If you’re a woman who feels like you’re performing, over-managing others’ comfort, or doubting your leadership instincts—this episode is for you. Krista and her colleague Barbs Edwards, introduce The Circle: a transformational women’s group experience based on T-Group methodology. Together they explore how this real-time relational practice helps women track their inner experience, speak with clarity and care, and break free from old patterns like people-pleasing, over-controlling, or self-doubt. You’ll hear personal stories, practical insights, and why collaborative, emotionally intelligent leadership is more needed now than ever.

(00:00) – Why women don’t have impostor syndrome—they have undervalued leadership styles

(02:13) – Guest Barbs Edwards

(05:21) – What is T-Group

(06:59) – Speaking only what’s true

(08:54) – Tracking yourself vs. managing others

(10:24) – Why this work helps women stop performing

(12:22) – Barbs’ personal story: finally shifting lifelong patterns

(17:05) – Krista’s journey through corporate gender bias and self-doubt

(21:37) – Real-time feedback: How others actually experience you

(34:07) – How The Circle accelerates growth

(36:17) – How to join a free Taster Circle (virtual or in-person)

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Resources Mentioned:

• The Circle For Women
• Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements

Get in Touch:

• The Art Of We Website
• The Art of We Instagram
• Integrative Psychiatry Institute

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In this honest and heartfelt episode of The Art of We, Krista and Will unpack the mindset shift that’s helping them meet uncertainty and stress with strength. Instead of reacting from “life is in the way,” they explore how choosing a “this is on the way” perspective changes everything, especially in partnership. From grief to bypassing to finding meaning, they share real tools and reflections for returning to a higher set point, together.

“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer

(00:00) Intro and relational check-in: chaos, uncertainty, & weird coping rituals

(03:35) Life update for our listeners

(05:55) How to stay aligned during life intensity

(06:42) From “in the way” to “on the way”

(08:04) Suffering & the narratives we choose

(09:15) Complaining & bypassing

(11:28) Emotional honesty & recommitting

(13:37) Respecting real grief & hardship

(14:45) Viktor Frankl, responsibility, & reclaiming narrative power

(16:07) What matters most in partnership

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Resources Mentioned:

● Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements

● Viktor Frankl Book

Get in Touch:

● The Art Of We Website

● TheArt of We Instagram

● Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Psychedelic Therapy Training

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In this episode of The Art of We, Krista is joined by longtime friend and renowned relationship coach Shana James for a candid, heartfelt conversation about cultivating deeper intimacy in partnership. From redefining what sex actually means to designing date nights that create more presence, pleasure, and connection — we talk about insights and tools that might just shift how you think about intimacy, sex, and what’s possible in your relationship. This episode is full of heart-opening perspectives on what it really means to be intimate with another human being.

“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer

(02:13) Welcome Shana James

(04:13) Impact of growing up without emotional intimacy

(06:42) The question that changed Shana’s client’s relationship

(07:02) What is intimacy, really?

(09:57) Shana’s 7-date night ritual

(12:15) Creating turn-on by removing pressure

(14:07) Practicing presence and attunement in intimacy

(17:46) Prioritizing intention for opening more possibility

(20:00) Perimenopause, stress, and shifting desire

(26:53) Breaking inherited relational patterns

(32:36) When your partner shuts down or isn’t growth-minded

(35:36) Calling your partner into their greatness

(43:33) Redefining sex

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Resources Mentioned:

• Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements
• Shana James’ Honest Sex Book
• Shana James Quiz

Get in Touch:

• The Art Of We Website
• The Art of We Instagram
• Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Psychedelic Therapy Training

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