“Most men are trying to be ‘nice.’ They cut off their anger, their intensity, their sexuality, their power—because they’re afraid of being too much. But here’s the truth: you don’t become powerful by rejecting your darkness. You become powerful by mastering it.”

This episode is about Jungian (yung·ee·uhn) shadow integration—the part of masculinity and self-mastery most teachers skip.You don’t need to “fix” yourself. You need to become more of yourself. And that includes the parts you’ve buried.

• Carl Jung called the shadow “the parts of ourselves we repress, deny, or disown.”

• For most men: it’s anger, lust, aggression, ambition, selfishness… power.

• Shadow isn’t evil. It’s unconscious.

“If you don’t own your shadow, it owns you.”

✅ Example:The man who never gets angry but explodes when pushed too far. The “nice guy” who secretly resents everyone.They’re not bad—they’re fragmented.

Anger is often suppressed because it's seen as destructive or volatile. But when integrated: It becomes the fire that fuels boundaries, assertiveness, and righteous action. It’s the energy that allows someone to say “No more”, to stand up for themselves or others. Healthy anger, directed with awareness, becomes courage—the willingness to confront fear, injustice, or risk.

Lust is often reduced to base desire or shameful craving. But underneath:

• It’s the desire for deep connection, to merge, to feel, to express.

• When refined and integrated, lust becomes presence and intimacy—a sacred, conscious exchange rather than just a transaction of pleasure.

• You’re no longer ruled by lust—you choose when and how to engage, and it deepens relationships rather than destabilising them.

Aggression can look violent or dominating when unchecked. But at its core:

• It’s raw power, direction, and the instinct to protect what matters.

• Integrated aggression becomes fierce clarity, focus, and commitment to mission.

• It’s what fuels warriors, protectors, creators—the force that says “This must be built. This must be defended.”

Your shadow isn’t trying to ruin your life—it’s trying to equip you. But only if you’re willing to face it. Anger, lust, aggression... they’re not flaws. They’re forces. And when you master them, they become part of your edge. Your clarity. Your power.

• The world doesn’t need more weak men pretending to be kind.

• It needs strong, integrated men who know how to protect, love, lead, and destroy if necessary.

“Being a good man doesn’t mean being tame. It means being trained.”

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate.” – Jung

The world doesn’t need more nice guys — it needs integrated men. Warriors who’ve faced their darkness and forged it into strength. Don’t tame your fire. Train it.

📌 Key Message: Your voice isn’t just communication—it’s your command presence. The way you speak can make you instantly respected or instantly dismissed. A weak voice undermines your power, while a controlled, intentional voice makes people listen, follow, and respect you.

Your voice is your greatest tool for influence.

• People don’t just hear your words—they hear your confidence (or lack of it).

• A strong voice isn’t necessarily loud—it’s controlled, steady, and intentional.

• If your voice shakes, trails off, or lacks conviction, people subconsciously doubt you.

🔹 3 Keys to Vocal Authority:

1. Projection – Speak from your diaphragm, not your throat, to add weight to your words.

2. Pacing – Slow speech signals confidence, while rushed speech signals nervousness.

3. Tonal Variation – A monotone voice loses people. Emphasise key words and phrases to create impact.

🔥 Key Lesson: If you don’t control your voice, you don’t control the room.

Your internal state shapes how others respond to you.

• Your emotional state affects your voice. If you feel insecure, anxious, or uncertain, it will be reflected in your tone.

• Energy leaks through hesitation. When you are certain, people feel it—when you doubt, they feel that too.

• Words are only 7% of communication. The other 93% is tone, body language, and energy.

🔹 3 tips on how to Align Your Voice with Your Energy:

1. Breathe deeply before speaking – Reset your nervous system.

2. Speak from a grounded place – Imagine your words coming from your core, not your head.

3. Feel the energy of your words – When you believe in what you're saying, others will too.

🔥 Key Lesson: Your voice reflects your internal state—master your emotions, and your voice will follow.

📌 Objective: To slow down your speech and add weight to your words.

✅ Exercise:

• Before speaking, take a deep 4-second inhale through your nose, hold for 2 seconds, and exhale slowly.

• Speak 20% slower than your normal pace.

• Emphasise key words by slightly lowering your tone when you say them.

• Use intentional pauses—let your words sink in before rushing to the next sentence.

🔥 Result: Speaking slowly and deliberately makes people listen.

📌 Objective: To use silence to create dominance in speech.

✅ Exercise:

• In your next conversation, pause for 1-2 seconds before answering a question.

• If someone interrupts you, pause, hold eye contact, then speak—without rushing.

• Notice how people lean in when you don’t rush to fill silences.

🔥 Result: Silence makes people pay attention. The most powerful men use it strategically.

🚀 Final Thought:Your voice is one of your greatest weapons. If you master your voice, you command respect before you even finish your first sentence.

Are you using your voice as a weapon—or are you weakening your presence with sloppy communication?

Core Message:

Sex is not a reward for effort. It’s a mirror of your energy, your self-worth, and your mastery. Stop chasing it—become worthy of it.

"Let’s be real—most men are chasing sex like it’s some prize. They’ll sleep with whoever offers it, not because they truly want to, but because they don’t believe they can have more. But here’s the truth: good sex—real connection—isn’t for the desperate, the entitled, or the lucky. It’s for the man who knows who he is.

So today we’re diving into sex, confidence, rejection, energy, and yes… the legendary Spiritual Condom."

Girl at the bar with the tattoos story

• Most men are so afraid of rejection, they reject themselves and end up just settling for whoever’s available.

• But settling isn’t strength. It’s a sign that you don’t yet believe you’re worthy of something better.

• The person you sleep with should be a reflection of your self-respect, not a reflection of your fear.

Action Step:Ask yourself, “Would I still say yes if I truly believed I was worthy of more?”

• Most men take rejection like a punch to the ego.

• But rejection is never about you as a soul. It’s about the energy you were carrying in that moment.

• Fix your vibe. Strengthen your body. Refine your communication. You’ll be shocked at how different the results are.

Quote:"She didn’t reject you. She rejected the version of you that showed up in that moment. Improve that energy—don’t internalize the outcome."

• Internal confidence. Physical and mental strength. Assurance. Trust. These are what make you powerful—not just in life, but in the bedroom.

• This isn’t about arrogance—it’s about being grounded in your own value.

• Being good in bed is a skill, not luck. Orgasm control, presence, rhythm, care—all trainable.

Key Reminder:"Being good in bed doesn’t mean being perfect—it means being present. Being in your body. Being in control."

Talking to masters and their believe your energy can be drained by others.

• Sex is an energy exchange. And if you’re not aware of that, you’ll leak your power every time.

• The “spiritual condom” isn’t fear-based—it’s choice-based. You protect yourself by protecting your energy.

• You don’t absorb someone’s low vibe just by having sex. But if you go in without awareness or boundaries—you might get drained.

• Most men are ruled by the desire for sex—so they chase it, over-value it, and settle for scraps.

• Flip the script. The man who knows his worth chooses where his energy goes. He doesn’t seek validation—he gives value.

• Sex is part of your spiritual journey. It’s not a detour—it’s a powerful practice of connection and self-expression.

"You’re not here to chase dates, relationships or even sex. You’re here to be the best you you can be, this in turn will open up these things to you. You’re not here to settle—you’re here to stand tall in your power. When you lead with embodied self-worth, when you protect your energy, when you stop seeing sex as something you need to work for—everything changes.

When you enter the space with your energy protected and engaged, when you are present in the moment, Your partners feel it.

End Challenge:

This week:

• Reflect: Are you settling in your sexual life? Are you choosing or chasing?

• Embody: Train your confidence—mentally, physically, emotionally.

• Practice: Conscious control. Awareness. Breathing. Presence.

• Protect: Use your “spiritual condom”—your intention, your boundaries, your standard.

📌 Key Message: Respect isn’t something you demand—it’s something you command through presence, discipline, and self-assurance. The most powerful men in history didn’t need to raise their voices or dominate others. Their energy, conviction, and mastery made people take notice.

Alan Watts often spoke about the power of being unapologetically yourself and how real influence comes from inner alignment, not forced dominance.

• Most men chase respect by proving themselves to others, but this is weak because it comes from seeking external validation.

• Instead, Watts emphasized the Taoist approach—when you stop forcing things and stand in your truth, people naturally respect you.

• This is why the most confident men don’t explain themselves or overcompensate. Their authenticity radiates authority.

🔥 Key Lesson: You don’t need to be loud or forceful. True power comes from knowing who you are and standing in that truth without apology.

Chris Voss, a former FBI hostage negotiator, teaches that respect and influence come from mastering tactical empathy—understanding people deeply without compromising your own authority.

• When you understand someone’s perspective, they respect you more—even if they don’t agree with you.

• Being calm and controlled under pressure signals strength. People respect those who don’t get rattled easily.

• Key negotiation tactic: The phrase “It seems like…” allows you to acknowledge someone’s stance without agreeing or weakening your position.

🔥 Key Lesson: You don’t need to prove you’re the alpha. The man who listens, observes, and commands conversations with strategic silence is always respected.

Ryan Michler (Order of Man) outlines four key traits that make a man worthy of respect:

1. Self-Sufficiency – You take responsibility for your life, body, and mind. You don’t blame others.

2. Courage – You face challenges directly, never avoiding discomfort.

3. Discipline – You master your emotions, actions, and habits.

4. Presence – You don’t shrink yourself or try to please others—your energy alone commands attention.

🔥 Key Lesson: A weak man tries to make others respect him. A strong man simply lives with honor, and respect follows naturally.

How to train your presence:

• Go out to a social setting and focus on holding your space without feeling the need to fill silences or seek approval.

• Stand tall, breathe deeply, and observe.

• When speaking, use intentional pauses—don’t rush your words.

• Notice how people start to gravitate toward you when you’re comfortable in your own silence.

🔥 Key Lesson: The man who can hold silence with confidence controls the room.

🚀 Final Thought:The strongest men in the world don’t demand respect. They embody self-mastery, presence, and discipline—and the world naturally recognises them.

Are you acting like a man worthy of respect? If not, change that today.

📌 Key Message: True power comes from mastering yourself, not controlling others.

Intro (Hook):

Personal story: I am who i am because of my core beliefs not the actions of others

🔥 Talking Points:

• “Words are like swords. A dull one is useless; a reckless one is dangerous.”

• Words are like spells. When you speak, you either cast a spell of creation or destruction—on yourself and others. If you tell yourself 'I’m weak' or 'I’ll never be successful,' that becomes your truth. The mind believes whatever you feed it."

• The first agreement is about speaking with purpose—both to yourself and others.

• Instead of saying, “I’m bad at this” → reframe it to “I’m learning this.” Instead of “I’m weak” → “I’m getting stronger.”

🔥 Action Step: Pay attention to how you speak to yourself today. Rewrite one negative thought into a powerful one.

• The truth about criticism—it’s never about you; it’s about the person giving it.

• When you take things personally, you’re making someone else’s opinion your truth.

• If you react emotionally, you’re already defeated.

• Example: winning the battle within means no outside force can shake you.

Personal story: calling my mum names in the bar

🔥 Action Step: The next time someone criticises or disrespects you, pause. Instead of reacting, observe. Is this about you, or about them?

• Assumptions create unnecessary conflict.

• Seek understanding. Ask questions. Most conflict in life isn’t because of real disagreement—it’s because of misunderstandings that come from assumptions

• Instead of assuming what someone means, ask.

• Instead of assuming failure, test it.

🔥 Action Step: Catch yourself making an assumption today. Ask instead. Seek clarity instead of guessing.

• Your best today won’t be your best tomorrow. The key is to give everything you have in the moment.

• as long as you give your best in that moment, there’s no regret. And that’s freedom.

• The Bruce Lee mindset: “Be water, my friend.” Flow with circumstances but always bring full effort.

• This is the difference between someone who reacts and someone who is reactive

🔥 Action Step: At the end of today, reflect—did you give your best? If not, where can you improve tomorrow?

🎯 Actionable Steps:

1. Word Audit Challenge – Spend a day tracking how you speak about yourself and others. Are you reinforcing strength or weakness?

2. Emotional Armor Drill – The next time someone criticizes you, pause and remind yourself, “This is about them, not me.”

3. The Clarity Habit – If something feels off in a conversation, ask: “What do you mean by that?” rather than assuming.

4. Effort Over Outcome – Focus on process over perfection. Track effort, not just results, for one week.

True power isn’t about control over others—it’s about control over yourself. When you master your words, your mindset, your assumptions, and your effort, you become unshakable. The strongest warriors aren’t the ones who fight the most battles; they’re the ones who don’t have to.

🔥 Final Challenge: Choose one principle from today’s episode and apply it immediately. Mastery comes from action, not just knowledge.

💡 Core Message:The biggest lie weak men tell themselves is: "I’ll do it tomorrow." Strength isn’t about motivation—it’s about doing what you said you would do, every single time.

🔥 Quote: “Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.”

• Motivation Is a Myth – Most men wait until they “feel ready” before taking action. That’s why they never take action.

• Discipline Is a Muscle – The more you train it, the stronger it gets.

• Weak Men Negotiate With Themselves – When you set a goal and then “reconsider” when it gets hard, you are training yourself to be weak.

🚨 Callout: Are you the kind of man who does what he says—or the kind who makes excuses?

• The Shaolin Discipline Mindset – You don’t miss training. Rain, pain, exhaustion—doesn’t matter. You train.

• How to Eliminate Hesitation – The 5-Second Rule: If you hesitate on a task, countdown from 5 and move. Hesitation breeds weakness.

• Daily Rituals Over Big Goals – Instead of thinking “I need to get in shape,” set the rule: “I train every day. No exceptions.”

🚀 Takeaway: If you only act when you feel like it, you are ruled by emotions. Discipline makes you a man who rules himself.

• Pick one habit (workout, cold shower, journaling)

• Commit for 7 days—NO EXCEPTIONS

• If you fail, restart from Day 1

• Let me know how you are getting on

Final Takeaway:

Discipline isn’t about feeling like it. It’s about being the kind of man who follows through—no matter what. Every time you do what you said you would, you prove to yourself that you are in control. Every time you make an excuse, you prove to yourself that you aren’t.

The question isn’t: Can you stay disciplined? The question is: Who do you want to be?

📌 Core Message: A true martial artist seeks mastery over self, mind, and life—not just combat. Fighting is only one piece of the puzzle, but without wisdom, discipline, and control, it is an empty skill.

🔥 Opening Hook:"If all you learn from martial arts is how to punch and kick, you’ve missed the point entirely. True martial arts isn’t about winning fights—it’s about winning yourself. Being someone who can fight, but rarely needs to."

I got a comment on a video the other day that got me thinking about the difference between someone who lives the warrior path and someone who just practises aspects.

Talk about the time i walked the guy out the bar closed the door behind them

• Sun Tzu’s Art of War: “The greatest victory is that which requires no battle.”

• • What does that actually mean? It means the highest form of combat is avoiding unnecessary conflict altogether. A fighter only sees the opponent in front of him, but a martial artist sees the entire battlefield—including what lies beyond the fight.

• Mindset shift:

• • A fighter sees martial arts as a tool for combat.

  • A martial artist sees martial arts as a way of life.

• Example:

• • If fighting was the only goal, why would we spend hours every day in stillness?

🔥 Key Takeaway: Martial arts isn’t just about power—it’s about control, clarity, and purpose.

2. The Philosophy of True Mastery

• How ego and aggression limit growth:

• • A fighter wants to prove himself to others.

  • A martial artist wants to prove himself to himself.

• Balance is key:

• • Knowing when to fight, when to walk away, and when to lead.

🔥 Key Takeaway: The strongest warrior isn’t the most aggressive—he’s the most in control.

🔥 Challenge for Listeners:"Where in your life are you acting like a fighter, not a martial artist? Are you reactive, quick to anger, driven by ego? Or are you controlled, precise, and intentional? How can you shift your approach?"

🗡 Closing Quote:"The true warrior seeks peace—but is always prepared for war."

If you want to become stronger, more confident, and unshakable, you must kill the version of yourself that keeps you weak. You don’t "improve" the old you—you eliminate him and create a new identity.

• Identity Is the Root of Everything – You don’t act based on what you want—you act based on who you believe you are.

• The Addiction to Familiarity – Even when men hate their current life, they fear change more than they fear staying weak.

• You Are Playing a Role Without Realising It – From childhood, society and past experiences programmed you into playing a specific role. "The quiet one," "the nice guy," "the guy who blends in."

• Reinforcing the Old You – Every time you hesitate, back down, or avoid confrontation, you reinforce your current identity.

🚨 Callout: If nothing changes, nothing changes. The “you” of today cannot achieve the life you want tomorrow. He must die.

• The Viking Strategy – When Vikings invaded a land, they burned their own ships so retreat wasn’t an option. Victory or death.

• The Warrior’s Mindset Shift – You must make the decision that the weak, hesitant, avoidant version of you is dead. There is no return.

• Creating a New Identity – Instead of “fixing” yourself, you create a new standard.

• • Old You: Avoids confrontation → New You: Faces discomfort head-on

  • Old You: Seeks validation → New You: Validates himself

  • Old You: Waits for motivation → New You: Acts despite emotion

🚀 Takeaway: Your old identity has no power unless you feed it. From this moment forward, you act as the man you are becoming—not the man you were.

• Symbolic Death Exercise – Write a letter from your old self to your new self. List all the fears, weaknesses, and excuses you are leaving behind. Then destroy it. Burn it, rip it up, bury it.

• New Identity Creation – Answer this: Who is the man I am becoming?

• • How does he think?

  • How does he walk into a room?

  • How does he respond to challenges?

Daily Reinforcement – Every morning, read your new identity statement and act as if it's already true.