When you want something out of someone else, do you criticize them and tell them that they are wrong? Do you make sure that your tone is conveying disapproval? That they should be ashamed?
Hopefully you answered that with a resounding "no."
And why not? We know that our peers, our colleagues, our friends, our spouses and loved ones don't actually respond well to being shamed. That isn't the way that we "get" the behavior that we want from them. When we are at our best, we try to put ourselves in their shoes and understand why they are doing what they are doing and we make a request, kindly, from one adult to another.
Ideally.
Of course sometimes we pop off. And we generally don't get the response that we are looking for.
But what about with ourselves?
When you are trying to get something from yourself are you critical? Do you make sure that you point out that you are wrong? Do you talk to yourself with a disapproving tone or one that is full of disdain?
How is that working out for you?
What if you treated yourself like you would a good friend?
On this episode, we'll talk about why "making yourself wrong" isn't necessary for you to make a change that you desire and why it actually gets in the way.
Were you interested in that bookclub I mentioned in previous episodes but forgot to mention this week? We'll be reading Bittersweet by Susan Cain in July. You can save your place in the Facebook group by joining here.
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