How does shame from the past keep you back in life?

What about fears around re-doing something which was shameful?

Singing.

Dancing.

Standing on a stage.

Sexual expression.

Playing.

Creating something.

Writing.

Drawing.

Painting.

Innovation..

What if whatever you did doesn't really matter?

What if it wasn't that bad?

Can you forgive yourself?

Can you look at it with another lense?

Can you challenge your shames and fears?

What if people would find it funny and not irresponsible, out of control, stupid..

What if they would and you actually don't.

Can you let it go?

Move forward?

Find freedom?

Breathe.......

This is Magefølelsen Podcast, The Gutfeeling in English.

I am Therese Fallentin.

I am a previous People Pleaser, with a master of management science who has taken a deep journey into my right brain after becoming a grown up stuck in left brain control, fear and rigid plans. Now I am finding my way back into balance between mindfulness, flow, creativity, play, trust, hope, faith and creation, logic and making things happen.

I am a hard core Burner. I live and breathe the burn principles, not just at burns around the globe, but also in regular life.

https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/

Believing that the right and left go hand in hand and complement each other perfectly. When in balance and used with mindfulness and not force.

You find me on Instagram and LinkedIn here:

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/

Make yourself a good day, ya all.

Really, fuck janteloven and any other norm telling us that its not ok to like ourselves.

The only person who needs to like us, is us.

It's the most important relationship we have and at the core of any other relationship.

When we do not like parts of ourselves we will also push away people who does like these parts. Partners who like sides of ourselves we are ashamed of showing the world.

What we don't like about ourselves will stand in the way of our happiness.

So, please!

Dare to like yourself, even though others might not agree.

Even though others don't find you beautiful, smart, funny, you can still.

This is Magefølelsen Podcast, The Gutfeeling in English.

I am Therese Fallentin.

I am a previous People Pleaser, with a master of management science who has taken a deep journey into my right brain after becoming a grown up stuck in left brain control, fear and rigid plans. Now I am finding my way back into balance between mindfulness, flow, creativity, play, trust, hope, faith and creation, logic and making things happen.

I am a hard core Burner. I live and breathe the burn principles, not just at burns around the globe, but also in regular life.

https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/

Believing that the right and left go hand in hand and complement each other perfectly. When in balance and used with mindfulness and not force.

You find me on Instagram and LinkedIn here:

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/

Make yourself a good day, ya all.

What creates good sex?

Co- creation.

Most women have some kind of sexual trauma!

Feeling safe to be with whatever happens.

Ok to say no!

No pressure to have sex even though there is sexual energy and he gets a boner.

Confidence work,

Holding a rejection,

Accepting a sexual rejection,

Being with the inner child who cannot handle sexual rejection.

Being with discomfort of a no.

Rejection sucks, can we handle a no?

Vulnerable and scary initiating.

Meeting all vulnerability with love and compassion, also sexual interest, instead off fear.

Dealing with rejection.

Daring to reject and handling their reaction.

Don’t want to do something with someone who don’t want to do it with us.

Communication and being clear about what we ask for.

Stop assuming and start asking questions, specify, be curios, what do you want? Nothing or could you want something.

Exploring how to be me with you.

Dare asking questions, being vulnerable and sharing impact.

Being ok with other people’s feelings.

Your feelings aren’t my responsibility.

Community - a place where you can explore being more of you and evolve.

People we trust and who are there for us.

Feeling safe.

Support system outside our partnerships and families.

How to find the community for you?

Practice and show instead of explaining theories.

Sofia Su:

https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/

Magefølelsen & Therese Fallentin

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

Spirits or stuck energies?

Spirituality.

Understanding energy, what is it?

Meditation.

Finding time to get contact with our intuition.

Closed off or connected in surrendering?

Spirituality meeting business.

Trusting instincts without facts and understanding.

Magic happening from following intuition and Instinkts.

Believing in the flow of life.

Is Sofia a witch and what does that mean?

How to be a modern witch?

Power over our own lives.

Healing powers.

Co-regulation.

Connection to nature and darkness.

What feels right to me?

Finding our own truths.

What’s the worst thing that could happen by leaning into our own paths?

Allowing dislikes as a part of life.

Endemetriose - emotional causes?

Placebo or not, does it matter if it it works?

Helping people feel loved and worthy.

Manifestation.

Trauma triggers - not knowing what we want.

Trauma creating new trauma.

Tantric Tempels.

Sexual healing.

Being around sexual energy without engaging in it.

Feeling safe around and in sexual energy.

Learning to set boundaries and feeling the sadness, anger and fear from all off those times I didn’t say no.

Opening up to our boundaries in all aspects of life.

The world is scary when we don’t dare setting boundaries.

Having our own backs.

No it’s ok, I had worse.

Being scared off sexual energy from men.

Trust issues towards men.

Allowing others to do things with us that we don’t want.

Holding space for and supporting the feminine, instead of controlling and pushing to much on the feminine.

Healing trust issues with men.

Somatic therapy.

Ancestral trauma.

Creating our own fears.

Crossing our own boundaries and letting people step on my boundaries.

How to create safety for intimacy.

Trust created by asking questions.

Asking for consent for every step is sexy when you are confident and can handle a no.

Healing our trust issues.

It’s ok to go slow and for a man to prove that he is trustworthy.

The more you like someone the slower you need to move.

Having sex too early leads to bad sex because we aren’t ready to be vulnerable.

Sofia Su:

https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/

Magefølelsen Podkast:

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

Performance anxiety. How does it show up and how to break free.

How does performance anxiety stand in your way from being you and living the life you want to live?

Relationship between performance anxiety, trauma, ADHD, fawn and freeze.

Just do it. I can bet you that you won’t regret the times you tried something new, something a bit outside the comfort zone. The times you stood in fear and discomfort because you were super excited to get somewhere.

Sharing passions and dreams, and everything else close to our hearts, can bring enormous discomfort and resistance.

It’s where we are most afraid of rejection, judgement and criticism. So oftentimes we keep it for ourselves. Well hidden from the outside world.

Sometimes even more from our closest, because we couldn’t bear hearing that they don’t like or accept this side of us.

So we hold back.

Keep our babies safe.

We hide our softness and love.

What if we can find love for ourselves in every moment. Who I we are here and now.

And bring the heart into our conversations.

Start pulling people in, instead of pushing them away. Seeing cooperation instead of competition.

Seeing invitations, warmth, curiosity, love and connection by assuming the best about other people. Assuming that people can handle us and like us.

And that we can handle when they don’t. Because let’s be honest. Everyone dislikes and judges something about us. No one likes it all and wants to be with us 24/7 for the rest of their lives..

Even though they love us, likes us and wants to be our friends, partners and colleagues.

And still when they dislike us, they still want to have us in their lives. And if they can’t handle our inner truths, who we are underneath all of the walls and protection mechanisms, well, then maybe it’s not people we wanna have in our lives.

Let’s dare be soft and squishy.

Let’s see each other and find inspiration in each other. Co-create and find heartfelt connections where we often see competition, jealousy, criticism and judgement.

Let’s have trust and faith in ourselves and others.

Let’s learn to listen and invite people in. Be curious and create conversations. Let’s build connection where we often create disconnection and push people away.

Everyone is just a person, probably doing the best with what they know.

Let’s be compassionate, assume the best, give people the befit of the doubt, believe people are soft and squishy inside their hearts and try and understand where their love goes.

Let’s have the uncomfortable conversations and listen to what we disagree with. Let’s create conversations where we now have monologues.