In this episode of Family Matters with Instructor Mike, we explore a simple but powerful life skill: understanding the difference between a choice and a decision. Many adults were never taught this — and their children aren’t either. But if we want to raise emotionally intelligent, thoughtful kids, this is one of the most important lessons we can give them. You’ll learn how to break it down in ways that children of all ages can understand — from toddlers to teens — and why this single distinction can change the way your child approaches life’s challenges.

We tell children to listen—but are we even modeling what good listening looks like? In this eye-opening episode, Instructor Mike explores the research showing that American adults listen with only 25% efficiency… while expecting children to do better. Why the double standard? Why are we demanding a level of attention from children that we, as adults, often fail to give?

This episode breaks down the psychology, cultural conditioning, and emotional modeling behind active listening, revealing how kids internalize the experience of being ignored—and how that shapes their ability to truly listen to others.

If you’re a parent, teacher, or anyone raising the next generation, this episode will challenge you to stop expecting what you haven’t taught and start practicing what you preach.

In this eye-opening episode, Instructor Mike breaks down the hidden dangers of speaking too freely in the pediatrician’s office — especially for parents of Black and brown children. When you’re stressed, overwhelmed, and just trying to get help, your words may be recorded as “evidence” that can later be used to justify special education classification, emotional disturbance labels, or even medication — without your full understanding.

Mike exposes how school systems, legal teams, and funding pipelines can weaponize your honesty into a long-term educational label. He also gives practical language swaps and strategic tips to help parents advocate for their children without unintentionally writing a damaging narrative.

If you’ve ever said “He’s out of control” or “She doesn’t listen” in a doctor’s office, this episode is for you. Learn how to speak truth with protection — and why every word you say about your child matters more than you think.