David and Rachel, hosts of Divorce Devil, reflect on their journey as they prepare for their 200th episode milestone. In this informal "episode 199.5," they candidly brainstorm ideas for the upcoming celebration and seek input from listeners. The duo admits feeling stuck in a creative rut and uses the episode to revisit the core purpose of their podcast: helping people navigate the challenges of divorce and relationships.

They reflect on the transformative nature of divorce, likening it to a form of grief or death, as individuals lose relationships, routines, and their envisioned future. Personal anecdotes highlight how divorce shapes relationships, friendships, and self-discovery. The hosts share their own struggles, including feelings of isolation, the difficulty of forgiveness, and the importance of personal growth. They emphasize the value of community, vulnerability, and finding new paths after divorce.

Acknowledging the diverse experiences of their listeners, David and Rachel invite audience members to suggest topics, share their own stories, or even ask questions for future episodes. They reiterate that while they are not therapists, their podcast serves as a therapeutic outlet and a space for shared healing. The hosts also stress the importance of embracing change, finding positivity in post-divorce life, and maintaining self-care—especially during the holidays.

The episode closes with a heartfelt message of gratitude for their listeners, a call for feedback, and a promise to continue evolving the podcast to meet the needs of their community.

They are asking for your help!!!

10 Key Points:

1. Divorce is a grieving process, akin to a death, with stages of healing.

2. The podcast aims to support listeners through various phases of divorce.

3. Personal growth and self-discovery are key themes.

4. Divorce impacts relationships, often leading to loss but also new paths.

5. Forgiveness and emotional healing are ongoing challenges.

6. The importance of community and shared experiences is emphasized.

7. The hosts encourage vulnerability and learning from others' stories.

8. Holidays can be challenging post-divorce; self-care is essential.

9. Listener input is crucial to shaping future episodes.

10. Gratitude and connection drive the hosts’ passion for the podcast.

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In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast (Episode 199), David and Rachel focus on navigating toxic relationships during divorce recovery, particularly with friends, family, and acquaintances. They discuss the importance of setting boundaries, owning your actions, and recognizing patterns of harmful behavior in relationships. David and Rachel emphasize the challenge of dealing with toxic family members, who often feel entitled to access and respect due to shared history. They argue that respect is earned, not automatically granted based on familial ties.

Rachel shares personal experiences about growing up in a toxic environment, dealing with narcissistic behavior, and breaking cycles of dysfunction. She highlights the importance of self-awareness and refusing to perpetuate negative patterns in relationships. David adds that healing requires reflecting on past relationships and learning to build healthier ones, while also detaching from toxic individuals who disrupt personal growth.

The hosts stress the need to avoid assumptions, take responsibility for one’s actions, and communicate clear expectations to others. They discuss how divorce reveals deeper issues in relationships and serves as an opportunity for personal growth. Ultimately, they advocate for prioritizing mental and emotional well-being over maintaining unhealthy connections, even if it means estranging oneself from family members.

The episode concludes with reflections on self-care, the power of boundaries, and the role of personal accountability in rebuilding after divorce.

10 Important Points from the Podcast:

1. Toxic relationships often surface during divorce recovery and require active management.

2. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional health.

3. Respect must be earned, even among family members, and is not automatic due to shared history.

4. Narcissistic and toxic behaviors can be deeply ingrained in families, but cycles can be broken.

5. Self-awareness and taking responsibility for one’s actions are essential for healing.

6. Divorce provides an opportunity to reassess relationships and personal values.

7. Assumptions and preconceived notions about others often lead to misunderstandings.

8. Communicating clear expectations helps others understand acceptable behavior.

9. Estranging from toxic family members can lead to greater personal well-being.

10. Self-care and prioritizing one’s emotional health are vital during divorce recovery.

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Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast, Episode 197, hosted by Rachel and David. In this heartfelt Thanksgiving Sunday special, we dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many going through divorce recovery: navigating new hurt after initially finding healing. Often, after surviving the storm of divorce, you can find yourself blindsided by fresh pain from unexpected places—relationships, friendships, or even family dynamics. In this raw, candid conversation, Rachel and David share personal experiences, humor, and insight about how to recognize, process, and heal from these moments of renewed heartbreak.

This episode, titled "Getting Hurt Again After Divorce Recovery", explores the challenges of managing betrayal, setting boundaries, and maintaining hope when faced with setbacks in your healing journey. Whether you're dealing with post-divorce friendships, toxic family dynamics, or rebuilding trust in new relationships, Rachel and David offer relatable stories and tools to help you navigate the complex emotions of recovery.

From practical advice to poignant reflections, this episode reminds listeners that healing isn't a linear process, and sometimes the hardest lessons come after the storm has seemingly passed. Join us as we unpack the steps to rebuild, reset, and reclaim peace in your post-divorce life.

Major Points Discussed in the Podcast:

1. Navigating New Hurt: The emotional impact of being hurt again after feeling like you've healed from divorce.

2. Recognizing Familiar Patterns: Identifying red flags in relationships or friendships and understanding their impact on your healing.

3. The Importance of Boundaries: How to establish and enforce boundaries with people who don't respect you.

4. Forgiveness for Yourself and Others: Understanding that forgiveness is for your own peace, not necessarily for reconciliation.

5. The Role of Healing in Setting Expectations: How healing can make you less tolerant of hurtful behaviors and help you prioritize your well-being.

6. Grief Beyond Divorce: Exploring the grief of losing friendships, family ties, or trust in others after divorce.

7. Choosing Your Circle: Being selective about the people you allow in your life and the importance of keeping your inner circle tight.

8. Processing Betrayal: How to manage feelings of betrayal when close friends or family let you down.

9. Hope vs. Cynicism: Balancing hope for better relationships while protecting yourself from being hurt again.

10. Reclaiming Control: Taking charge of your healing journey and focusing on what makes you happy, while refusing to tolerate disrespect.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone still navigating the ups and downs of post-divorce life and looking for actionable steps to rebuild trust and peace.

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Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast, Episode 197, hosted by Rachel and David. In this heartfelt Thanksgiving Sunday special, we dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many going through divorce recovery: navigating new hurt after initially finding healing. Often, after surviving the storm of divorce, you can find yourself blindsided by fresh pain from unexpected places—relationships, friendships, or even family dynamics. In this raw, candid conversation, Rachel and David share personal experiences, humor, and insight about how to recognize, process, and heal from these moments of renewed heartbreak.

This episode, titled "Getting Hurt Again After Divorce Recovery", explores the challenges of managing betrayal, setting boundaries, and maintaining hope when faced with setbacks in your healing journey. Whether you're dealing with post-divorce friendships, toxic family dynamics, or rebuilding trust in new relationships, Rachel and David offer relatable stories and tools to help you navigate the complex emotions of recovery.

From practical advice to poignant reflections, this episode reminds listeners that healing isn't a linear process, and sometimes the hardest lessons come after the storm has seemingly passed. Join us as we unpack the steps to rebuild, reset, and reclaim peace in your post-divorce life.

Major Points Discussed in the Podcast:

1. Navigating New Hurt: The emotional impact of being hurt again after feeling like you've healed from divorce.

2. Recognizing Familiar Patterns: Identifying red flags in relationships or friendships and understanding their impact on your healing.

3. The Importance of Boundaries: How to establish and enforce boundaries with people who don't respect you.

4. Forgiveness for Yourself and Others: Understanding that forgiveness is for your own peace, not necessarily for reconciliation.

5. The Role of Healing in Setting Expectations: How healing can make you less tolerant of hurtful behaviors and help you prioritize your well-being.

6. Grief Beyond Divorce: Exploring the grief of losing friendships, family ties, or trust in others after divorce.

7. Choosing Your Circle: Being selective about the people you allow in your life and the importance of keeping your inner circle tight.

8. Processing Betrayal: How to manage feelings of betrayal when close friends or family let you down.

9. Hope vs. Cynicism: Balancing hope for better relationships while protecting yourself from being hurt again.

10. Reclaiming Control: Taking charge of your healing journey and focusing on what makes you happy, while refusing to tolerate disrespect.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone still navigating the ups and downs of post-divorce life and looking for actionable steps to rebuild trust and peace.

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Welcome to the Divorce Devil Podcast with our dynamic duo, David and Rachel! Where the almost 200 episodes of wisdom, humor, and the occasional snow day rant converge into the perfect storm of post-marital hilarity. Picture this: David, the voice of reason, with a penchant for turning life's lemons into a comedy sketch, and Rachel, the fierce advocate of self-love, who can find joy even in a Colorado snowstorm - which is actually going on at this moment. Together, they tackle the chaos of exes, in-laws, and personal growth with the precision of a surgeon and the heart of a stand-up comic. Prepare to laugh, cry, and find your inner peace as they guide you through the maze of divorce recovery, one episode at a time. So grab your headphones and let David and Rachel remind you that even in the messiest of breakups, there's always room for a good laugh and a fresh start.

10 Important Points:

1. Set boundaries, don’t build walls.

2. Let go of toxic relationships.

3. Self-care is a priority, not a luxury.

4. Your peace is worth the fight.

5. Family can be toxic too.

6. Listen to your inner voice.

7. Object permanence aids emotional detachment.

8. You’re responsible for your happiness.

9. Reject unwanted negativity.

10. Embrace personal growth and healing.

These points encapsulate the essence of the discussion, encouraging listeners to focus on personal well-being, setting healthy boundaries, and finding humor and strength in their journey of recovery.

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Guest time! Welcome Junie Moon to the show. She is a Global Love Mentor, author, speaker and a Certified Shadow Work Coach. Her superpower is helping people unpack their past and move onto a better future. Discussions of the movie Ghost, unpack and heal from the past, risk manager, hopelessness, space junk and dating research. This is not an episode to miss, men and women. It was a fun podcast. Like a couple of friends having coffee. Thanks Junie, Jersey Gurl!

Topics of:

Fend off the Saber cats

Long term relationships

Relationship blueprint exercise

Fear of rejection and not being wanted

Let’s therapize David!

It’s a new chapter

Do the work

Release the past

We are not taught to do relationships well

Wired to stay safe

Next level love

Junie Moon’s Website

Junie’s Free Consultation

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In this episode of Divorce Devil, David and Rachel delve into the complexities of co-parenting and blended family dynamics. They discuss the challenges of introducing new partners into the parenting equation, the importance of setting boundaries, and the necessity of open communication. The conversation highlights the need for respect and understanding among all family members, emphasizing that both parents and children must navigate their roles thoughtfully. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to take ownership of their situations and strive for better relationships within their blended families. It probably won’t be a very Brady Bunch this Christmas!!

Takeaways:

Co-parenting requires clear boundaries and agreements.

New partners can complicate parenting dynamics.

Communication is essential in blended families.

Respect must be earned, not given.

Disrespect from children can be a significant issue.

Self-care is crucial for parents in new relationships.

Finding common ground is vital for family harmony.

Taking ownership of your role in family dynamics is necessary.

It's important to address issues before they escalate.

Navigating blended families requires patience and understanding.

Sound Bites:

"You can't let the feral kids screw up your relationship."

"The two people in the relationship have to have agreement and boundaries."

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In this episode, David and Rachel discuss the complexities of co-parenting after divorce, sharing both positive experiences and challenges. With concentrating on 5 negative and 5 positive things that involve co-parenting, they emphasize the importance of communication, understanding children's perspectives, and maintaining boundaries. The conversation highlights the emotional struggles parents face and the need to prioritize children's well-being over personal grievances. Through personal anecdotes, they provide insights into effective co-parenting strategies and the significance of loving children more than harboring resentment towards an ex-partner.

Takeaways:

Co-parenting requires a shift in mindset from spouses to co-parents.

Effective communication is crucial for successful co-parenting.

Children's emotional well-being should be prioritized above all.

Recognizing signs of anxiety in children is essential.

Setting boundaries helps maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship.

It's normal to feel overwhelmed and exhausted as a parent.

Children can adapt well if parents work together positively.

Past experiences can inform better parenting strategies.

It's important to be aware of children's feelings and reactions.

Co-parenting can lead to stronger relationships with children.

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