This episode is about the rules we inherit—spoken and unspoken, cultural and familial—and how to discern whether they’re truly in service to our lives. So many of our thoughts, standards, and habits are built on default settings we didn’t consciously choose. What would it look like to pause, question, and redefine them?

Buffy asks questions like: What expectations are we unconsciously trying to meet? Which rules have we internalized without realizing it? And what could happen if we let them go?

This is an invitation to build systems of thought and ways of being that align with your true values—not just the values you were handed. It's not about throwing everything out; it's about becoming more intentional with what you keep.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

What is occupying your time and energy? Do these things actively contribute to your life? And if not - how do you begin to shift course when the investment runs deep?

Using the lens of the sunk cost fallacy, Buffy reflects on how challenging it can be to release something we've poured ourselves into. She posits that staying out of habit, history, or fear of change can block the natural evolution of our lives.

Inspired by the seasonal shift of the summer solstice, Buffy invites listeners to consider what needs to be brought into the light—and what might need to be gently folded into the dark. She introduces the concept of becoming a hollow bone—an active practice of clearing space, listening deeply, and allowing truth to move through you without resistance.

Changing your mind isn’t failure. It’s alignment. It’s listening. It’s choosing now over nostalgia. And it’s often the bravest thing we can do. Let this episode be a companion if you’re feeling the urge to pivot, release, or begin again.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.

At any given moment, we may be experiencing a major beginning or a major ending; in this episode, Buffy explores why marking these moments matter, and how to do that. She reflects on how ritual can help us digest loss, honor change, and find our way forward. What could be possible when you purposefully witness meaningful transitions in your life? Ceremony creates a space to pause, digest meaning, and name what’s been lost and gained.

This episode offers gentle ways to slow down and honor where you are. Listeners will walk away with rituals they can integrate into everyday life to mark any moment.

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Contributors: Buffy Barfoot (Host and Producer). Alex Ammons (Producer and Editor). Matthew Cooper (Original music). Cover art by Ritual Made.