You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out.

You wonder:
“Does she even want me?”
“Is this pity sex?”
“Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what to do in that exact moment — when sex feels disconnected, and your mind starts to spiral.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why this hurts more than you expect
✅ What triggers the shame, anger, or sadness
✅ How to stop letting this moment define your worth
✅ How to stay calm and lead with strength
✅ When and how to talk about it later — the right way

Here’s what we cover:

Why this feels personal even if it’s not

How to notice the emotional spike without reacting

How to meet the younger part of you that feels rejected

What it means to stay present without performing

Why your calm leadership shifts everything — over time

This episode is for men who:
✔️ Feel confused or ashamed after “starfish” sex
✔️ Don’t want to guilt or pressure their wives
✔️ Want to feel strong and clear — even in hard moments
✔️ Are tired of building their worth on her response

You are not broken.
She is not your enemy.
And this moment doesn’t define your future.

You don’t have to collapse.
You can stay calm, grounded, and strong — even when connection feels out of reach.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Do you keep escaping into porn, fantasy, or daydreams about someone else when your marriage feels distant or disconnected?

You’re not alone.

But those escapes — while they feel good for a moment — are quietly making things worse.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we’ll show you how to stop numbing your pain and start healing your marriage, your mind, and your manhood.

In this video, you’ll learn:
✅ Why porn and fantasy are signs of deeper pain
✅ What you’re really trying to avoid
✅ How escaping kills real intimacy
✅ How to stop feeling ashamed and start feeling strong
✅ The step-by-step process to build a real life you actually want

You’ll also discover:

How to stop using fantasy to feel seen and wanted

How to meet the part of you that feels unworthy of love

Why your brain is craving control and comfort

How to create connection without pressure

What it means to show up whole — even when she feels distant

This video is for men who:
✔️ Struggle with porn, fantasy, or emotional escapes
✔️ Feel rejected, unwanted, or emotionally alone in their marriage
✔️ Want to lead themselves with clarity, strength, and truth
✔️ Are ready to stop escaping and start rebuilding real love

You don’t need to feel ashamed.
You don’t need to keep hiding.
And you don’t need fantasy to feel like a man.

You need to feel, heal, and lead from strength.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Do you feel jealous when your wife smiles at another man?
Or when she laughs at her phone and it’s not a text from you?
Does your mind go to:
“Is she pulling away?”
“Is there someone else?”
“Am I being replaced?”

You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
But you may be reacting from insecurity — not truth.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what jealousy really is, how to know if it’s real or just fear, and what to do about it.

What you’ll learn in this video:
✅ What jealousy actually means
✅ The difference between instinct and insecurity
✅ Why some men feel replaceable in marriage
✅ How to slow down and respond with calm, not panic
✅ How to build trust in yourself and your marriage

We’ll cover:

How to spot unhealed wounds under your jealousy

Why your reaction may come from fear, not fact

How to meet the part of you that feels “not enough”

How to talk to your wife without blame or control

What it means to lead from emotional strength

This video is for men who:
✔️ Struggle with jealousy but don’t want to be controlling
✔️ Feel anxious when their wife seems distant
✔️ Want to build trust without being needy
✔️ Are tired of spiraling every time they feel insecure

You don’t have to act from fear anymore.
You can respond with clarity and calm.
You can lead with strength — not control.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.