It’s summer, and that means more time outside—and for me, that means time with trees. In this episode, I dive deep into how trees, those quiet giants of our world, can actually help us and our kids develop healthier minds and deeper self-awareness. I unpack some fascinating science behind what nature, especially time spent among trees, does for our brains, our stress levels, and even our test scores.

Inspired by Peter Wohlleben’s The Hidden Life of Trees, I explore not just the hidden life of trees, but the hidden life in trees—and what it can teach us about connection, cooperation, and the power of downtime. Whether you're a fellow tree-lover, a parent looking for ways to support your child’s mental health, or just someone who needs a reason to unplug and take a walk, this episode is for you.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] - Why we fall back into old habits and the launch of our new workbook, The Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child
[1:20] - Introducing the episode theme: my love for trees and what they offer us mentally and emotionally
[3:14] - What Peter Wohlleben teaches us about trees' communication, cooperation, and support systems
[5:55] - Why intergenerational connections matter—and how forests model this beautifully
[7:03] - Green spaces and mental health: insights from Denmark and beyond
[9:02] - Understanding the default mode network and why downtime is vital for brain development
[12:25] - How nature improves test performance: the Johns Hopkins study and real-life results
[14:30] - A personal story of helping a student prep for the ACT with a walk in the woods
[16:08] - The danger of overscheduling our kids and the need for daily unstructured time
[17:40] - My son’s dreamy daydreaming as a child and how it shaped his path as a composer
[18:50] - How to gently support kids in managing phone use and embracing digital downtime
[19:46] - Final reflections and a call to get out in nature and enjoy a moment of peace and connection

Links & Resources:

• The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben: https://www.peterwohllebenbooks.com/

· Article: "Rest Is Not Idleness" by Mary Helen Immordino-Yang: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26168472/

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Hey folks, Ned here. If you're anything like me, you're always curious about how the younger generation views the world we're handing them—including the phones we put in their pockets and the social platforms we love to worry about. In this episode, I sit down with two remarkable high school students, Ellie and Flair, to talk not just about screen time and school phone policies, but how they really experience technology, anxiety, education, and what it means to grow up today.

Ellie and Flair are bright, honest, and totally engaging. They bring a much-needed perspective on teen tech use, mental health, screen addiction, and the nuanced balance between connection and distraction. This isn’t a conversation about teens—it’s a conversation with them. You’ll walk away with new insight into what our kids are thinking and feeling, and hopefully, how we can better support them.

Episode Highlights:
[0:00] Welcome and an exciting announcement about the new workbook
[1:30] Ellie reflects on generational changes in parenting and tech use
[3:35] Meet our brilliant guests: Flair and Ellie
[5:16] What BCC High School is like—diversity, size, and school culture
[6:17] Launching into today’s topic: phones, social media, and school policies
[8:23] What “PMDs” are and how new rules are enforced (or not)
[10:49] Why students in advanced classes often self-regulate better
[12:03] Calling out the adult double standard in screen use
[14:05] Social media as both connection and distraction
[17:01] Doomscrolling vs. genuine engagement—mental health reflections
[18:17] The healing power of nature and how it competes with dopamine
[21:05] How overprotection in the real world may fuel under-preparation
[24:51] Discussing “The Anxious Generation” and parental fears
[27:52] Does banning phones really solve anything?
[29:11] Ellie gets real about anxiety, overdiagnosis, and support systems
[33:11] Why blanket policies don’t reflect lived experience
[36:16] Can schools craft phone policies with students, not just for them?
[40:58] On class, academic support, and how expectations shape outcomes
[45:56] Highlighting the MoCAT exhibit and teen voice in action
[48:34] Final reflections: What teens really need from adults

Links & Resources:

The Museum of the Contemporary American Teenager (MoCAT): July 2–7 on the National Mall https://festival.si.edu/2025/youth-future-culture/mocat

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Hey folks, Ned here! This episode is a continuation of our eye-opening conversation with Dr. Stuart Slavin, a pediatrician, medical educator, and mental health advocate who's making waves in education reform. We dive deep into the hidden stressors in elite academic environments and explore what happens when you challenge the status quo.

In Part Two of our discussion, Stuart unpacks his groundbreaking research on high-performing high schools and reveals the sobering mental health statistics that too often go unnoticed. We also talk about real, practical solutions—from pass/fail grading to autonomy-supportive school cultures—that can drastically improve students' well-being without sacrificing academic outcomes. It's a powerful reminder that doing well and being well don't have to be at odds.

Episode Highlights:

[1:54] - Welcoming back Dr. Stuart Slavin and setting the stage for Part Two of our conversation.

[3:38] - Why it's "and," not "or": unpacking social media's role in student stress alongside deeper cultural forces.

[6:31] - Eye-opening survey data from 18 high schools revealing staggering rates of anxiety and depression.

[9:25] - Students define themselves by grades; extracurriculars are no longer fun—they're just more stress.

[11:19] - The "free day" pilot at SLU: one day off every other week led to better mental health and test scores.

[13:32] - How principles from positive psychology boosted connection, meaning, and performance.

[16:33] - Letting go of false incentives: moving from extrinsic to intrinsic motivation through pass/fail reforms.

[17:53] - Challenges schools face in shifting culture and making bold changes.

[20:06] - Stuart's upcoming parenting book: offering families a saner, science-based path to raising healthy kids.

[22:56] - It's not just the kids: how we're all part of the system that's failing them.

[25:49] - Schools must redefine what makes them "good": test scores or student wellness?

[29:22] - Practical mental health tools: meditation, breathing, and cognitive restructuring.

[33:41] - Real-life stories from students who found unexpected joy outside the Ivy League.

[35:26] - The dangers of rigid, narrow goals and the power of reframing.

[37:21] - Autonomy, connection, competence: how self-determination theory explains what students need.

[41:09] - Schools can change—if they have the courage. The research is clear, the model is ready.

[42:33] - A challenge to school leaders: want to try this? We’re in. Let’s make it happen.

Links & Resources:

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