Does your teen shut down when you encourage them? Avoid toxic positivity and find the ‘sweet spot’ of support. Sooo, your amazing teen athlete or performer just had an "Oops!" They bombed an audition, missed the game-winning shot, or flubbed a major performance. Of course you want to lift them up, but how? If you get this wrong, you risk losing credibility—or worse, making them feel dismissed. So, let's get it right.

Join us as we dive head first into how leaving Parent Mode and entering Coach Mode can help you deliver the neutral encouragement that is genuine and steers clear of toxic positivity. As the kids like to say, "let's get real!"

Get to Your Stuff

00:00 Teaser: What If This Backfires?

02:26 The Risks of Encouragement: Pressure and Toxic Positivity

06:57 Navigating Emotions: Parent Mode to Coach Mode

10:16 Real-Life Scenarios: The "Failure"

14:30 Zip it and Listen: Processing Emotions Together

22:02 Creation Corner: The QOC Tool and a Parent Invitation

The Gold Nuggets

• Encouragement can create unnecessary pressure on your teen athlete/performer.
• Toxic positivity can destroy credibility.
• Emotions should be viewed as neutral, not positive or negative.
• Assuming you know how they feel after "failure" can be a losing game!
• Listening is more effective than giving advice.
• Open communication fosters emotional processing.
• Tools like the QOC can transform your parent/teen relationship.

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And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching, tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).

-Nate & Steve