What makes a great partner, and how do you become one? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down the five essential relationship skills every couple needs to grow together, not apart. From emotional regulation to honest communication and conflict repair, they don’t just name the skills, they show you how to practice them every day. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing for one, this conversation offers the clarity and tools to stop guessing and start growing.

Show notes:
(3:06) The five skills preview
(7:01) Most people never learn this
(9:29) Why emotional regulation comes first
(11:35) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:00) How to communicate your needs
(14:25) The right way to repair conflict
(15:17) Why trust hinges on honesty
(17:19) What true self-ownership looks like
(20:08) Practice, not perfection
(21:10) Your reference group shapes your love
(22:49) Outro

Digital Asset:
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Is your partner really too different, or is that just the story you’ve been telling yourself? In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore what that phrase often hides: a lack of understanding, unresolved values, or a quiet cry for help. You’ll learn how to decode mismatches using the 25 Conscious Love Languages and uncover whether the differences in your relationship are deal-breakers or opportunities for growth. With real coaching stories and powerful insights, this episode is a must-listen for couples, singles, and conscious partners who want to build something real.

Show notes:
(3:27) The power of love language mismatches
(6:09) Core values Vs. Core conflicts
(9:16) When differences are actually deal-breakers
(11:54) The doom loop in relationships
(12:20) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(14:09) What “too different” really means
(17:52) Cry for help or emotional exit?
(20:59) Real integration requires mutual respect
(25:19) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet PDF - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view

Book a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:
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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Better love begins with knowing how we give and receive. In this intimate episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the five fight languages that quietly shape our conflicts and connection. With heartfelt stories and thoughtful insights, they reveal how our default reactions can create distance instead of closeness. You’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, respond with more grace, and build the kind of emotional safety that invites deeper intimacy and lasting love.

Show notes:
(1:48) Falling for potential in relationships
(5:28) Abuse, wake-up moments, and self-worth
(6:39) The HALT acronym and trauma responses
(10:23) The five fight languages explained
(12:21) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:51) Connection techniques for each type
(17:44) Fight Lingo Bingo and why it helps
(21:32) When effort feels one-sided in love
(24:52) Outro

Digital Assets:
Fight Lingo Bingo and Connection Techniques PDFs -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KItZLlDhMUdsqa1k1Z_QBjoGnoP491OV/view

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Book a FREE Relationship Talk Coaching:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us at Relationship Talks Event #48 on Thursday, June 19th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How To Determine Your Relationship's Commitment Level" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/gjK7xvmrR_OXIeq2toMH5Q#/registration

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___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!