respect that extends beyond the court, the season, and a player's short career. Chad's strategy also helps build teams that win (A LOT) on and off the court!

Listen in as Chad discusses the challenges and successes of navigating coach-parent-player dynamics, the role of honesty in coaching, and the impact of effective communication on young athletes' development and team success!

Terrific Takeaways

-Why you don't want a "Davis vs. Davis" scenario & how you can stop this!

-Building trust with parents can lead to a more cohesive team environment.

-Honesty is crucial in discussions about player roles and expectations.

-Creating a culture of respect helps in managing parent-player dynamics.

-Coaches should be transparent about their philosophies to avoid misunderstandings.

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers! Please hit the follow button where ever you find us (Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and those other places).

We also have a new YouTube channel where you can find our early audio only episodes and all of our most recent video versions!

New episodes drop every Monday.

We would love it and be so grateful if you posted a glowing 5 star review along with a helpful comment for other listeners on what you are learning (and hopefully incorporating) from the show. After all, we created it just for you and as always, moms and dads, we're cheering you on as you Stop Parenting & Start Coaching! -Nate & Steve