You had a good childhood.
No abuse.
No trauma.
Your parents loved you.

So why do you still feel stuck in your marriage?
Why do you react in ways you don’t like?
Why do you shut down, avoid, or panic when things get hard?

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how childhood coping strategies — even from loving families — can block connection and safety in marriage today.

What You’ll Learn:
✅ Why a “good childhood” can still leave emotional gaps
✅ How emotional needs get missed in well-meaning homes
✅ The habits you picked up to survive, not connect
✅ Why your reactions today often come from your past
✅ How to break old patterns and lead from strength

This Is for You If You:
🔹 Had a “normal” or “loving” childhood but still struggle in marriage
🔹 Feel confused by your emotional reactions
🔹 Shut down or avoid hard conversations
🔹 Get triggered when your wife pulls away
🔹 Want to stop repeating old behavior and start leading with calm

You’ll Walk Away With:
✔️ Clarity about where your reactions come from
✔️ A simple way to notice emotional gaps without blame
✔️ Steps to stop performing and start leading
✔️ Tools to meet your younger self with love and strength
✔️ Peace that comes from knowing you’re not broken — you’re ready to grow

📍 Need help with this?
Visit SecureHusband.com to book a free 30-minute call. Learn how to stop living from childhood habits and start leading yourself in marriage with calm, clarity, and strength.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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#EmotionalHealing
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#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
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#preoccupiedattachment
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All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

Do you feel like you're the only one trying?
Are you always the one who reaches out, starts the hard talks, and keeps the marriage going?
Does it feel like your wife just shuts down, pulls away, or avoids connection?

This is called the pursuer-distancer dynamic, and it’s common in struggling marriages. One person chases. The other runs. And both feel stuck.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
✅ Why one-sided effort creates stress and silence
✅ How the pursuer-distancer pattern starts and keeps going
✅ Why your wife pulls away when you try harder
✅ How to stop chasing without becoming cold
✅ What it means to lead with calm instead of anxiety
✅ Real steps to build peace, power, and connection

This Is for You If You:
🔹 Always bring things up and get shut down
🔹 Feel like she’s pulling away more each day
🔹 Want closeness but don’t want to feel needy
🔹 Are tired of feeling like the only one trying
🔹 Want to stop reacting and start leading yourself

You Will Walk Away With:
✔️ A clear understanding of the pattern you’re stuck in
✔️ Tools to stop chasing and start grounding
✔️ Steps to speak with strength, not pressure
✔️ A way to break the cycle without guilt or resentment
✔️ More peace — even if she doesn’t change right away

📍 Need help with this?
Visit SecureHusband.com for coaching that helps you build emotional strength, stop chasing, and feel calm even when your marriage feels distant. Book a free 30-minute consultation now.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom
#marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
#attachmenttheory
#attachmentstyles
#anxiousattachment
#preoccupiedattachment
#attachment
#avoidantattachment

All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

You want to feel close.
You want to speak your needs.
But every time you try, it backfires.

Maybe she pulls away.
Maybe you shut down.
Maybe you explode or say nothing at all.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains why you keep losing your voice — and how the wounded boy inside you might be in charge of your marriage.

What You’ll Learn:
✅ Why expressing needs isn’t the problem — your tone is
✅ How your inner boy learned to hide, hint, and hope
✅ What clear, calm, adult communication sounds like
✅ Why your delivery matters more than your words
✅ How to speak needs without losing peace or power

This Is for You If You:
🔹 Struggle to say what you want without feeling weak
🔹 Feel shut down, ignored, or like she never responds
🔹 Are tired of sulking, hinting, or guilt-tripping
🔹 Want to stop feeling needy and start leading with strength

Here’s What You’ll Walk Away With:
✔️ Tools to notice old patterns that keep you stuck
✔️ Simple steps to stop speaking from fear
✔️ Real examples of what secure communication looks like
✔️ A plan to take back your calm, your strength, and your voice

📍 Want help with this?
Visit SecureHusband.com for coaching that shows you how to speak clearly, lead with calm, and stop tying your worth to your wife’s reactions. Book a free 30-minute consultation today.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom
#marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
#attachmenttheory
#attachmentstyles
#anxiousattachment
#preoccupiedattachment
#attachment
#avoidantattachment

All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.