Last episode, we explored the ‘sacred’ and ‘trust’ categories of the Boundary Pyramid, those relationships that are closest to us, the people that we turn to for emotional safety, deep connection, and shared vulnerability. But what about everyone else?

This week, we're stepping into the category where most of your relationships will live: ‘shared interest.’ This is the most commonly used part of the pyramid and also the most misunderstood and confusing, so I’m giving you nine principles to help you navigate the tricky middle ground between closeness and distance.

If you're someone who struggles with ‘How much do I give in a relationship?’ ‘What am I supposed to expect or allowed to expect?’ ‘Why does this relationship feel so confusing?’ This episode is definitely for you.

Resources

Boundary Pyramid Workbook

Boundary Pyramid Graphic

Website: robinbreckenridge.com

Instagram: @coachwithrobin

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Last week, I introduced you to the Boundary Pyramid, a big-picture framework designed to help you navigate emotional access and protect your peace in relationships. Now, it’s time to zoom in closer on each of the five levels, starting with the top two categories of ‘sacred’ and ‘trust.’

This episode, I’ll guide you through what it feels like to live inside these two categories where your most vulnerable and expansive relationships belong, and help you discern who truly fits there.

When you have clear, grounded expectations of people, you experience more peace, more clarity, and less emotional reactivity in your relationships. It's not about lowering your expectations, it's about aligning them with the capabilities of those in your life.

Resources

Boundary Pyramid Workbook

Boundary Pyramid Graphic

Website: robinbreckenridge.com

Instagram: @coachwithrobin

TikTok: @robinbreckenridge

YouTube: @growwithrobinbreckenridge

All relationships go through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. If you’ve never had healthy boundaries modeled for you, however, you likely find yourself either staying in relationships far too long, or on the flipside, cutting people off at the first sign of disharmony.

Even if you’ve done a lot of healing work, you might still be confused about who belongs where in your life. That’s why I’m introducing you to The Boundary Pyramid, a system I created and modified out of necessity, first for myself and then for my clients.

The Boundary Pyramid gives you a clear, flexible framework to place people in your life based on their behavior and level of emotional safety, rather than on love, guilt, obligation, or potential. If you want to stop asking “is this okay?” and start asking “what’s in alignment for me?”, this introduction to boundaries is the place to begin.

Resources

Boundary Pyramid Workbook

Boundary Pyramid Graphic

Website: robinbreckenridge.com

Instagram: @coachwithrobin

TikTok: @robinbreckenridge

YouTube: @growwithrobinbreckenridge