You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out.

You wonder:
“Does she even want me?”
“Is this pity sex?”
“Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what to do in that exact moment — when sex feels disconnected, and your mind starts to spiral.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why this hurts more than you expect
✅ What triggers the shame, anger, or sadness
✅ How to stop letting this moment define your worth
✅ How to stay calm and lead with strength
✅ When and how to talk about it later — the right way

Here’s what we cover:

Why this feels personal even if it’s not

How to notice the emotional spike without reacting

How to meet the younger part of you that feels rejected

What it means to stay present without performing

Why your calm leadership shifts everything — over time

This episode is for men who:
✔️ Feel confused or ashamed after “starfish” sex
✔️ Don’t want to guilt or pressure their wives
✔️ Want to feel strong and clear — even in hard moments
✔️ Are tired of building their worth on her response

You are not broken.
She is not your enemy.
And this moment doesn’t define your future.

You don’t have to collapse.
You can stay calm, grounded, and strong — even when connection feels out of reach.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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