Kelly explores the complexities of intimacy and sexual desire after becoming a parent. She discusses the common challenges parents face, including emotional distance, identity shifts, and societal pressures that can impact their romantic relationships. Kelly emphasizes the importance of self-connection and reframing intimacy, offering practical strategies for couples to rekindle their romance amidst the chaos of parenting. The episode is filled with insights on how to navigate the changes in desire and intimacy, encouraging parents to embrace their new normal and prioritize their connection with themselves and their partners.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to Brain Sex

01:44 The Reality of Sex After Kids

03:31 Understanding Changes in Desire

10:07 Reframing Intimacy Post-Parenthood

16:21 Practical Strategies to Rekindle Connection

Takeaways

• It is normal to have very little desire after having kids.
• Connecting with yourself is essential for intimacy with a partner.
• Intimacy after kids requires a redefinition of what it looks like.
• Parents often put themselves last, which affects their relationships.
• Embracing your new body and identity is crucial for self-acceptance.
• Quality time with yourself and your partner is necessary for rekindling romance.
• Seduction and intimacy can take on new forms.
• Communication about desires and needs is vital for a healthy relationship.
• Laughter can help ease uncomfortable conversations about intimacy.
• Reclaiming your erotic self is a journey that requires effort and patience.