Whispered correction. Passive reprimands. Calm that isn’t calm at all. In this powerful episode, Dr. Charlie Hornes shares a behind-the-scenes story of leading worship while silently dissociating after being publicly shamed, in private.

If you’ve ever smiled through tears, nodded through rage, or dissociated in plain sight while holding everything together, this episode is for you.

Learn why your nervous system freezes under low-volume harm, how chronic composure becomes a trauma response, and why you were never meant to carry it all alone.

This isn’t about being sensitive—it’s about being human. And it’s time to stop calling survival strength. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp

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📍 Questions This Episode Answers

✔ What is low-volume trauma in leadership settings?

✔ Why do high-functioning women ignore emotional harm?

✔ How does the nervous system process passive-aggressive behavior?

✔ What is the cost of composure in leadership roles?

✔ Why do I dissociate during stress but still function?

✔ How does perfectionism relate to survival response?

✔ What is shadow reprimanding and why is it harmful?

📌 Key Takeaways

✔ Low-volume trauma registers as threat, even when it’s whispered.

✔ Your nervous system doesn’t differentiate between yelling and whisper-yelling—it responds to threat.

✔ Chronic composure is often a trauma mask.

✔ Over-functioning is not resilience; it’s internal exile.

✔ You’re not “too sensitive”—you’re responding to sustained, invisible harm.

✔ Systems thrive on your silence. Self-leadership starts when you reclaim your voice.

🕒 Chapter Timestamps

00:00 - The newsletter typo & whispered violence in the sanctuary

2:15 - Leading worship while dissociating

4:05 - Systems that humiliate without shouting

6:34 - When composure becomes a trauma response

8:22 - Why high-functioners ghost their own bodies

9:29 - You were never meant to carry it all

12:16 - Burnout is not laziness—it’s misaligned purpose

13:11 - You’re not overreacting—your harm is real

🔗 Resources & Next Steps

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Stop performing your life—start living it on purpose. You were never meant to stay safe. You were meant to lead.