In this special bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B turns the spotlight on the pleasure chapter of her book, No Holes Bared, opening up a candid and empowering conversation about the importance of pleasure education—especially for women navigating a world full of mixed messages around sex and self-worth.

[00:00] The episode kicks off with a deep dive into what pleasure education really means, why it's often overlooked, and how reclaiming that knowledge can be transformative. Mandii reflects on her own journey, offering personal stories about her upbringing and how early relationships shaped her views on intimacy and self-acceptance.

[13:01] As she unpacks the challenges of early adulthood, Mandii speaks openly about learning to prioritize her own needs, emotionally and physically, in relationships. [27:11] The conversation turns to self-pleasure and sexual exploration, emphasizing the role these experiences play in developing confidence, body autonomy, and emotional clarity.

[27:41] A moment of unexpected connection leads into a broader discussion on safety and trust, especially when trying new things. [28:10] Mandii shares how learning to set boundaries helped her feel empowered, not only in intimate moments but in life at large. [29:57] The episode explores how past relationships can influence future choices, highlighting the ways personal growth often stems from heartbreak and healing.

[31:34] Mandii breaks down what it really means to “shoot your shot”, revealing how confidence, fear of rejection, and vulnerability all play a part in pursuing what (or who) you want. [35:40] The conversation expands into sexual liberation, exploring the delicate balance between exploration and setting personal boundaries. [41:19] Mandii contextualizes these experiences within cultural norms, especially the stigmas that often shape women’s understanding of pleasure and sexuality.

[47:20] The episode closes with reflections on how relationships—romantic, platonic, and with oneself—continue to evolve, and how embracing pleasure, in all its forms, is a key part of that growth.

This episode is a personal and powerful reminder that pleasure is not just about sex—it’s about agency, curiosity, healing, and joy.

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In this episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandi B dives into the often polarizing and deeply personal topic of politics within the Black community. [00:00] The episode begins by framing the conversation around the growing alignment with Republican ideologies, setting the stage for an honest exploration of what’s behind these shifting political identities.

[02:51] The hosts unpack the tension many Black voters feel—caught between traditional party loyalties and dissatisfaction with how their needs have been addressed. [06:11] Guests Carla Will Maris and Ray Daniels join the conversation, bringing their own experiences and perspectives on what it means to claim a political identity in today’s climate.

[08:48] A spirited debate unfolds around personal responsibility and the impact of supporting certain policies, with each speaker challenging assumptions and raising hard questions about where values and interests intersect. [11:47] The discussion moves into the terrain of trans rights and gender identity, exploring how these issues have become lightning rods in political discourse and what real allyship requires.

[14:56] The hosts consider the role of media in shaping public perception, examining how narratives are constructed—and manipulated—to sway opinions and reinforce division. [17:45] Abortion and women’s rights take center stage next, with an honest look at the stakes for marginalized communities when reproductive freedom is politicized.

[20:56] The conversation broadens to the intersection of race, gender, and politics, unpacking how layered identities shape not only individual beliefs but also the collective priorities of the Black community. Finally, [23:47] reflections on the importance of civic engagement and understanding diverse perspectives, even—and especially—when they challenge our own.

This episode is a reminder that political alignment is never just about party lines. It’s about history, identity, and the courage to wrestle with uncomfortable truths in search of progress.

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In this bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B is joined by music journalist Jayson Rodriguez and cultural curator A-King for a deep, soulful dive into the world of R&B. [00:00] The conversation kicks off with a look at R&B’s cultural impact, tracing how the genre has served as both a mirror and a balm for generations of listeners.

[03:08] The trio explores the evolution of R&B within the music industry, from its gospel and soul roots to its intersections with pop and hip-hop. They reflect on [06:01] what truly defines R&B, arguing that the emotional depth, lived experience, and vulnerability in the music are what make it timeless.

[08:48] The discussion shifts to the role of media in shaping R&B’s visibility, and how the genre’s presence has changed on major platforms. From there, they break down [12:07] today’s R&B landscape, spotlighting emerging artists, and asking whether the genre is truly experiencing a renaissance—or if it’s still fighting for space.

[15:00] Hip-hop’s influence on R&B comes into focus, both as a source of collaboration and creative tension. [17:48] Nostalgia enters the chat as the group reminisces about classic sounds, beloved groups, and the feeling that something essential has been lost in the transition to modern trends.

[20:40] They dig into the evolution of vocal standards, noting how raw vocal ability has often taken a back seat to aesthetics and production polish. That leads into [23:53] a conversation about the challenges and opportunities shaping R&B’s future—from streaming culture to label support and artist independence.

The episode doesn’t shy away from nuance. [38:47] They unpack the shift from "thug love" to hyper-masculinity in male R&B, questioning what this means for intimacy and expression. [42:29] The aesthetic evolution of artists—from fashion to persona—gets its own spotlight, while [44:24] nostalgia and critiques of the genre’s supposed "decline" add further layers to the dialogue.

[50:20] The conversation turns to women in R&B, debating whether they're thriving or still being boxed in by industry expectations. As the energy rises, the group shares their dream lineups for [54:36] future R&B tours and collaborations, imagining what a curated revival could look like.

To wrap things up, they discuss [01:00:29] the legacy of R&B through the lens of underrated and overrated albums, and [01:09:26] share their predictions and hopes for the future of the genre—highlighting artists to watch, sonic shifts on the horizon, and the timeless power of R&B when done right.

This episode is a love letter, a critique, and a call to action for anyone who’s ever had their heart healed by a hook or a harmony.

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