Mental health is rooted in emotional health.

Douglas Robbins is an authentic and creative person, a bestseller author of six books, and a podcast host. Douglas explores diverse genres—sci-fi, romance, and contemporary literature while focusing on characters undergoing personal growth, navigating life’s complexities, and embracing introspective narratives. In today’s deep exploration of childhood experiences, emotional intelligence and all the shortcomings in the educational system, Douglas and Bonnie address all things that affect our well-being.

Childhood upbringing leaves marks on us but society's mark is also strong, as Douglas shares his experience with his father’s father's stoicism and the societal pressure for men to suppress emotions that make it hard for them to cope leaving them in quiet desperation, while women can be socially and emotionally more adaptive it is not easy for them either.

It is very important to use all the tools we can -like journaling, meditation, and questioning negative beliefs - to help us in our emotional health journey. Healing childhood wounds is essential for us so that we can be healthy grown-up individuals. Self-reflection, connection to others, and therapy are likewise essential for overcoming emotional struggles and living a more fulfilling life.

Show Notes:
🧠 Having emotional intelligence: you have an intellect that's developing, but emotions need to develop in parallel. 02:41
⏪ You come out into the world as an adult, but you're undeveloped: much of your personality is probably still stuck in the past. 06:29
🧒 A child has no boundaries; problems with the education system. 09:46
👦 Douglas's experience with his parents and teachers.12:41
😇 We need tools to handle all this: forgiveness, awareness, and the truthfulness of our beliefs. 16:10
⚠️ Boys have even more problems; girls are more socially inclined. 19:48
🍀 Looking at life through the filter of a past event: the importance of interconnection. 24:26
💙 Intimate relationships: Bonnie's experiences in the past with love and relationships. 27:55
👉 Emotional beliefs are hurdles that get in the way of a better life. 33:06

Links:

Meet Douglas: www.douglasrobbinsauthor.com

Books: www.amazon.com/stores/author/B009CD4K3E

Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims

Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims:calendly.com/bonnie-96

Women are conditioned to turn compliments into self-criticism, even in casual settings. The societal pressure to look a certain way often overshadows self-appreciation, and that causes so many women to focus on perceived flaws.

Nicole Christina is a psychotherapist with over 30 years of experience, specializing in anxiety, depression, grief, food and body issues, and positive aging. Today Dr. Bonnie and Nicole discuss the beauty industry and miracle products that simply don’t work, and how body-shaming is deeply intertwined throughout generations of women.

Practical advice: Instead of aiming for “body love,” women can start with the goal of body neutrality. This shift can be more accessible and realistic, allowing the movement away from shame and toward a more constructive relationship with our bodies.

Diet culture traps us in cycles of guilt and self-criticism. Nicole suggests focusing on experiences that bring joy and meaning rather than food-related anxieties. She recommends resources and tips on how to foster a gentler and more understanding approach to ourselves.

Show notes:
🤷‍♀️ Through her practice, Nicole discovered how many talented and accomplished women have problematic relationships with food. 3:21
🤔 Food-related problems usually appear around midlife and menopause. 6:16
🫥 The different reasons why women start to feel invisible. 8:54
⚠️ Looking at our body and our exercise can help us feel safe and in control: living in a world hyper-focused on looks, our weight has dire consequences. 12:59
❓ What is the purpose you're fulfilling by focusing on food and exercise? 16:42
🤯 Today, it's a radical not to hate your body. 18:02
👀 A wake-up call: who benefits from you hating your body? 19:26
🔥 Scientific research on different moisturizers. 23:01
🩱 How thin you are doesn't equal how healthy you are. 25:31
👉 If you're hanging out with chronic dieters, you're just going to stay in that indoctrination. 28:39
🥺 When we're attacking ourselves, we're both the attacker and the victim. 31:16
🌸 Try your best to stay away from junk food, and if you're physically able, get out, walk, and enjoy the beauty of life! 34:05

Links:

Website: www.nicolechristina.com

Podcast: www.zestfulaging.com

Recommended Resources:

Body Kindness by Rebecca Scritchfield

Dr. Kristen Neff’s self-compassion materials, including her workbook and YouTube videos

Connect with Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims

Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims:calendly.com/bonnie-96

I went into therapy the first time with the attitude that it wouldn’t work. The second time, I gave it another shot, and it changed everything for me.

Jen Schwytzer is a licensed social worker, foster parent, coach, and CEO of KINDfulness Coaching. She specializes in empowering individuals to unlock their full potential. She helps women navigate stress, overwhelm, or burnout, enhancing their leadership skills, advancing in their current roles, or overcoming the chaos of family life.

Jen shares her personal journey with anxiety and the transformative role therapy has played in her life. She self-diagnosed anxiety, believing she had it under control due to her background in social work. After an official diagnosis, she attended therapy with a social worker but went into the session with skepticism and a closed-off mindset. As a result, she didn’t find value in the experience and decided therapy wasn’t for her.

Several years later, facing a series of personal crises, her anxiety worsened, and she looked for help again. This time, she found a therapist she felt a genuine connection with, which marked a turning point in her mental health journey

Everyone needs a safe space to talk about what comes up for them. Therapy gives you that outside perspective to help you get yourself in check.

Notes:
🌺 Jen works with women around anxiety, burnout, stress, and overwhelm. 01:15
🦸‍♀️ Social workers are unsung heroes: Jen’s journey into social work. 03:05
👩‍💼 Jen was overwhelmed and didn’t know it: starting her coaching business. 07:22
⚠️ Warning signs in Jen’s life: symptoms of burnout and making the decision to change. 11:00
🎯 Start with small changes: taking control, inner work, and releasing external factors of control. 14:00
😇 Jen’s work on her anxiety in therapy: reasons she needed to seek therapy. 16:53
🕵️‍♀️ Choosing the right therapist: the relationship is the most important thing in therapy work. 20:49
🤓 Jen is ‘the manager’ type: allowing things to happen without her constant control. 23:08
🦺 Having a safe space to talk about issues: the power of outside perspective and tough love in life. 27:24
🏋️‍♀️ The weight on her shoulders: it’s not all about you. 30:47
💫 Trying again with therapy: being an active participant and having the right mindset. 33:07

Links:

Connect: www.linkedin.com/in/jlschwytzer

Website www.kindfulnesscoaching.com
Follow Dr. Bonnie Wims:www.linkedin.com/in/drbonniewims

Book a free call with Dr. Bonnie Wims:calendly.com/bonnie-96