In this special bonus episode of Selective Ignorance, Mandii B turns the spotlight on the pleasure chapter of her book, No Holes Bared, opening up a candid and empowering conversation about the importance of pleasure education—especially for women navigating a world full of mixed messages around sex and self-worth.

[00:00] The episode kicks off with a deep dive into what pleasure education really means, why it's often overlooked, and how reclaiming that knowledge can be transformative. Mandii reflects on her own journey, offering personal stories about her upbringing and how early relationships shaped her views on intimacy and self-acceptance.

[13:01] As she unpacks the challenges of early adulthood, Mandii speaks openly about learning to prioritize her own needs, emotionally and physically, in relationships. [27:11] The conversation turns to self-pleasure and sexual exploration, emphasizing the role these experiences play in developing confidence, body autonomy, and emotional clarity.

[27:41] A moment of unexpected connection leads into a broader discussion on safety and trust, especially when trying new things. [28:10] Mandii shares how learning to set boundaries helped her feel empowered, not only in intimate moments but in life at large. [29:57] The episode explores how past relationships can influence future choices, highlighting the ways personal growth often stems from heartbreak and healing.

[31:34] Mandii breaks down what it really means to “shoot your shot”, revealing how confidence, fear of rejection, and vulnerability all play a part in pursuing what (or who) you want. [35:40] The conversation expands into sexual liberation, exploring the delicate balance between exploration and setting personal boundaries. [41:19] Mandii contextualizes these experiences within cultural norms, especially the stigmas that often shape women’s understanding of pleasure and sexuality.

[47:20] The episode closes with reflections on how relationships—romantic, platonic, and with oneself—continue to evolve, and how embracing pleasure, in all its forms, is a key part of that growth.

This episode is a personal and powerful reminder that pleasure is not just about sex—it’s about agency, curiosity, healing, and joy.

“No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto Of Sexual Exploration And Power” w/ Tempest X!
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