One of the biggest burdens I was left with when Sam died is guilt. When we hold onto guilt for a situation we can not/could not solve, it's unreasonable and can also harm our healing.

In this Episode, I discuss why we need to challenge our guilt and rumination with reason and logic by talking about 4 ways/reasons that guilt can harm our healing and why it doesn't make sense to accept it. I also discuss 4 ways that I have discovered I can help myself when guilty feelings take over again.

Fortunately, if we take the right actions, we can confront our guilt, lessen it to a great degree, and perhaps one day even move past it. Thanks for listening.

When I lost Sam, I was determined to live through my grief the way I needed to and also that I would never go back and judge myself for it. I stand by that today. Recently, however, I was asked what advice I would give myself if I could talk to the back then.

In today's episode, I share 6 pieces of advice I would lovingly pass back to myself and anyone else who asked.

I watched a special on the Vietnam War recently and I was struck by the similarities between those parents, the ones whose kids were sent to fight the war, and us, whose kids fought the war here at home. (The war on drugs.) This episode is about those similarities.

Time doesn't heal all wounds, it doesn't even come close. What time does is dull the intensity for those further removed while living on forever in those of us up close. Before losing Sam, I had no idea how many people are so deeply affected by grief, now I see it everywhere.

The many past generations of unresolved pain, especially that of losing a son or a daughter, is something that I have never considered until now, because I didn't have to. I used to feel removed from mom's of the past but this one singular thread, losing a child, weaves us together through all time.

Specifics don't matter when you watch your child live a life of danger that you have no control over and no ability to stop. Unfortunately, epidemics and wartimes have negatively impacted the lives of parents and future generations since the beginning of time.

Thanks for listening.