Episode Overview:

In this episode, Andrew and Catherine explore the concept of detaching from outcomes and how this practice can lead to greater peace, trust, and curiosity in life. They discuss how our expectations can drive our reactions to life events, how to shift your mindset from controlling outcomes to embracing what unfolds, and why doing so can actually lead to more fulfilling experiences. Detaching from outcomes isn't easy, but it’s a powerful tool for growth and acceptance.

Key Topics Covered:

• Understanding how our ego and expectations shape our reactions to outcomes.
• Viewing outcomes as neutral, rather than right or wrong.
• Learning to see everything that happens as valuable feedback or information, rather than a failure.
• How to shift from trying to control outcomes to embracing uncertainty and letting life unfold.
• The importance of staying curious and positive, even when things don’t go as planned.
• Real-life examples of how detaching from outcomes has led to positive changes and unexpected opportunities.

Actionable Steps for Listeners:

1. Shift Your Perspective: Start viewing outcomes as neutral. Instead of labeling things as good or bad, see them as feedback that can lead to growth.
2. Let Go of Control: Recognize that you cannot control everything, but you can control how you respond to events. Try to embrace the flow of life and trust that things are unfolding as they should.
3. Practice Curiosity: When things don’t go according to plan, ask yourself, “Why is this happening for me?” This can help shift your mindset and open you up to unexpected opportunities.
4. Take Pressure Off: Let go of the need for a specific outcome. Instead, focus on doing your best in the present moment without worrying about how things will turn out.
5. Reflect on Past Outcomes: Think back to a time when an outcome didn’t go as expected, and reflect on how that situation led to something better or more meaningful.

Quotes:

• “Everything is happening for you, not to you.” – Andrew Dewar
• “When you detach from outcomes, you open yourself up to surprises and better opportunities.” – Catherine Collins
• “Your power lies in how you interpret the outcome, not in controlling it.” – Andrew Dewar
• “Life is about the journey, not the destination. Detaching from outcomes helps you enjoy the ride.” – Catherine Collins

Catherine’s Aha Moments:

• Realized that detaching from outcomes allows for more peace and less stress. She shared how this shift has helped her be more relaxed and less focused on achieving specific goals.
• Reflected on her growth in parenting and how letting go of the need to control every detail has led to more freedom and happiness for both herself and her children.

Andrew’s Aha Moments:

• Acknowledged how much of his life was spent trying to control outcomes, and how shifting to a mindset of curiosity and openness has brought him more joy and less frustration.
• Learned that detaching from outcomes can actually enhance the process, making life feel less like a battle and more like an adventure.

Glimmers of the Week:

Andrew:

Celebrated the shift toward a more consistent attitude of gratitude, appreciating every moment and embracing the flow of life.

Catherine:

Enjoyed the creative process with her daughter, coloring and making art together as a way to unwind and enjoy the present moment without any expectations.

Resources Mentioned:

• Ask for This or Something Better (Principle discussed in...

In this episode, Andrew and Catherine discuss the transformative process of letting go and moving on from the things that no longer serve you. They explore both big and small shifts—whether it's relationships, career choices, or personal habits—and share personal stories and insights about the discomfort of change. The conversation offers valuable tips on embracing new identities, letting go of familiar but unhelpful things, and stepping into a more purposeful life.

• The discomfort of letting go and the comfort of staying in the same place
• The myth of normal and the challenges of moving toward something better
• How to identify what’s no longer serving you and create space for growth
• The role of small, consistent changes in the process of moving on
• Personal transformations in health and mindset as examples of letting go
• The power of envisioning your future self and living in alignment with your true purpose

1. Identify What's Holding You Back: Take a moment to reflect on the areas in your life where you're holding on to things, people, or habits that no longer serve your growth.
2. Create a Vision for Your Future: Imagine what your ideal life looks like. What would it feel like to move on from the old and step into something new?
3. Take Small Steps Toward Change: Rather than making drastic moves, start with small, manageable steps that align with your vision.
4. Embrace Discomfort: Understand that discomfort is a natural part of growth. Get curious about the new experiences that await you.
5. Let Go to Make Space: If something no longer fits or serves you, don’t be afraid to shed it, even if it’s familiar and comfortable. Your future self will thank you.

• “Letting go can be uncomfortable, but it’s necessary for growth.” – Andrew Dewar
• “We all go through life changes in different stages, and that’s the point where you just have to give yourself permission to grow.” – Catherine Collins
• “Sometimes, moving on requires you to take a step back before you can move forward.” – Andrew Dewar
• “You get to decide what success looks like in your life.” – Catherine Collins

Catherine’s Aha Moments:

• Realized that when you shed an old version of yourself, it’s often a sign of leveling up. She shares how stepping back and prioritizing health allowed her to grow into a new, more balanced version of herself.

Andrew’s Aha Moments:

• Reflecting on the concept of comfort vs. growth, Andrew highlights that holding on to the familiar can actually hold you back from becoming the best version of yourself.

Andrew:

Reflects on the kindness and support from friends during his son’s hockey accident and the overwhelming outpouring of love, which reminded him of the importance of community.

Catherine:

Had a beautiful moment with her twins at lunch, making memories before their birthday, and reflecting on how quickly they are growing.

• The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté: Link to Amazon

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In this episode, Andrew and Catherine discuss breaking negative patterns in life and changing habits that no longer serve us. They explore how awareness and curiosity help us understand our actions.

They share examples from relationships, finances, and daily routines. The conversation offers insights on how to interrupt old habits and reprogram our behavior for lasting change.

• Recognizing repetitive cycles in daily habits and broader life patterns
• The importance of self-awareness and curiosity in breaking negative cycles
• Identifying triggers that lead to unwanted behavior
• Strategies for interrupting patterns and reprogramming your mindset
• Personal examples related to finances, dating, and work routines

1. Practice self-awareness: Reflect on your daily habits and notice repetitive patterns.
2. Embrace curiosity: Ask yourself why you make certain decisions and what emotions follow.
3. Identify your triggers: Observe the feelings and physical responses that occur in familiar situations.
4. Interrupt negative patterns: When you notice a habit emerging, choose a different action.
5. Be consistent: Understand that creating new neural pathways takes time and repeated effort.

Andrew: "Breaking a cycle begins with awareness. When you see the pattern, you can choose a new path."

Catherine: "Be curious about your actions. Instead of feeling broken, ask why you do what you do and learn from it."

• Andrew: Shared his excitement about a new puzzle table. It has become a self-care tool that brings him joy and renews his energy.
• Catherine: Enjoyed a few warm days in Chicago. The gentle shift in weather brought a sense of renewal and hope.

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Thank you for tuning in. Remember that breaking the cycle begins with awareness and a willingness to change. Reflect on your patterns, ask questions, and allow yourself the joy of transformation.