Going first can be scary! But, your teen is watching. If you’ve ever wished your teen would just change their attitude, their habits, or their mindset—this episode flips that desire on its head. We unpack the powerful metaphor of the "first penguin" and challenge you to step up and model the behaviors you want to see from your teen athlete or performer. From emotional resilience to authenticity, this episode dives deep into why going first isn't just brave—it's necessary.

Are you ready to be the first penguin? Let's gooooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 The First Penguin Dilemma

02:16 Modeling Behavior as Parents

05:02 The Importance of Authenticity

08:04 Going First in Emotional Regulation

10:54 The Shift to Coaching from Parenting

14:05 The 2 Big Coaching Stoppers

16:36 Powerful First Penguin Questions

Takeaways

-The first penguin metaphor illustrates the fear of being first in challenging situations.

-Parents must model emotional resilience for their teens.

-Teens are adept at detecting inauthenticity in adults.

-Modeling behavior is crucial for teaching teens about habits and attitudes.

-Parents should be conscious of their actions--you are always being observed by your teens.

-Going first as a parent can lead to meaningful conversations about struggles and growth.

-Parents should seek coaching and show their willingness to learn to set an example for their teens.

-Overcoming personal barriers to change is essential for effective parenting.

-Asking for feedback can help you identify areas for improvement.

-It all starts with parents modeling changes.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

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And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Parents, what is the #1 High Performance Habit? Where does it all start? it’s time to swap confusion for clarity. Ah, clarity! In this powerful episode, we unpack the King of the High Performance Habits: CLARITY. This isn’t just a concept—it’s a parenting and coaching superpower and one you've gotta get right if you want to improve your own performance and that of your teen. Let's get crystal clear on this. Ready? Let's gooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Understanding How our Own Uncertainty Affects Teen Growth

02:43 Clarity-- Is it a Destination?

04:59 Questions for Parents to Foster Clarity

07:35 Practical Tips for Achieving Clarity

10:03 Seeking Clarity as a Family

13:06 The Journey of Clarity and Continuous Improvement

Gold Nuggets

Uncertainty as parents can limit a teen's growth.

Clarity is essential for high performance.

Parents should identify their core values, vision and roles.

Clarity is a continuous process, not a destination.

Creating family clarity fosters better relationships.

Regular check-ins on clarity are beneficial.

Clarity leads to increased happiness and confidence.

Engaging in family discussions about values creates clarity.

Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

New episodes drop every MONDAY.

We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!

And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve

Discover how leadership, love, and trust transformed an autistic teen’s life, and how it can change yours and your most important relationships! Parents, this episode is a Can't Miss, Don't Miss opportunity! Coach Jim Johnson doesn’t just talk about winning, he talks about leading with heart and he walks that walk in his own life!

Coach's story of the miracle that took place on February 15th, 2006 in Rochester, New York is nothing short of stunning. On that night Jason McElwain ("J-Mac"), a young autistic team manager made sports history. And J-Mac's story is more than inspirational—it’s a lesson in what happens when we lead with love, build trust, and coach instead of control. This conversation will move you to connect more deeply with your teen, which is not always an easy task!

Let’s be real: parenting a teen athlete or performer can feel like walking a tightrope. But what if the key isn’t more discipline—it’s more coaching? What if you became a better leader? Beyond the J-Mac story, Coach Johnson shares the 7 leadership principles that he has developed over his legendary career. He continues sharing this wisdom today in his books, his motivational keynote speeches, his podcast, and his everyday conversations with people everywhere.

Let's go!! It is time for LESSONS with the incomparable Coach Jim Johnson.

The Timestamps!

00:00 The Journey of Coach Jim Johnson

11:24 The J-Mac Miracle Story

18:27 Leadership Lessons from Coaching

19:27 Embracing Vulnerability in Leadership

20:27 The Power of Team Unity

21:53 A Memorable Senior Night

23:40 Jason's Journey to the Spotlight

26:13 The Essence of Teamwork

28:15 Overcoming Challenges and Building Momentum

31:25 Proud Moments in Coaching

33:17 Fostering Connection Over Performance Pressure

36:56 The Art of Questioning in Leadership

44:31 Building Relationships with Parents

47:26 The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast

51:28 Building Skills and Team Philosophy

51:59 The Seven Keys to Leadership

53:12 Clarifying Vision and Personal Mission

54:33 Building Trust in Leadership

56:23 Creating an Edge and Effective Communication

01:00:27 Leading by Example

01:01:51 The Importance of Servant Leadership

01:02:41 Influential Leadership Books and Their Impact

01:05:16 Key Skills for Emerging Leaders

01:09:16 Advice for Parents of Struggling Athletes

Want more from Coach Jim Johnson? Here are a few places you can find him:

coachjimjohnson.com

The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast

LinkedIn

Please SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our YouTube channel is: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!

And check out what we're up to at createtransformbecome.com. There you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve