What if the thing you’re most afraid of… is the very key to your healing?

In this powerful, raw, and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Mistress Mia Payne—owner of Pain With Purpose—for a deep dive into the healing side of BDSM. Together, they explore how kink can be a therapeutic tool for trauma recovery, emotional release, empowerment, and reconnecting with the body after pain.

From confronting abuse triggers in a collar to understanding the difference between consensual pain and trauma reenactment, this conversation peels back the layers on what it really means to reclaim power through intentional BDSM. Mia shares the science behind “cellular memory,” the unexpected link between kink and spirituality, and how her clients—many of them high-powered men and trauma survivors—have transformed their lives through her work.

Whether you’re kink-curious, healing from trauma, or just ready to ditch shame and explore your full self—this episode offers a radically safe space to reimagine what power, submission, and self-trust can look like.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• How trauma lives in the body—and why kink can help release it

• The difference between abuse and consensual BDSM (and why consent is everything)

• What “titration” is and how it helps retrain your nervous system safely

• Why dominant men often crave submission—and what it reveals emotionally

• Using pain as a spiritual tool for rites of passage, transformation, and clarity

• The psychology of humiliation, degradation, and praise in therapeutic sessions

• What submissives really get out of being “controlled”—and it’s not what you think

• How Mistress Mia’s clients overcame anxiety, depression, and trauma (and yes, one got off antidepressants!)

• Why shame is the true block to pleasure—and how to leave it at the door

Hit play if you’re ready to heal your body, your beliefs, and your boundaries—one consensual, empowered session at a time.

#SexAndBacon #MistressMiaPayne #BDSMHealing #TraumaRecovery #KinkTherapy #PainWithPurpose #RitesOfPassage #DominatrixWisdom #EmotionalRelease #ShameFreeLiving #FemininePower #SafeKink #SexPositiveHealing #AlternativeTherapy

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 04:48 Understanding the Healing Benefits of BDSM

• 08:12 Rites of Passage and Spiritual Practices

• 11:08 Client Experiences and Transformations

• 17:02 Tools and Techniques in BDSM

• 22:03 The Therapeutic Impact of BDSM

• 29:31 Introduction to Therapeutic BDSM

• 30:17 Challenges and Misconceptions

• 31:00 Coming Out and Acceptance

• 32:47 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth

• 37:03 Session Costs and Customization

• 40:19 Boundaries and Limits

• 44:22 Client Relationships and Communication

Connect with Mia Payne

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke

• Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

What if your biggest heartbreaks, failures, and messy breakdowns weren’t the end of your story—but the beginning of your magic?

In this bold, beautiful, and brutally honest episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Michelle Burke—author of Hot Mess Magic—for a heart-opening conversation about owning your chaos, finding power in your pain, and learning how to rise without needing to be "put together" first.

From losing her dad and grandma within weeks to screaming grief into the sand on a frozen Jersey beach, Michelle shares the raw truth behind what it means to discover the magic in your mess. They explore what “dark feminine energy” really looks like (spoiler: it’s not about manipulation—it’s about unapologetic power), why emotional availability in dating starts with self-honesty, and how sitting in discomfort is the only way to truly heal.

If you've ever felt like a disaster in lipstick—or worried you’re too broken to find love, success, or peace—this one’s your reminder that messy doesn’t mean unworthy. It means you’re mid-alchemy.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• What “dark feminine energy” really means—and how to embody it with confidence

• Why your mess might be your greatest teacher (and how to reframe your pain)

• The truth about emotional unavailability—his, and yours

• Releasing rage and grief through physical movement, not emotional bypassing

• How to date with power—even if your life feels like a chaotic dumpster fire

• The magic of mirror work, solo dates, and becoming the love you seek

• Setting boundaries, letting go of friendships, and outgrowing your old self

• Why vulnerability is the portal to deeper connection, healing, and community

🎧 Hit play if you're tired of pretending you're fine, and ready to feel powerful because of your mess—not in spite of it.

#SexAndBacon #HotMessMagic #DarkFeminineEnergy #HealingEra #FeelYourFeelings #SelfWorthJourney #DatingWhileHealing #EmotionalAvailability #ReclaimYourPower #MessyHealing #UnfilteredFeminine #PersonalAlchemy

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 01:02 What is “dark feminine energy,” really?

• 02:25 Why women put others first—and how to stop

• 03:56 The birth of Hot Mess Magic and the story behind the book

• 07:13 Finding magic during grief, chaos, and emotional breakdowns

• 09:04 “Show me the truth”—the mantra that changed everything

• 10:56 Don’t bypass the pain: feel it, but don’t become it

• 12:00 Rage, grief, and kickboxing as therapy

• 14:52 What emotionally unavailable actually looks like in men (and women)

• 17:32 Dating during a hot mess—what to do, what not to

• 18:56 Becoming the love you want: solo dates, mirror notes, and self-devotion

• 21:34 Letting go of people you’ve outgrown—and the guilt that comes with it

• 24:26 You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with

• 25:42 Learning to receive instead of chasing in relationships

• 26:55 The art of not settling—and how to hold your standards

• 28:44 What kind of man are you actually calling in?

• 29:51 The masks we wear—and how isolation keeps us stuck

• 31:00 Releasing shame around money, failure, and public messiness

• 33:02 The power of safe community, storytelling, and permission

• 34:44 Final thoughts: give yourself permission to want more—and go for it

Connect with Michelle

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke

• Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

What if everything you believed about love, sex, and marriage was built on shame—and it nearly destroyed you?

In this raw, rebellious, and soul-awakening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Carolee and Britton—former devout Mormons turned sexual freedom seekers—for an unfiltered conversation about unlearning religious programming, healing from infidelity, and discovering the power of sex magic.

They dive into how growing up Mormon created deep repression, guilt, and silence around sexuality—and how it all came to a head in their marriage through betrayal, disconnection, and years of internalized shame. But instead of falling apart, Carolee and Britton chose the path of radical self-responsibility, spiritual awakening, and shadow work (with a few smashed picture frames and moonlit rituals along the way).

From smashing purity culture to manifesting their dream home mid-orgasm, this episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules—and reclaiming your body, your voice, and your pleasure.
🔥 This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt broken by belief systems, but still dreamed of rising whole.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• How religious shame shapes our sexuality—and what it takes to unlearn it

• The silent toll of purity culture on women’s bodies, desire, and confidence

• Infidelity, emotional immaturity, and the deeper wounds underneath cheating

• Why healing together sometimes means burning everything down first

• What “sex magic” actually is—and how it can transform your life

• The power of psychedelic medicine, astrology, and conscious co-creation

• How Carolee and Britton rebuilt a marriage on truth, not tradition

🎧 Hit play if you’ve ever questioned the beliefs you were raised with—or wanted a relationship that’s wildly more aligned, embodied, and soul-fueled.
#SexAndBacon #DeconstructingReligion #SexualLiberation #MormonDeconstruction #InfidelityRecovery #SexMagic #HealingTogether #ConsciousRelationships #ShadowWork #DivineFeminine #MarriageRebirth #ReclaimYourPower #UnlearnAndRebuild

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 01:52 Growing Up Mormon

• 03:55 Sexual Repression and Infidelity

• 04:25 Carol Lee's Perspective on Sexual Shame

• 10:56 Early Marriage Challenges

• 25:56 Infidelity and Its Impact

• 34:32 Therapy and Healing

• 38:29 Leaving the Mormon Church

• 42:52 Magic Reenters Our Lives

• 43:04 Emotional Healing and Sound Therapy

• 43:36 The Journey of Reeducation

• 45:33 Facing Betrayal and Healing

• 47:13 Rage and Release Rituals

• 51:51 Redefining Relationships

• 56:59 Sex Magic and Manifestation

• 01:07:44 Overcoming Judgment and Shame

• 01:17:54 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Britton and Carolee

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themagicalstoryofus/

• Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7aiuVvWeplDXFJOmTFpwqc

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themagicalstoryofus

• Website: https://themagicalstoryofus.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com