What if the thing you’re most afraid of… is the very key to your healing?

In this powerful, raw, and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Mistress Mia Payne—owner of Pain With Purpose—for a deep dive into the healing side of BDSM. Together, they explore how kink can be a therapeutic tool for trauma recovery, emotional release, empowerment, and reconnecting with the body after pain.

From confronting abuse triggers in a collar to understanding the difference between consensual pain and trauma reenactment, this conversation peels back the layers on what it really means to reclaim power through intentional BDSM. Mia shares the science behind “cellular memory,” the unexpected link between kink and spirituality, and how her clients—many of them high-powered men and trauma survivors—have transformed their lives through her work.

Whether you’re kink-curious, healing from trauma, or just ready to ditch shame and explore your full self—this episode offers a radically safe space to reimagine what power, submission, and self-trust can look like.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• How trauma lives in the body—and why kink can help release it

• The difference between abuse and consensual BDSM (and why consent is everything)

• What “titration” is and how it helps retrain your nervous system safely

• Why dominant men often crave submission—and what it reveals emotionally

• Using pain as a spiritual tool for rites of passage, transformation, and clarity

• The psychology of humiliation, degradation, and praise in therapeutic sessions

• What submissives really get out of being “controlled”—and it’s not what you think

• How Mistress Mia’s clients overcame anxiety, depression, and trauma (and yes, one got off antidepressants!)

• Why shame is the true block to pleasure—and how to leave it at the door

Hit play if you’re ready to heal your body, your beliefs, and your boundaries—one consensual, empowered session at a time.

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We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 04:48 Understanding the Healing Benefits of BDSM

• 08:12 Rites of Passage and Spiritual Practices

• 11:08 Client Experiences and Transformations

• 17:02 Tools and Techniques in BDSM

• 22:03 The Therapeutic Impact of BDSM

• 29:31 Introduction to Therapeutic BDSM

• 30:17 Challenges and Misconceptions

• 31:00 Coming Out and Acceptance

• 32:47 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth

• 37:03 Session Costs and Customization

• 40:19 Boundaries and Limits

• 44:22 Client Relationships and Communication

Connect with Mia Payne

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke

• Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com