What happens when the system you trusted no longer fits? When your body says no—but the world says yes?

In this episode of Happily Ever After.. What Now?, I’m joined by Denise Graham, an In-Bodied Horsewoman, movement medicine artist, and founder of Embody the Herd. We explore what it means to truly trust your body wisdom which is key to reconnect with your body, break free from outdated systems, and reconnect with the wild, wise, full-colour version of yourself.

Denise doesn’t just teach embodiment—she lives it. After leaving her career in mainstream education, she followed her body’s knowing toward a life grounded in somatic awareness, nature-based learning, and the deep, honest feedback loop of horse herd dynamics.

If you’ve ever felt like your life has lost its colour or you’re navigating a “what now?” moment of your own—this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

💬 In this episode, we talk about:
- Denise’s “What Now?” moment during the COVID mandates—and how her body led the way
- What horses can teach us about emotional integrity and nervous system regulation
- Why communication starts with the body (not the mouth)
- How Denise supports women experiencing burnout, disconnection, and deep transition
- The philosophy behind her Nature School and why kids (and adults) need unlearning too
- Reclaiming your body wisdom—through movement, cycles, and embodied boundaries as well as how to listen to your body
- Her best and worst advice (spoiler: follow the feel might change everything)

00:00 Introduction: When Life No Longer Fits
00:23 Meet Denise Graham: Embodiment Coach and Horse Wisdom
02:29 Denise's 'What Now' Moment: A Personal Transformation
05:21 The Wisdom of Horses: Healing and Embodiment
13:52 Practical Embodiment: Daily Practices and Insights
23:55 Nature School and Unlearning: Trusting Ourselves
33:53 What More Women Need to Know
37:39 Final Thoughts and Advice: Follow the Feel

Connect with Denise Graham:
Want to learn more about Denise’s work or join her women’s circles?
You can find her here:
🔗 Website: www.embodytheherd.com
📸 Instagram: @embodytheherd
📘 Facebook: facebook.com/embodytheherd

When you're ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are 3 ways I can help you get there faster:

1. Want to binge watch some personal development? 💥
Keen for more real talk and stories about “what do I do now?” Click to Subscribe to Kiri's Content on YouTube.
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2. Ready to bring back your colour? ✨
Start with the Free ReCreate Ritual PDF— a 10-minute reset to help you feel more like you again.
Download the ReCreate Ritual at: https://recreateritual.com/
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3. Want to talk it through over a virtual cuppa with someone who gets it? ☕
Sometimes a real conversation makes all the difference. Let’s chat about what’s on your mind.
Book your free Coffee Chat at https://www.kirihoney.com/coffeechat

Positive Body Image and Sexual Trauma Healing with Nikki Lanchbery.

What happens when the fairytale ends and you're left holding the pieces of a story you never asked for? In this episode of 'Happily Ever After... What Now?', host Kiri Honey, a communication coach and creative guide, chats with Nikki Lanchbery, a Yogi, Body Acceptance advocate and founder of @invitethecalm

Nikki shares her journey of overcoming trauma, particularly sexual assault, and how she helps others reconnect with their bodies through yoga, mindfulness, and compassionate community.

We discuss the challenges of body acceptance, the impact of societal beauty standards, and practical steps for navigating life after trauma.

Nikki offers insights into her personal experiences and provides actionable advice for those struggling with self-blame, anger, and the journey toward self-love and body positivity.

00:00 Introduction to Today's Topic
00:11 Meet Nikki Lanchbery: Yogi and Advocate
01:52 Nikki's Journey to Body Acceptance
02:04 The Concept of Clothes-Free Communities
05:20 Challenging Beauty Standards
10:45 Navigating Sexual Assault: Nikki's Story
25:04 Navigating Emotions: Healthy Practices
25:46 Embodiment Practices for Self-Acceptance
27:39 Rest and Nourishment: Key to Healing
27:57 Invite the Calm: Overcoming Trauma
31:39 Reclaiming Joy and Pleasure
39:35 Best and Worst Advice: Personal Reflections
42:46 Body Acceptance and Self-Love
47:48 Final Thoughts and Farewell

📖 Read Nikki’s Blog Post mentioned in the video here: https://www.invitethecalm.com/post/seeing-yourself

If you’d like to learn more about the Retreats Nikki runs visit: https://www.invitethecalm.com/retreats

Follow Nikki @invitethecalm on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@invitethecalm
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When you're ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are 3 ways I can help you get there faster:

1. Want to binge watch some personal development? 💥
Keen for more real talk and stories about “what do I do now?” Click to Subscribe to Kiri's Content on YouTube.
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2. Ready to bring back your colour? ✨
Start with the Free ReCreate Ritual PDF— a 10-minute reset to help you feel more like you again.
Download the ReCreate Ritual at: https://recreateritual.com/
OR
Experience the ReCreate Ritual yourself inside the Masterclass at: https://www.kirihoney.com/recreatemasterclass
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3. Want to talk it through over a virtual cuppa with someone who gets it? ☕
Sometimes a real conversation makes all the difference. Let’s chat about what’s on your mind.
Book your free Coffee Chat at https://www.kirihoney.com/coffeechat

Welcome to Season 2 of Happily Ever After.. What Now?

In this episode, host Kiri Honey explores the complex world of dieting, food relationships, and body image with expert guest Lauren Leitner, a certified health and wellness coach.

Lauren shares her personal journey from restrictive eating, food guilt, and body shaming to finding freedom through plant-based nutrition, mindfulness, and movement.

The discussion sheds light on why traditional diets fail, how to build a joyful and sustainable relationship with food, and the importance of embracing change with curiosity and compassion.

They delve into practical tips for reconnecting with your body, experimenting in the kitchen, and fostering a positive mindset. This episode is a must-watch for anyone tired of the diet cycle and ready to reclaim their health and happiness.

Want to learn more from Lauren Leitner? Download her free guide to Unlock Body Confidence at https://laurenleitner.com/pwr-free-guide/

When you're ready to reconnect with your colour and creative spark, here are 3 ways I can help you get there faster:

1. Want to binge watch some personal development? 💥
Keen for more real talk and stories about “what do I do now?” Click to Subscribe to Kiri's Content on YouTube.
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2. Ready to bring back your colour? ✨
Start with the Free ReCreate Ritual PDF— a 10-minute reset to help you feel more like you again.
Download the ReCreate Ritual at: https://recreateritual.com/
OR
Experience the ReCreate Ritual yourself inside the Masterclass at: https://www.kirihoney.com/recreatemasterclass
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3. Want to talk it through over a virtual cuppa with someone who gets it? ☕
Sometimes a real conversation makes all the difference. Let’s chat about what’s on your mind.
Book your free Coffee Chat at https://www.kirihoney.com/coffeechat