Episode Title: Is It Normal to Be Drawn to or Retreat from Grandiose Personalities?

Episode Summary:
In this episode of Normal but Not, we dive into the fascinating—and often misunderstood—dynamic between people pleasers and grandiose personalities. Why are some of us irresistibly drawn to—or instinctively retreat from—narcissistic traits? I explore this "normal but not" connection, peeling back the layers to uncover how childhood wounds, like the narcissistic mother or father wound, shape these patterns.

You'll learn:

• What grandiosity really is and how it serves as a survival strategy for narcissists.
• The toxic dance between people pleasers and grandiose personalities, and why it feels so familiar.
• The difference between the narcissistic mother wound and father wound—and how each leaves its mark.
• Three actionable steps to break free from this dynamic, including setting boundaries, healing your inner child, and recognizing unhealthy patterns.

Plus, I share personal stories and real-life examples to help you spot these dynamics in your own life and take the first steps toward healthier relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Grandiosity is an inflated sense of self-importance, often masking deep insecurity.
• People pleasers and narcissists engage in a push-pull dynamic rooted in unmet childhood needs.
• Recognizing and healing your inner child is crucial to breaking free from this cycle.

Workshop Alert:
🎉 Trauma to Triumph: Setting Boundaries that Transform in 1 Hour is now open for registration! 🎉
If you’re ready to stop people-pleasing and create guilt-free boundaries that feel empowering and aligned, this workshop is for you. Grab your spot now through the link here or in the show notes.

Free Resource:
Download my free guide: Are You Stuck in the Narcissist-People Pleaser Dance? Discover How to Break Free! Download here.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Cheat Sheet: Setting Boundaries Without Guilt Download here.
• Bill Eddy’s work on high-conflict personalities.
• Terry Real’s concept of narcissistic grandiosity.

Let’s Connect:

• Follow me on Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal
• Check out my podcast Reclaim Your Pleasure: Link here

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🎙 We’ll be back in January after a short holiday break. See you in the new year!

Episode Summary
People-pleasing may seem normal, but it’s far from healthy. In this episode of Normal but Not, Krystal Centinello unpacks the truth behind people-pleasing behaviors and explores the four main types of people pleasers: The Caretaker, The Peacekeeper, The True Pleaser, and The Manager. Drawing from her personal experiences and trauma-informed expertise, Krystal breaks down how these patterns develop, why they persist, and how you can start reclaiming your authenticity.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
💡 What people-pleasing really is (hint: it’s not kindness).
💡 The fears and environments that create people-pleasing behaviors.
💡 The four types of people pleasers and how they show up in your life.
💡 Actionable steps to stop people-pleasing and start living authentically.
💡 How to identify your type of people-pleaser with a free quiz tailored just for you.

Take the Quiz
Ready to discover your people-pleasing type? Take Krystal’s free quiz and get personalized tips to break free from people-pleasing patterns. Go to KrystalCentinello.com/type to take the quiz.

Actionable Steps to Break Free from People-Pleasing
✔️ Name It to Tame It: Identify your type and recognize when you’re acting to meet others’ expectations rather than your own.
✔️ Set Small Boundaries: Practice saying “no” or voicing your opinion in low-stakes situations.
✔️ Practice Self-Compassion: Celebrate small wins and be patient with yourself as you unlearn these patterns.

Join the Conversation
Have you struggled with people-pleasing? Which type resonates with you most? Share your thoughts on Instagram and tag @completecoachingwithkrystal to join the conversation!

Follow & Connect
✨ Follow Krystal for more tips on boundaries, empowerment, and reclaiming your authenticity:
Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal

Don’t Forget to Subscribe!
If you loved this episode, subscribe to Normal but Not and leave a review to help more recovering people pleasers find the show. See you next week!

In this episode of Normal but Not, Krystal Centinello dives into the comparison trap we all fall into—especially on social media. Is it normal to feel like you don’t measure up? Yes. But is it healthy? Not so much. Krystal shares personal stories, explores why we compare ourselves to others, and offers actionable steps to break free from the toxic spiral of self-doubt.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why comparison feels so natural and yet so harmful.
• How social media fuels our insecurities.
• The importance of shifting your focus inward.
• Practical strategies to stop comparing and start celebrating your own journey.

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Actionable Steps:

1. Journal Your Thoughts: Challenge comparison triggers by questioning their truth.
2. Limit Social Media Time: Unfollow accounts that don’t serve you.
3. Practice Gratitude: Focus on what’s good in your life.
4. Affirm Your Worth: Use daily affirmations to celebrate your uniqueness.
5. Celebrate Your Wins: Recognize your achievements—big or small.
6. Pause and Reflect: Explore what jealousy is telling you about your desires.

Resources & Links:

• Connect with Krystal on Instagram: @completecoachingwithkrystal
• Visit her website for tools and workshops: www.krystalcentinello.com
• Sign up for the FREE From Trauma to Triumph workshop: Setting Boundaries that Transform in 1 Hour

Stay Connected:
Subscribe to Normal but Not and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement. You’re not alone in this journey, and together we can redefine what’s truly “normal.”