You might recognize this episode from earlier this year. As we looked back, it seemed like an important topic that doesn't get talked about enough. Maybe a sub title would be, "Journaling....it's not just for 12 year-old girls anymore". See what you think...

The Session: Journaling, A Helpful Treatment Strategy

Psalm 119:27

Cause me to understand the way of your precepts, that I may meditate on your wonderful deeds.

Journaling Helps

· It helps me see the ways that God's Spirit in me is producing growth over time.

· Journaling has become one of the ways that I best connect with God.

· Journaling helps me to persevere in the journey I'm on with Christ

· And it also helps me to open up to God. It helps me to be more honest with God and with myself.

Journal and personalize scripture

Related Scripture:

Psalm 86

1 Hear me, Lord, and answer me, for I am poor and needy. 2 Guard my life, for I am faithful to you; save your servant who trusts in you. You are my God; 3 have mercy on me, Lord, for I call to you all day long. 4 Bring joy to your servant, Lord, for I put my trust in you.

5 You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. 6 Hear my prayer, Lord; listen to my cry for mercy. 7 When I am in distress, I call to you, because you answer me.

Things to journal

When you need something to write in your journal, consider finishing one of the following 20 prompts:

1. This week I was most blessed by . . .

2. My favorite passage of Scripture is . . .

3. The area where I need to put more trust in God is . . .

4. One lesson I learned from Scripture this week is . .

What to Write

· All that's needed is your honest, authentic, vulnerable self willing to show up to the page and encounter the Holy Spirit.

· “Write what you see.”Write your life, your legacy, your prayers, your God-sightings, and everything in between in the pages of that journal.

Two Way Journaling

It is a way to write to God and record what you feel the Holy Spirit is saying to you in your quiet time. This journal is best for those who would like to begin the daily habit of spending meditative time with God and His word.

What would God say to you personally?

An Eeyore thought from Scott: All I see you saying is God, God, God. What if my life just sucks, and I don’t see any evidence of God anywhere? What’s the point of journaling for me? WHY would I want to write all my junk down to be reminded of it over and over again?

Ahhh....young love. Remember that first broken heart you had? Your kids will experience that for sure. It's how we help them as parents that can help them cope. That's what we cover in this episode.

The Session: Helping Teens Navigate Through The Tumultuous Teen Years And Dating…or, how to help your teen heal a broken heart…

Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained, But happy is one who keeps the Law. Proverbs 29:18 (NASB)

In 1991 86% of high school students were dating

In 2017 the number of high school students dating dropped to 51%.

The average age of getting married for women is 28 years old. For men, it is 30 years old.

Parents

We demand changed behavior and never address the heart that drives the behavior.

The child’s heart remains the issue. Let’s not forget the children want power.

When children cross boundaries they are trying to get their emotional needs of affirmation, identity, gratification, love, or commitment met. If they are not met in the family they will be met outside of the family.

Dr. Juli Slattery points out in Rethinking Sexuality,isn’t our sexuality so much more than rules—

God’s covenant love with His people isn’t He is after our sexual maturity and its lifelongintegration and reflection in our faith, rather than just virginity until marriage?

When our children’s values are more important to the parents than it is to their children, it won’t likely be successful.

It becomes more important to parents when there are strict rules and heavy authority.

Child ownership is created when parents spend their time building influence and a relational bridge with them.

Child, ownership happens when belief, and value is facilitated when parents focus on the vision of what they want to see your teens be rather than trying to prevent the things you don’t want that could come across as shame and guilt

Tom’s View

The answer to adolescent safe dating and adolescent issues are in developing a culture and environment that facilitates strong character.

• Be a good role model. Parents should model what they want to see happen with their children. Share what it means for you to have a relationship with Jesus and how important it is to you as a parent coping in every day life
• Apply biblical teachings to real life. An example would be when people are saying mean and hurtful things, they look at what does the Scriptures say about that?
• Catch them doing right and celebrate their success. The celebration of success can facilitate eight important emotional needs being met acceptance, attention, approval, affirmation, affection, encouragement, respect, security
• Get in their world. Help them focus on what they find to be interesting and meaningful and facilitate it happening more.

Important tips to be successful

• The family atmosphere and culture should be started as early as possible in the children’s lives. That could be pre-kindergarten.
• With the onset of pornography addiction being as young as eight years old it is recommended that no screens until a child is 14 and can show responsibility (a person‘s ability to respond)
• Put children in healthy and save situations and circumstances that will help them develop healthy character. As an example if basketball is a strong interest. Try to find an Upwards basketball league. They are Christian based leagues

Suggestions for safe and successful dating

• If your child is showing Good responsibility at age 15 group dates where parents drop them off and pick them off can be doable.
• Another suggestion could be inviting the date over for game night or a family fun night
• At 16 dating could be possible. Safety precautions could include a curfew and no sitting in the car after the date period of time.
• Developing rules should include the input of your children. That demonstrates ownership again. Potential rules could be; no alone time in a house. If parents aren’t home, the couple does not get together at that house. Another one would be no laying on the couch together.
• Dating continues as long as the teens can demonstrate a good ability to respond. (responsibility)

The heart is the total of soul. Conscious Mind make resolution thoughts, feelings, behavior, or choices, character develop.

What we believe affects our thoughts,

which affects our feelings,

which affects our choices.

This is the process of the heart.