There’s curiosity. There’s concern. There’s some serious side-eye.

Danielle’s essay, “AI IS NOT YOUR BEST LIFE COACH,” stirred up a flood of responses—some celebratory, some cautionary. In this episode, she goes deeper into our growing relationship with AI—from life coaching to spiritual support—and asks: What happens when we start outsourcing our inner wisdom to technology?

There’s more than one side to this conversation.

Danielle shares community responses—insightful, and deeply felt—and reflects on why spiritual maturity requires discernment, and why human-to-human healing will always remain irreplaceable.

In this episode:

• Why dependency on AI for spiritual direction is dangerous
• How AI can fawn instead of truly support—and why that matters
• Community perspectives: cautious, hopeful, clear-eyed
• The real cost of convenience when it comes to creativity + soul
• Why authentic connection still matters more than ever
• And Danielle’s off-the-cuff response to the baiter debaters

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• AI Is Not Your Best Life Coach: LISTEN | READ
• The (Significant) Downside to Fawning: LISTEN | READ
• Eoin Finn’s YOGA OPTIMIZED—look into it here.
• Join The Heart Centered Collective for just $7/month
• Nourish System—reduce stress and restore your nervous system.
• The Archives: Read on Substack
• Never miss an episode → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE.
• Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

Fawning is a trauma response. And it’s one we don’t talk about enough.

In this episode, Danielle is digging into fawning as a default stress response. Most people misunderstand it. Fawning isn’t just being nice or deferential—it’s a survival mechanism that many of us picked up in childhood, and now it’s messing with our relationships, our confidence, and even our nervous system.

She unpacks how fawning isn’t as physiological as fight, flight, or freeze—it’s more of a personality gimmick. We think it’s safer to please other people than to be our authentic selves. And that… erodes trust in every direction.

In this episode:

• The difference between fawning and other stress responses
• How childhood (and chronic stress) trains us to fawn
• A real story of working with someone who fawned—and how it impacted trust
• The connection between fawning and chronic pain or illness
• Why spiritual practice is the antidote
• Healing practices to transmute the fawn response with love

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz
• AI Is Not Your Best Life Coach: LISTEN | READ
• Get the full class: 6 Ways To Cleanse Your Energy Field inside The Heart Centered Collective
• Nourish System—reduce stress and restore your nervous system.
• The Archives: Read on Substack
• Never miss an episode → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE.

I wrote this tagline once for The Sacred: “Girlfriend vibe meets spiritual depth.” I’m going to FULLY deliver on that today.

My sister-friend Joey WhatsApp-called me from Egypt. We were in the philosophical MOOD, jacked on temple light and New Moon-ness. These wisdom nuggets are the highlights.

In this episode:

• Girlfriendship is a spiritual practice
• Energy as currency—and how to build equity
• What activities earn or cost your energy units
• The empath’s guide to protecting joy
• The opportunity cost of overthinking
• Why change doesn’t need to take time—it needs a decision.

Also: Fat-burning and lush hair. Should I start eating meat again? I’m allergic to lash glue. And I just got this Castor Oil with Rosemary from Living Libations that I like for my eyebrows and hair roots.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The Heart Centered Collective. Get the new class—6 Ways To Cleanse Your Energy Field, for just $7.
• Castor Oil from Living Libations
• 💌 Get the written version of The Sacred every Friday—a personal letter from Danielle, with exclusive photos you won’t find anywhere else. You can read, listen, feel—you can heal. Subscribe here.
• Never miss an episode → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE.

I’ve never used ChatGPT. Couldn’t tell you how to do it. So, not surprisingly…

I’ve never used AI for life guidance. And I never will. Because turning to algorithms for soul advice? That’s not evolution—it’s devolution.

But…asking AI for life advice and personal goal-setting is ACTUALLY TRENDING.

Heavy sigh.

This week, I’m naming what’s happening underneath all the dopamine hits.

We’ve worked too hard to break free from shallow psychotherapists and profit-centric Priestesses to fall for Chat-f*cking-GPT subbing as our next spiritual advisor.

Want real wisdom? Put the phone down. It’s less sexy, and the dopamine is modest. But the results of self-referencing and a loving support system lead to your radiant power.

In this episode:

• Why asking AI for spiritual guidance or life advice is a dangerous dependency
• Fawning as emotional manipulation—human and algorithmic
• How AI reflects your hungry ghost back to you (with charm)
• What true, self-sourced consciousness looks like in a world of synthetic wisdom

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The Heart Centered Collective. Get the new class—6 Ways To Cleanse Your Energy Field, for just $7.
• 💌 Get the written version of The Sacred every Friday—a personal letter from Danielle, with exclusive photos you won’t find anywhere else. You can read, listen, feel—you can heal. Subscribe here.
• Never miss an episode → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE.

Not all of your feelings are yours. Knowing this will help you navigate your entire life with more ease. Feeling other people’s feelings—momentarily or ongoingly, but in a very intentional way—can be a form of service. The more conscious we become, the more “sensing” we will be. And please, this is not to be mistaken with being overly sensitive and dysregulated, okay?

I talk about shadow eaters. I talk about empathic normies. I talk about the sensitive folks who need to learn how to NOT carry what they’re picking up on. Because there is NO SENSE or SERVICE in letting the suffering of humanity ruin your capacity to function and re-stabilize in joy.

This is the work.

In this episode:

• The day I felt suicidal energy that wasn’t mine
• Where some feelings actually come from (hint: not your brain)
• Who the “shadow eaters” are—and why they’re rare
• Why Love isn’t a feeling (and what it actually is)
• How to stop overidentifying with suffering
• Being empathic doesn’t make you more special—it makes you responsible
• Spiritual support is not optional—it’s essential

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• You’ll need support to stay resilient in these wild times—join The Heart Centered Collective
• I go deeper into chakras + consciousness in my book, How To Be Loving
• Explore spiritual practices and tools at daniellelaporte.com/shop
• 💌 Get the written version of The Sacred every Friday—a personal letter from Danielle, with exclusive photos you won’t find anywhere else. You can read, listen, feel—you can heal. Subscribe here.
• Never miss an episode → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE.

I’ve been in a pendulum swing of suffering and joy lately—and as ever, I hope what I share is a popcorn trail through the dark for you. Because there’s always another side.

This episode is inspired by a poem from D.H. Lawrence that’s become a mantra for me: “Are you willing to be made nothing?” The Phoenix only renews when she’s burnt to flocculent ash. Immortal bird, anyone?

This is my unfiltered download on what it means to truly rise. I’m talking about sacred surrender, resilience as your true nature, why guilt is a pathway to innocence, and how even a day of crying in bed can be an act of devotion.

Plus, I riff on my philosopher boyfriends (Krishnamurti and Leonard Cohen) and my metaphysical bestie, Manly P. Hall.

This one’s personal and poetic—just how I like it.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• The Rituals Class – A free live class to help you choose—and stick to, better habits. Saturday, March 29 at 9am PT | 12pm ET.
• How To Be Loving – For deeper teachings on Acceptance, Compassion + Soul Qualities
• Gail Larsen’s last speaking Immersion.

Are you waiting on better habits to fix your life?

We’re going esoterically practical today. I’m talking about the difference between habits and rituals. Habits are from the intellect. Rituals are from the heart. One can burn you out, the other can bless your life.

In Eps 174 of With Love, Danielle, I walk you through a handful of practices that have supported me over the years: a ritual for connecting to your inner child, a list of what you trust (to calm the nervous system), chanting your own name (yep, it’s powerful), and looking into your own eyes with loving-kindness.

You’ll leave with real things you can try today—and a personal invitation to my free class:

THE RITUALS CLASS

Practices to help you choose—and stick to, better habits.
Saturday, March 29
9am PT | 12pm ET
daniellelaporte.com/rituals

In this episode:

• The real difference between rituals and habits (and why it matters)
• Why most habit advice leads to burnout, not peace
• How ritual infuses your actions with meaning, energy, and love
• Why discipline can numb the mind (Krishnamurti said it best)
• How to bless your habits with Divine support

Mentioned in this episode:

Join the free class:
THE RITUALS CLASS
Saturday, March 29 | 9am PT | 12pm ET
daniellelaporte.com/rituals

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Hello, Loves…

Today, since the world feels like a roller coaster on fire, consider this a palate cleanser edition.

In this episode:

• Films I’ve loved about women liberating themselves—from Widow Cliquot to Pamela Anderson in The Last Showgirl
• Multitasking + healing with red light therapy—my go-to for melasma, immunity, and sinus health.
• Manifesting my next home. I have great habitat karma.
• Motherhood’s mixed f*cking bag—ugly crying over scissors and Band-Aids as my son preps to move.
• Breathing into your heart—the most direct route to sanity in these wild times.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Read the full written edition of the episode here—with links to all the movies + things.

Nose Glow appliance from Nadine Artemis’ Living Libations

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