In this episode, I’m joined by Kassandra and Kelsee — and while we set out to share our court stories and experiences with custody agreements… let’s just say, we take the scenic route getting there 🤭

From heartfelt moments to unexpected tangents, this is the kind of messy, real conversation that only happens when you feel safe enough to speak your truth — even when you don’t all agree.

This is part one of a multi-part chat (because we had a lot to say), and the full unedited version is already up on Patreon if you want the whole deep dive, sidetracks and all.

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What is it about sick kids that brings out the worst in co-parenting dynamics? In this episode, Jyl and I unpack the passive-aggressive texts, the missing thermometers at 2am, the drama over doctor visits, and the emotional load that so often falls on one household.

We also touch on how medication decisions, puberty, and step-parent involvement all get tangled up when communication breaks down.

Whether you’re navigating this as a bio parent, bonus parent, or both — you’re not alone. This episode is honest, a little chaotic, and full of those “yep, been there” moments.

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In this deeply honest episode, I sit down with Alex Willumsen — the voice behind Step by Step Brighton — a UK-based stepmum who supports women navigating stepfamily life, particularly those who are childless not by choice.

Alex opens up about the heartbreak of infertility, the emotional toll of raising someone else’s children, and what it’s like to be seen as a “mum figure” while silently grieving the child she never had. We also talk about identity, high-conflict bio mums, and the unspoken tension between biological and childless stepmums.

This episode is for any woman who’s ever questioned her role, her worth, or whether she belongs in the motherhood space.

💞 One step at a time, you will find your place.

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In this episode of Raising His Kids, Toni is joined by Veronica Grace Andrews—stepmum of over 15 years, former stepmum support group facilitator, and author of You Can Heal Stepmom Burnout.

We talk about the emotional toll of stepmotherhood, how to recognise (and recover from) burnout, and the importance of protecting your peace—especially when your role doesn’t always come with clear boundaries or recognition. Veronica also opens up about the unexpected challenges that can still show up after the kids are grown.

This one’s a must-listen for any mum in a blended family who’s ever felt overwhelmed, unseen, or just plain exhausted. You’re not alone—and you deserve to feel whole again.

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Ever wondered what would happen if a Karen and a Regina became friends? What if two women, with a complicated history and tied to the same high-conflict co-parent, put aside the past and chose peace, respect, and family?

In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Kassandra (you know her from We Are Familyish) and Kelsee—her partner in co-parenting and, yes, the ex-wife of Kassandra’s ex-husband.

Together, we talk about what it really took to move from mistrust to mutual respect, from surviving to thriving. We open up about our shared experiences with domestic abuse, how we found our way out, and what healing looks like while co-parenting through the chaos.

This isn’t just a story about high-conflict co-parenting—this is about growth, resilience, and choosing connection over competition. Oh, and did I mention? This episode is also full of giggles—our energy just bounces off each other.

If you’re walking this blended family roller coaster, this one’s definitely for you.

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In this episode of Raising His Kids, I’m joined by Summer Butler—author, speaker, and family coach—who’s dedicated her life to supporting kids and families navigating the blended family roller coaster.

Summer shares her heart behind her latest release, Blended: Navigating Life Between Two Homes, a workbook designed specifically for preteens navigating divorce, co-parenting, and life in two households.

We talk about the emotional toll of transitions, the things kids feel but often can’t express, and how parents can better show up for their children during these changes. Summer also opens up about her own journey growing up in a divorced home, becoming a stepmum, and raising two adult stepsons and an “ours baby.”

Whether you’re a bio mum, bonus mum, or somewhere in between—this conversation will leave you feeling encouraged and equipped to support your kids with more empathy, awareness, and heart.

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What does healing look like when you're still stuck co-parenting with your abuser? In this raw and honest conversation, Toni sits down with Vickie Lynn — survivor, coach, and fierce advocate for mums navigating high-conflict co-parenting with narcissistic exes.

Together, they explore the emotional roller coaster of trying to raise emotionally healthy children while protecting them from manipulation, smear campaigns, and trauma — all while being accused of being the “high-conflict” parent. Toni shares parts of her own story too, including the complex dynamics of raising a child who looks like your abuser, parenting as a survivor, and navigating a stepfamily full of tension and judgement.

If you're a mum trying to break generational cycles, protect your kids, and still hold space for yourself — this episode is a must-listen.

And for stepmums caught in the crossfire or unsure where they fit, this chat brings clarity, validation, and a fresh perspective on building bridges and setting boundaries.

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In this episode, Kassandra opens up about the challenges she faces as a military wife in a blended family. From managing a household alone while her husband is deployed, to navigating the complexities of parenting and step-parenting, Kassandra shares her raw and honest feelings about trying to balance it all. Tune in for a candid conversation about who really gets the final say in blended families when you're juggling multiple roles and responsibilities.

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