Whenever two or more people are interacting, there's a power flow between them – we just don't know what's happening. 

While water is to fish, power is to people. It is the medium we swim in. But it's usually invisible to us. We don't really see it when someone powers up on you or you're made to feel small when someone's talking. Whether it’s in a parent-child relationship, in a work environment, or even between friends, there is a power flow that exists between two people.

What's important is how we manage the flow of power between us – because sometimes, the flow of power gets messed up in the way we communicate. When you have respectful power flowing from one person to another, it brings influence. But when there is disrespectful power, it exerts control. When you are in a controlling kind of relationship, then you're not able to sustain a sense of closeness and safety between people. It’s all about mutual submission – and mutual love.

Today, we are talking about power struggles, the #1 up and down struggle that all couples experience. We may not even be aware that we are in a power struggle because they are so ubiquitous in every negotiation we take on in our relationships. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• What is power?
• 3 ways to balance the power flow
• Useful scripts to help bring balance to the power flow in your relationship
• The 7 benefits of balancing power in your relationship

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In many relationships, there seems to be that inflection point where you decide to go forward together, or you decide to go forward separately. But can you come back from years of unhappiness? 

Especially, when couples are getting to the empty nester stage, they are asking the question of whether they can come back from this long phase of unhappiness that they've had together. It's complex because there are a lot of things – kids, future grandkids, the house, money, friends, family members – that hold them together. 

But those things are not enough to generate happiness. They have to be able to find that together, and the only way that's going to happen is through something called the mutuality factor. In other words, there has to be a mutual interest in trying to make it work. One person cannot do the work of two to make a marriage happy. It requires both. 

In this episode, we will walk you through the five ways to cure years of unhappiness and effect change that you might want to see in your relationship. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• Shared humility and forgiveness
• Dismantling of walls
• Moving from disrespect to respect
• Persistent effort on the part of the couple
• Investment in good times together
• A quick script for getting back on the right track

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Most of us are fairly good at working through minor problems, which are common in every relationship. But when we have those major conflicts, we often don't have the right kind of tools to communicate our way through them. 

What a lot of couples end up doing is stockpiling their problems instead of resolving them. And so, when future conflicts arise, what comes out are reruns from those stockpiled problems. If couples are not good at being able to resolve these things, then they just have more arguments stockpiled. They don't know how to work through things and start to avoid certain topics. This leads to resentment and some emotional drifting. 

Sometimes, too, people make major problems out of minor problems, and there are others who have major problems and they're minimizing them. So things could get pretty complicated. 

In this episode, we discuss how you can work through these major problems. We particularly illustrate a sample scenario and some language you could use in the event you find yourself in similar situations.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Focusing on the problem, not the person
• Keeping your emotions in check
• Using the "I" terminology to express your thoughts and feelings
• Giving mutual consideration to each other's input
• Validation is the most powerful element of communication.
• Collaborating to find a mutually satisfying resolution

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