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  • Emotional Debt: How Suppression Sparks Retaliation—and What to Do Instead
    2025/04/29

    In today’s episode, Martina dives deep unpacking how suppressing your true emotions can lead to that explosive “other side” — a reaction fueled by pent-up anger rather than empowered, integrated self-loyalty.

    Martina shares eye-opening research on how emotional suppression can heighten stress and even affect physical health, and she explains why retaliatory outbursts aren’t the answer.

    Key Points:

    • Understanding the buildup of “emotional debt” from constantly putting others first.

    • The difference between a reactive, vengeful response and the integrated, confident self that sets healthy boundaries.

    • Research insights, including findings on emotional suppression from the Journal of Psychosomatic Research, and how self-compassion can transform our response to conflict.

    • Practical strategies for expressing your needs before reaching the breaking point, so you can maintain your authenticity without burning bridges.


    Join Martina as she offers practical tips and heartfelt insights into breaking the cycle of people-pleasing, and reclaiming your power—before your “other side” has a chance to take over.

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

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    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    28 分
  • We Are Moving - Was California not the dream I thought?
    2025/04/24

    In this episode, Martina is sharing a big life update: she's moving again! But this move isn’t just about packing boxes and changing zip codes — it’s about alignment, manifestation, and what it really means to build a life that feels good and makes sense.

    Key Points:
    ✨ Why she and her husband are leaving California, despite the dreamy beaches and sunshine
    ✨ The surprising downside of living in a so-called “dream state”
    ✨ How their new destination is the exact place they’ve been manifesting for years
    ✨ A behind-the-scenes peek at what it's like to actually live in the U.S. as an expat
    ✨ And why letting go of life timelines might just be the secret to finally arriving

    Martina also opens up about the importance of authenticity — not just curated "realness," but the kind that’s sometimes messy, vulnerable, and unfiltered. Think of this one as a personal storytime with plenty of nuggets for your own journey.

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

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    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

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    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    33 分
  • Why I Fell Apart Before My Driving Exam – and What it Revealed about My Past
    2025/04/02

    In this episode of I Do Me, Boo, Martina gets raw and real about a deeply personal moment of dysregulation before a driving exam.

    What seemed like simple nerves quickly spiraled into something much deeper—old wounds from childhood, fears of judgment, and the pressure to never disappoint. As she unraveled what was truly happening, she discovered how past emotional experiences show up in unexpected moments, sometimes hijacking our present.

    Martina takes you on a journey of self-reflection, coaching herself through a moment of high stress, and realizing just how much of her inner dialogue was shaped by childhood criticism.

    This episode is a deep dive into emotional triggers, trauma responses, and how to navigate them with self-compassion.

    In this episode, Martina shares:

    • No US license for 4 years - Why she took 4 years to get her driving license.
    • The unexpected meltdown – How she found herself on the verge of tears before a simple driving exam.
    • The deeper layers beneath anxiety – Why her fear of failing wasn’t just about the test but rooted in a long-standing fear of being judged and criticized.
    • Unpacking childhood wounds – How growing up in a critical household, where praise was rare and judgment was constant, shaped her need for external validation.
    • The nervous system and trauma responses – How unprocessed emotions from childhood can manifest in adulthood, causing disproportionate reactions to seemingly small events.
    • The myth of ‘big’ vs. ‘small’ trauma – Why all trauma is valid, and how minimizing our own struggles by comparing them to others only suppresses healing.
    • Self-coaching through triggers – How she managed to regulate herself in the moment before her driving exam, shift her perspective, and move forward with courage.
    • The power of self-awareness in healing – How recognizing patterns from the past can help break the cycle of emotional reactivity and create healthier responses.

    This episode is for anyone who has ever felt blindsided by their own emotions, struggled with self-judgment, or wrestled with childhood wounds that still linger beneath the surface.

    Martina’s story is a powerful reminder that healing is not about erasing the past—it’s about understanding it, making space for it, and choosing to move forward with self-compassion.

    🎧 Tune in and let’s dive deep into the messy, beautiful, and oh-so-human experience of healing.

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

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    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

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    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    58 分
  • The Charismatic Way To Disagree: How To Build Bridges Instead Of Disharmony
    2025/02/25

    In this episode of I Do Me, Boo, Martina takes on a challenge we all face: disagreements.

    Whether it’s a workplace standoff, a fiery family argument, or a social media war of words, these moments test us—and most of us flunk the test.

    But what if conflict wasn’t about winning or losing? What if it became an opportunity to connect?

    Martina unpacks how shifting from defensiveness to curiosity can transform even the messiest disagreements into meaningful conversations. Here’s what you’ll learn:

    • How to approach arguments without fueling the fire.

    • A powerful mindset shift to ease tension and build trust.

    • Why thoughtful questions—not quick retorts—are the key to resolution, growth, and deeper relationships.

    Ready to handle disagreements with grace and curiosity? Tune in to this episode and learn how to stop proving your point and start making real connections.

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

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    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

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    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    16 分
  • #22 The Enigma Within: Decoding the Neuroscience of Self-Belief
    2025/02/11

    In this episode, Martina, will break down the biggest privilege you can claim: refusing to see yourself as less.

    Because how you see yourself? It shapes everything—the risks you take, the boundaries you hold, the opportunities you go for, and the way you show up in every room.

    When you believe you’re enough, you move differently. You stop hesitating. You stop seeking permission. You start owning your space.

    And the kicker? Science backs this up—your brain literally functions better when you trust yourself.

    Key Notes:

    ✅ Why confidence matters more than competence

    ✅ How self-perception literally rewires your brain

    ✅ The social conditioning that keeps women playing small

    ✅ How authenticity helps you break the “not enough” cycle

    ✅ Three simple ways to start shifting your mindset today


    Because the moment you stop second-guessing and start owning your space? Everything shifts.


    Hit play, and let’s get into it.

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

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    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

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    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    44 分
  • #21 Verbal Armor: How to Handle Verbal Jabs with Assertiveness
    2025/02/05

    In this episode, Martina will talk to you about handling ad hominem attacks with confidence that exudes loads of assertiveness while still staying kind and professional.

    Ad Hominem is those sneaky personal jabs people use to derail a conversation and put you on the defensive. Whether it’s disguised as a joke, framed as a concern, or an outright dig, these attacks are meant to throw you off your game. But not anymore.

    Here’s what you’ll learn:
    ✔️ How to recognize ad hominem attacks (even the subtle ones)
    ✔️ Why people use them and what they’re trying to do
    ✔️ The power move that keeps you in control of the conversation
    ✔️ Word-for-word responses to shut them down without getting defensive

    By the end of this episode, you’ll have the confidence to sidestep personal attacks, keep the focus on the real issue, and walk away knowing you owned that conversation.


    Let’s get into it!

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

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    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

    Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries.


    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    29 分
  • #20 The Day I Ditched Social Media Filters - and Found My Real Face
    2025/01/29

    In this episode of I Do Me, Boo, Martina gets honest about the day she ditched Instagram filters—and how it completely transformed her relationship with her natural face. Tune in as Martina:

    • Shares her raw journey from filter dependency to self-acceptance.

    • Explains why filters aren’t just altering faces—they distort self-worth.

    • Reveals shocking stats on how filters impact mental health and body image.

    • Talks about falling back in love with her “imperfect perfect” face.

    • Challenges listeners to join her in breaking the filter cycle.


    This episode is a call to action for women everywhere to embrace authenticity, redefine beauty, and show up unapologetically as their true selves.

    Ready to stay bold and unfiltered? Hit play!

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

    Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode.

    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

    Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries.


    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    22 分
  • #19 The One Snake Pit You Need to Avoid And Why This Could Cost You Everything
    2025/01/10

    In this episode, Martina takes you on a deep dive into the one pitfall that can quietly sabotage your life: self-ignorance.

    She’ll explore how ignoring your values, integrity, and inconvenient truths leads to resentment, disconnection, and a life that feels out of sync with who you are.

    This conversation is a wake-up call to reclaim your authenticity, confront your blind spots, and align with your true self—because the cost of not doing so is too high.

    Key Points:

    • The Real Danger: Why self-ignorance, not external obstacles, is the biggest threat to living a fulfilled life.


    • The Cost of Blind Spots: How avoiding your truths leads to burnout, resentment, and misaligned choices.


    • The Power of Integrity: Knowing your values is the key to unshakable confidence and agency.


    • Courageous Questions: The tough, transformative questions you need to ask yourself to live authentically.


    • Living in Alignment: How embracing self-awareness and integrity unlocks a life of meaning and fulfillment.

    Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!

    Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode.

    Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.

    Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries.


    Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

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    18 分